Pregnant and miserable

[evrgrn3]

Did anyone else get depressed during the early weeks of pregnancy? I am so unbelievably sick and haven’t be able to move/leave the couch for a week now. I can’t function, I’m absolutely miserable and everyone keeps saying just wait until you’re out of the first trimester, everything will get better. Or, just think of what you’ll have in the end. But I’m not excited at all, I’m pissed off that I’m so sick and miserable. I’ve tried every single remedy under the sun for morning/all day sickness, I’m currently taking diclectin but nothing is working. This doesn’t feel worth it to me. I look at all these excited moms and I think “why?”. I’m not going to terminate the pregnancy or anything but what is the point. Why do women put themselves through this. It is unbearable.

 

[Kazz1n]

Hi,

So I felt like this with my first (and sort of again now with my second but less miserable). I had HG so had sickness all throughout my first pregnancy but it did get better and meds started to work. I definitely had a way better second trimester despite ongoing sickness. I had more energy, medication was working better, and I just felt a lot better.

I'm now 11+5 weeks with my second,my son is just over 2 years old and up until he was about 18 months old I thought we would just have the 1. I couldn't face being pregnant again. Here I am though and it looks like I'll provy have HG this time round as well. I started medication earlier and it's working on and off at the moment. I've taken this week off work due to sickness though. I don't feel as miserable this time around and I'm not sure why.
Just wanted to say that I also experienced it and you're not alone

 

[Anna@work]

Did anyone else get depressed during the early weeks of pregnancy? I am so unbelievably sick and haven’t be able to move/leave the couch for a week now. I can’t function, I’m absolutely miserable and everyone keeps saying just wait until you’re out of the first trimester, everything will get better. Or, just think of what you’ll have in the end. But I’m not excited at all, I’m pissed off that I’m so sick and miserable. I’ve tried every single remedy under the sun for morning/all day sickness, I’m currently taking diclectin but nothing is working. This doesn’t feel worth it to me. I look at all these excited moms and I think “why?”. I’m not going to terminate the pregnancy or anything but what is the point. Why do women put themselves through this. It is unbearable.

I was the same with my first. Useless crying on the sofa all day long for weeks. Had doctors appointment again and again to try and find the magic remedy to the awful sickness. Nothing worked so they gave up trying more meds and told me to wait. It was the worst thing EVER. I was off work for six weeks and only felt barely able to work when I returned at 13 weeks...

This time around it has hit me hard. GP gave me stemetil (prochlorperazine) and, it doesn’t fully make it go away but makes life a bit more comfortable.

what country are you in? I am in the uk but not sure they allow it everywhere

 

[JenKat]

Everything you're feeling is totally valid. You don't have to feel all the happy things everyone else seems to be feeling all the time. And this goes for motherhood in general. There will be days when you just feel like you've had enough and you shouldn't feel guilty for feeling that way.
Go easy on yourself. Try to just focus on whatever gets you through each day, don't focus on what it all means or how you'll feel months from now. Trimester one especially is all about surviving. Just getting through it. Especially if you're feeling sick.
I'm very sorry you're feeling this way but I promise you're not alone.