please help wakes all hours day and night

[LISAMJS]

Please can I have some advice - ds is 20 wo. He is a bf baby.
I can never get him to sleep more than 30 mins in the day. He is always over tired.
To get him to sleep 90% of the time he needs a dummy and has to be swaddled every time.
Tonight he was grumpy and tired so went to bed at 1730. He has woken at the following times
where I have reinserted the dummy or he wont sleep.
1819
1832
1916
1935
2006
2112
2124
fed from 2203 - 2218
2230
2241

Please someone give me some advice. He is driving me mad - I am sooooo tired and this is resulting in me being very tearful.
:'(
I have tried not swaddling but he wont sleep and throws his arms about.
He just screams if the dummy is taken away. I have looked at other peoples stories in getting rid of the dummy but ds really does scream. I really don't know what to do. He won't go cold turkey.

 

[maria1976]

have you tried lying down with him and settling him that way and just having boob at ready or having himon your chest xx

 

[Sherlock]

Ditto the others really. Your LO obviously likes to be snug atm.

I'd also give serious thought to throwing away the dummy now before object permanence kicks in and your LO really will remember it and miss it if its not there. You still have a couple of weeks before that stage happens. If you ditch the dummy now, yes it may be a hellish 24 hours but once passed your LO should settle without it as he won't remember it. TBH I can't see it being worse than having to run back and forwards all evening and night to put the dummy back in. Babies do soon forget about this sort of thing if you do it early enough. Its just that day or so toughing it out.

Also look to some soothing music, a mobile for him to watch in his basket or cot. Maybe try giving him a muslin square to play with to fall asleep holding in place of a dummy.

If you think its bad now having to put a dummy in when it falls out, wait a while and have it happen 20 times a night in a few months. Really, ditch it now and be done with it. Start without it in the morning and do it on a day when you are busy with things so he is distracted a bit. If he cries for it in the day, take him out for a walk or something. Again use music or a mobile as a distraction. But don't put the dummy in. Sit by him, stroke his head, soothe him but don't make eye contact or talk directly to him. Persevere. Its the key. Don't rush to pick him up to comfort him if he cries but try other ways to settle him first.

 

[Sherlock]

Aye have you tried white noise.. it used to help us loads.

Ooo yeah some days I could have kissed my hoover and hairdryer. Lifesavers for getting LO off to sleep in the daytime. I'd just turn the hoover down to a low setting and leave it on for half and hour and get some peace that way. LO would be out like a light and sleep for as long as it was on

 

[LISAMJS]

update from last night he woke and fed at 0130 then was wide awake. went to slepp 0245 awake 0440 0520 0600 then numerous times till 0800.
How do I get rid of the dummy? I need some advice please. I am so tired. He came into bed with me at 0600 which made no difference with the sleeping. How does white noise work? He is swaddled so I cant give him somethin to cuddle as he wont sleep woth out being swaddled.
x

 

[Sherlock]

I gave you some pointers in my longer post about how to ditch the dummy and when

White noise does work as its background noise, like a hoover running. Not a TV or radio, but hoover, washing machine.... just put it on and leave it running outside the room (or if like me in same room as baby on occasion). For some reason babies find it soothing and often go to sleep.

Drop me a PM if you want to talk a bit more or have a read of some of the other posts I and others have made on ditching the dummy.