Pregnant Again

[firstangel]

Hi Guys

I am 4 weeks pregnant after a missed miscarraige in April 2008...and Im really worried its all too good to be true !!

please everyone keep there fingers crossed for me !!!

 

[sarah113]

Congratulations hun
i hope everything goes well for you this time hun, i had a late missed miscarriage in january and im so scared that something is going to go wrong this time

 

[firstangel]

I will be thinking of you and im sure everything will be ok this time loads of babydust and stickt stuff !!!

 

[Tasha20]

Hope everyone will go weel and you will have a happy and healthy nine months

 

[jussy]

Congratulations and good luck. I've done 3 tests in the pst 2 days with a faint positive so I'm at 4 weeks too. I've had 3 miscarriages in the last 12 months so fingers crossed for both of us. Here's hoping we can be buddies right to the end!!! x

 

[firstangel]

Hey Jussy !

That would be cool ! I have my fingers crossed for you too and my toes if that helps !

 

[firstangel]

. I've had 3 miscarriages in the last 12 months :

3 must be terrible, my heart goes out to you xxx

 

[jussy]

Hi,
Sometimes some things are just meant to be - look to what might happen next is where I'm at at the moment!!
Fingers crossed - positive so far! I've booked an app with my doctor on Friday to confirm. As I've been having tests to see why I can't keep previous pregnancies I have to have a scan at 6 weeks. Fingers and toes are still crossed for us both

 

[Rosebay]

Hi,

I've just found out I'm pregnant and I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks in September and an early m/c at 5 + 5 in January so I know how worried you must be too. I'm just trying to say to myself that there is nothing I can do and that getting scared won't help either and I'm trying to focus on "what will be will be".

It's hard I know but there are so many women on here who are in the same situation- we'll just have to hold virtual hands and get through the first tri together!

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[Anna23]

Congrats on being pregnant i hope you have a happy healthy 9 months my doctor told me that everytime your pregnant it's a different spermy and egg and the chances are low it'll happen again so i'm sending lots of stickky baby glue

 

[firstangel]

Hi,

I've just found out I'm pregnant and I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks in September and an early m/c at 5 + 5 in January so I know how worried you must be too. I'm just trying to say to myself that there is nothing I can do and that getting scared won't help either and I'm trying to focus on "what will be will be".

It's hard I know but there are so many women on here who are in the same situation- we'll just have to hold virtual hands and get through the first tri together!

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Fingers crossed for us all xx take care of your self ! and its nice to have other people who are going thru the same things !

 

[firstangel]

Congrats on being pregnant i hope you have a happy healthy 9 months my doctor told me that everytime your pregnant it's a different spermy and egg and the chances are low it'll happen again so i'm sending lots of stickky baby glue

Aww thank you ! lets hope the glue sticks ! xxx

 

[Rosebay]

Hi,

I've just found out I'm pregnant and I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks in September and an early m/c at 5 + 5 in January so I know how worried you must be too. I'm just trying to say to myself that there is nothing I can do and that getting scared won't help either and I'm trying to focus on "what will be will be".

It's hard I know but there are so many women on here who are in the same situation- we'll just have to hold virtual hands and get through the first tri together!

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Fingers crossed for us all xx take care of your self ! and its nice to have other people who are going thru the same things !

Yes it truly is. I don't know what state I would have been in after my two losses if it hadn't have been for here- it was the only place I could ask the questions I needed to and to get it all out and be honest about it all.

Being pregnant again after loss is (IMO) quite different as you're just more aware of what could happen and it is a psychological battle through especially those first 12 weeks to stay positive while kind of bracing yourself for possible loss at the same time. I know I'm just not as happy as I was with Elliott- I was so convinced it would all be ok and I knew NOTHING about the risks which made it easier to ignore. I also find it hard with friends of mine now who tell me before 12 weeks because my first thought is now "I hope your baby sticks" not "hooray you're going to have a baby!" which is sad and I worry that it shows on my face too sometimes. I remember telling a very close friend of mine who is a Dr when I was 10 weeks gone with Elliott and her face did what I imagine mine does now- delight then concern and I remember feeling quite annoyed at what I thought was negativity.

