post from tri 2* sex and ur changing body?

[lisa&alex]

as your bodys have changed more than perhaps some early tri2ers.. i thought i would ask here too hope you dont mind?

ok girls! this may be tmi. but i gotta get it off my chest..

me and alex have been married for 5 months.. we got pregnant after our honeymoon, before we got married i lost about 2/ 2/12 stone..and ive now put all that bk on again..and obviously my bellys grown.. basically naked i just look really fat..and a little bit pregnant..

well for about 10 weeks my hubby hasnt been able to....c*m, its really getting to me..i asked him yesterday, do u still fancy me.. he said course i do..

then i said is it coz ive put on weight, (theres weight thats not pregnancy weight) he said no,. maybe.. oh i dunno..i just felt crushed..

i know im gonna get bigger and im dealing with it..
but i put myself in his shoes.. if he was the one who put on 2 stone and i could see all his flab jiggling about i dont think i could orgasm either,

its not that the babys in there.. coz hes not soft when hes doing it..he takes care of my needs too..so hes not going for it being selfish..so im guessing hes just put off?

are any of ur partners going through the same? i know a few partners have mentioned fatty comments and stuff.. but what about ur sex lives? are they better or worse?

 

[leckershell]

Mine's been worse but only because it's uncomfortable for me.. every position seems to hurt.

Nat's always been ok with my extra weight even though he's really into short skinny girls, he likes the new pregnant me too because he appreciates I've got his baby.

I'd suggest maybe mutually playing with each other? Surely that's gotta work also makes a change from full-on sex, and you'll both get your pleasure.. maybe he's just a bit weird with the transition of the added weight? He'll soon see you like that everyday and think nothing of it.

Hope things get better for you

 

[Redshoes]

I think you need to do the hard thing and talk to him about it, and tell him how you're feeling, because otherwise you'll just decide what you think, when you need to hear what he thinks
I'm certain he still loves you, and we ALL change as we get older, and have LO's, and our partners change too, so don't let this make your relationship more complicated, just talk, and compromise, being a partner and a Mummy I'm sure you are very skilled at this already, very best wishes

 

[Funkylady]

I can definitely relate in some way to how you are feeling.

I'm not gonna pretend Im huge, cos Im not in anyway... Im just used to being a small size 8 with a nice (ish) bum and smooth legs. I've now progressed to a size 12-14 with orange peel bum and stretch marks on my thighs. I HATE walking around in my underwear in front of my OH... its made me so self conscious cos he also seems to be losing interest in me.. sexually..

I know its not a particularly important issue, because its all natural to gain a little extra fat when pregnant.. and I do hope my OH understands that. But I can understand to a certain degree your fear that he might not find you attractive anymore.

All I think is, once you've had this baby and he sees you after giving birth, he will love you more than anything in the world for giving him this baby. We are doing such an amazing thing and I think it's natural for our bodies to change ALOT in order to play host to our little beans.

Don't worry too much about things, try to be confident in yourself and focus on pleasing each other...

I believe love is more important than lust at this stage in our lives.

xxx

 

[MissThing]

The amount of having sex haven' t changed for me at all. The only problem is, that becourse of my huge belly we can not have all the positions. Sometimes, of course, I am feeling too tired.

Have you tried to wear something to make your OH more interested? When I was about 7 months I suprised him by wearing bunny costume (self made...Well, I bought ears and fluffy tail, which I attached to normal black panties and as a top I was wearing one of those strapless streching tops(white or black). The top really covers your growing tummy!Add high heels and you will look gorgeous, no matter what size you are!

Or just try some sexy but flattering lingerie, plus high heels Or stockings and short skirt....

 

[Vickyleigh]

I'm starting to forget what it feels like
We haven't done anything for ages poor OH is starting to go insaine but I just can't do it, I find it so uncomfy!

 

[pigletpoo]

Ok, heres an idea - and it may not be for everyone....

My OH can get hung up about the weight thing and has in the distant past made comments. I lost over 4 stone, and have put on 2 during pregnancy - which I am going to lose asap after bubs is here.... but as it is pregnancy weight and all bump, my OH has actually says that is turns him on now..... but then he is strange, and i can't say that I believe him!

So here's what I would do....

Sex isn't just about the way people look, its about the touch, feel, sensation, and overall mood of the situation.
So if it was me, I would create a really nice mood and ambiance, take him to bed, and blindfold him. Then do all sorts of things to him to get him all turned on - I'm sure you know the sort of things I'm thinking - and wait till he as pressure point before going all the way with you taking control. (God its hard to word things on here without worrying of offending anyone!)

If he can't see you, and can only feel you, then you will be much more confident and more likely to take him to that place he can't seem to go. And once he gets over the fact that this extra weight doesnt make you any less sexy or able to push his buttons, I'm sure everything will be back to normal before you know it!

It sounds like its some sort of mental block thats stopping him, and you just need to unblock it. And you being all self concious isnt going to help.

I know how you feel, and it is horrible. I really hope you get things sorted, and If I've just spoken a load of c**p then just ignore me. But thats just what would work for me and my OH.

Piglet xx

 

[Snuggle]

I was overweight before I got pregnant but now I'm just huge I'm very thankful that my hubby still finds me attractive no matter what but am determined to lose a load of weight when baby arrives