Relationship over and 5 month old plus pregnant

[lesleyann23]

Well its a long story but me and oh got married a month ago some stuff happened and now I can't trust him and know I have to leave, I can't kick him out as he would have to move miles away to his parents and I can't do that as his ex moved 300 miles away recently with his other son and he is an amazing dad my boy needs him and he needs Lo. If I move I will have to go to my mums 1 bed house and feel it would be unfair and Lo would be better off with him but I can't leave him. It would only be until I get things sorted but if I'm honest I love my husband how can I break his heart by walking away with his child. I can't be in this relationship but I just don't know what to do. I know he's hurt me but that's not the same. I'm so confused and just needed to talk to someone and figured you guys might have some advice.

 

[Corrinne37]

It sounds like you don;t really want him to leave him.
What did he do? Is there no way that you can start to sort things out?
Can he not stay at a mates for a week or two to give you time to think about what you really want?
xx

 

[Sleepy sue]

How about relate counselling I'm sure you get referral from gp. Hope you work things out you obv still love him x x

 

[lesleyann23]

I don't want to leave but to cut a long story short he was chatting to a girl on MSN which was fine till I found pics of her, he stopped talking to her and promised there was no pics of anyone then a few months later I found old pictures of his ex now I found some more pics of a girl he says were on his laptop from ages ago but I know he formatted it so there was nothing. I don't trust him at all now I don't know who she was he says he doesnt. I don't believe him anymore I heard it too many times and can't help but thing its cos of my size, I was slim till he got me pregnant. I feel iv given him too many chances and if I give him another he will just think he has got away with it. If we spend some time apart I know I won't have him back cos I won't trust him while we are apart. As for going to docs my doctor's are terrible getting an appointment is a nightmare and they are usless but can't change because that will mean changing midwifes and I had her with my first and she is amazing.

 

[kirstymichelle]

Relate sounds like the best possible thing , pictures are not something to let a marriage end for, you need to talk but it needs to be guided if he's cheated its a different story but peolpe still make it work after that , if you love him you owe it to yourself to try counselling x