Anyway, despite all of this I genuinely feel positive about this pregnancy so far. I'm determined to try not to moan my way through it like I did the first time for sure but we'll see!! I just feel so so lucky to be pregnant again, no matter how long for and I'm taking one day at a time. I'm only telling the few people who knew and helped me through my last two but I am planning on hiring a loudspeaker after my 12 week scan if it's ok!

Are you going to try and get a reassurance scan? I'd have to really badger my GP here for one but I think it might help me get past the 10 weeks stage if there's a fetal pole at 8 weeks as they think I lost both previous at around 5- 6weeks. I don't get a 12 weeks scan on the NHS where I live so we're saving for a private one even though I didn't with Elliott.

How are you doing so far?


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[firstangel]

Im doing ok, but everytime I have a crampy feeling Im wondering is everything ok? im I going to loss the baby, keep expecting to go to the loo and I will be bleeding ! also when Im not feeling sick, Im thinking, have I lost my symptoms ! etc.....I am trying not to worry but its hard, havent said anything to anyone or my otherhalf, want to stay positive !

Booked in for a scan at 8 weeks, and Im sure if I ask when Im there I can get another for reasurance.

In my last pregnancy I got a scan at 5 weeks( to see how far on I was, as I wasnt sure ) , 7 weeks ( with heartbeat ! ) and then again at 11 weeks ( and thats when they saw the missed misscaraige ) .

So going to ask when i go for my scan if I can get one about 12 weeks as well, our hospital is very good, or it was the last time.

 

[Rosebay]

I'm glad you've got a good hospital. I seem to be very unlucky with ours as I guess it's a big City and they don't have the money etc.

I know what you mean about checking when you go to the loo- I do it every time. I kind of think the worst and then get pleasantly surprised, I'm not sure when I'll stop doing that, perhaps not until the baby is in my arms!


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[firstangel]

I know what you mean about checking when you go to the loo- I do it every time. I kind of think the worst and then get pleasantly surprised, I'm not sure when I'll stop doing that, perhaps not until the baby is in my arms!


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Yeh ! me too !!

 

[jussy]

It is a worrying time, I've decided I'm not telling anyone this time until I've had a scan to say its all ok. It will be hard though as I am already suffering from constant nausea and tiredness - its awful, I can't function! I just think its a matter of time before people start noticing at work (I've been grazing non stop since Thursday to keep the sickness feeling away!)

 

[Steelgoddess]

I had a miscarriage last year in Jul (a bleed @ 6 weeks) and then a blighted ovum straight after in Sept (Finally enough the 14th Sept a day out from when this one is due!!) (Had a scan which confirmed).

When I became pregnant with this little guy I tried to take one day at a time, @ 8 wks I faced the worst fear, having a scan but they said all was well, we saw the heartbeat, then after that i had another scan at 10 and then again at 13 weeks where i saw things so much clearly, even a perfectly formed little hand...

I started feeling more relaxed after the 12 wk scan which was also nuchal so they said he was fine, I also bought a HB monitor which helped SO MUCH... Especially when i didnt know what was going on in there.

I stopped using the HB monitor when i started to feel him wiggle about, although I had sickness I was still very scared because with my blighted ovum i had sickness but meant nothing so it still worried me...

Im 29 weeks now and the worry although not completly diminished, does seem to get significantly smaller each day i get closer to goal of having him...

You will see your pregnancy will progress too, however you will have that feeling of "Is everything ok" in the back of your mind with even pain and ache, if my LO doesnt move i wonder if he's ok, and then OH reminds me he's probably chilling out, and then funnily enough minutes later he'll be doing the hussle and i'll be smiling away thinking how silly i have been to think like that...

I know my post is long but im really trying to bring the point that it DOES get easier, however it takes time days turn to weeks, weeks to months and before you will know it you'll have a big ol beachball as a reminder that they are there

I'll also say is use this forum, ask questions no matter how silly they sound someone is always listening or will tell u they feel the same, i never thought i would make it into 3rd tri but i have and you will too!!

xx

 

[Rosebay]

Thanks hun Really comforting post.

I'm so so happy that you're where you are today and thanks for the advice. I might get a monitor this time around too as I think I'll be very nervous even after 12 weeks. What kind did you get and how soon could you hear a beat on it?

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[-Betty-]

congratulations