Really desperate! Please help!

[MissThing]

Hi girls!

Daniel started to wake up in the night AGAIN! If anybody knows my story he wasnt sleeping up until 13 months old. I was emotional and physical wreck. It was BAD. Then we reached the point when it waseither we make him sleep or I am going crazy, so tried controlled crying and after a week it worked. From a VERY poor sleeper he started sleeping 7.30 (with another dream-feed bottle at 11) till 7, 7.30 and sometimes even 8.30. With a great big nap during the day as well.

Well, our happiness wasnt long! He started to wake up during the night again! He just screams there untill I go and try to calm him down. Usually it doesnt work and my DH has to get up. (with me he just wants to be held and as soon as I put him in a cot he goes mental. DG has some sort of calming effect and eventually he manages to get him to sleep by just being there).

Then he wakes up at 6 -6.30 and thats the start of the day! (before, if he used to wake up that early he would just happily play in his cot).

During the day (before he used to have his lunch at 11.30 and then sleep from 12!! till 2, 2.30!!!), now he sleeps from 12 if I am lucky till 1.

I really dont know what to do. This is continuing for 2 weeks now. And I dont like the person I am becoming. I snap on him during the day, have no patience whatsoever (sp?). And I am TIRED all the time!!

We satrted TTC nr 2 thinking that now when Daniel is finally in the routine we will manage. But now I am dreading if I am already pregnant.

He also became more clingy during the day.

I sort of have few thoughts on why this might be happening. 1st is it just became colder outside, so maybe its affecting him? 2nd. my DH sister and her friend came to stay with us and they were staying right next to Daniel's room. So maybe they woke him up one night and he is just scared now (doesnt explain the bad sleeping during the day). 3rd - right about 2 weeks ago we all went throught the terrible flu including Daniel. So maybe this affected him?

I really dont know what to do. I know that I have to try controlled crying a bit more, but its just soooooo hard!!

I noticed that there are a few of us here with similar problem, so maybe indeed its a weather?
I was finally going to go swimming with him today but now its out of question!

I cant believe that after all that trying we are still at the same point as a year ago!

 

[Lou]

Isaac goes through phases of waking in the night and sleeping in the day. He rarely sleeps through the night without waking for diferent reasons like his quilt has come off or he needs a drink or he wants a cuddle. I find the only time he is truly out for the count is when we've had a very busy day before and he has done lots, got lots of fresh air and worn himself out.

Hope things improve for you

 

[newmum]

We've just had two weeks of bad nights too. We went to England for Christmas and for the first week she slept the same as she had here, which had been good (although she ALWAYS gets up between 5am and 6am ) .
But she has suddenly started waking up at 3am wide awake and wanting to get up..whatever time she goes to bed. Stays awake for about 1.5-2 hours and then will sleep until 6 or 7am. No idea why. It's horrible. Don't know why. She has also stopped eating through the day apart from breakfast. I would like to say maybe teething but I have been saying that for a year and she still only has 8
Sorry Carina. No help but just sympathy.

 

[Snuggle]

Maddison has been waking a lot in the night too and she is usually a great sleeper. Being pregnant it has been very draining for me I think its to do with her back teeth coming in as her cheeks are bright red at the moment so hopefully it wont last too much longer.
No advice sorry hun, can just sympathise too

 

[MissThing]

Hi girls

Thanks for your replies. I bought today an additional radiator for Daniels room (he has a central heating, but I think maybe in this cold its not enough for him) so we are trying it out today. Also I somehow managed to go with him swimming, so hopefully it tired him out a bit. And... I think Im gonna give him calpol night tonight.

Hopefully new radiator + calpol night + controlled crying (if there will be any) will make just a bit of change.

I dont mind him waking up sort of once for a dummy, but he does exactly a newmum's DD's thing. Wakes up at 1-3 am and just screams for 2 hours (untill daddy comes to calm him down). And if he just slept till 8 or 9 after that it wouldnt be too bad. But there is no difference - 6.00 he is up for the day and is just grumpier then usual. Today he woke up at 5.30!! am after 2 hour screaming in the middle of the night.

Gosh, I really hope its gonna end up soon. I dont think I can take it any longer!

Will let you know if my system worked.

 

[LucyBee]

Just read your reply to my thread.
We're in the same boat. It's SO tough. I feel your pain!
I am seeing the sleep specialist later this week (just waiting for confirmation of appt. time) so I will let you know what they say. xxx

 

[Steelgoddess]

I have no advice im afraid as im still a newbie on fguring this whole sleep malarky out and know how stressful it is but just wanted to send you some hugs.

 

[MissThing]

Hi girls

Well, tonight was a bit better! (We put on a radiator, gave him calpol night). He still woke up at 5.30am but he didnt wake up during the night. At 5.30 my DH went to his room and calmed him down a little, so eventually we actually got up at 6.15 am.

I dont know if that was calpol working or was it just working.... I think we will try with calpol night for a couple more nights just to sort of break down the habit of waking up in the middle of the night and then will try the same things but without calpol.

Also will try feeding him more during the day (he is a terrible eater at the moment) so maybe if he is gonna feel fuller he will sleep better as well...

And today he finally had a large poo, so hopefully it will also help...