Plans for xmas day?

[lisa1985]

All those ladies due around xmas, what are your plans for christmas day?

I am due boxing day, so either I will have had baby, be heavily pregnant or be in labour.

I am being pressured by my mum to tell her what our plans are as she needs to know?!! She is driving me mad, as how can I predict what will be happening.

Me and my OH have been together for 5 years, but usually I go to my parents for dinner, he goes to his, then he comes to my parents for xmas evening and then I go to his parents on boxing day, it has always worked for us, even though my mother does not agree with it at all, I know once baby is here we will have to take it in turns.

How ever this year is slightly different as my OH's dad died a few weeks ago, meaning his mum would be alone on xmas day, I know that he will never leave his mum on xmas day now, this year and in the future. There was talk of her and my OH going to my parents, but I know that emotions will be high and I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable, also my mum never thinks before she speaks and worried she will say something they don't agree with.

I know I am maybe over thinking things, but my mum is starting to stress me out about it. Help!? xx

 

[hopingforbabyf]

Sounds like a tricky situation to be in. Come Xmas day I'll be either 36 weeks pregnant, babies will be here and we'll be home or we'll be in hospital. If I'm not in hospital we will be at hubby's aunt's for Xmas dinner. His mum and aunt take it in turns year about but I think once the twins arrive this will need to change - there's no way we can fit 11 adults and 2 children in either of their houses - there's hardly any room to move once the table is set up as it is.

Do you have any siblings that means your mum can make arrangements and if you're there you're there, but if not it won't be a waste?

 

[JillMcCoy]

That does sound tricky and your mum should be a bit more understanding that you can't plan these things in advance. I told everyone I wanted our own Christmas this year. Means I can sit in my pj's if I so wish! Just do what's right for you. Xx

 

[beanie5]

are you all quite close together location wise? if I was being pressured I'd probably tell her that i'd come round at some point in the day but not for food, then she wouldn't have to worry about getting food in and you'd have a bit more freedom for different circumstances

Christmas day i'll be 38 weeks so we're planning on getting some food in at home and just being the two of us (or 3 if little un turns up early!) but his family are within 5 mins drive so we have the option of popping out to see them if we want. I'm hoping to make it the weekend before xmas to see my family who are about 2.5 hrs away but i'll have to see what happens

 

[Lols82]

My section is scheduled for 22nd Dec so good chance we may still be in hospital. If we are lucky enough to be home I've cancelled all family plans this year and me my OH, babies and dogs will stay at home.

 

[kellylou]

Im not due until Jan but have already said I want to stay at home
We are happy for ppl to pop in but not cooking a dinner we did that last year with everyone. Its hard but ultimately you need to make tue right decision for u if its just u she is expecting surely she will understand that you can't guarantee u will be there and nothing will go to waste

 

[Lucylastic]

It's a tricky situation to be in. Me & husband have always split Christmas day. At ours first thing, my parents mid morning til lunch about 2, the he goes to his parents & I stay with mine, then we meet up in the evening at his families. This year I don't know what will happen as could be in labour, in hospital. I do know that if we have the baby or if I'm still pregnant I will go to my mums - for the rest! As will have willing babysitters on hand! He will be in tow. Not sure what the plan will be for Christmas' to come

 

[lisa1985]

Thank you everyone, yes luckily we are all within a 10-15 min drive from each other. I think the plan will either be OH and his mum come to my parents for dinner or he goes to his mums and I go to mine depending on whether baby has arrived or not. Luckily my mum didn't mention it when I saw her earlier. Is so hard to plan these things when due so close to xmas! xx