Photos of babies

[bigbee]

Just looking for a second opinion.

I think people (our friends) should ask before they take a photo of the baby. And certainly ask before posting it on social media. Let me just add, neither my partner or I have posted pictures of our son on Facebook, Instagram etc etc.

We've had a few friends visit, and they started taking photos of them with the baby. The first time I didn't say anything, but now I say to people "I don't mind you taking a photo, but don't post it on the Internet"

My partner says he's never heard of that, and says I am being a little overprotective. I don't think so. I would never take a photo of someone else's child without asking first.

Another example... My friend came to visit and started to take a photo, so I said don't post it anywhere. He asked "why not?", as if that's exactly what he was going to do!!!

Anyway, what does everyone think about this? Would you be happy if your mates took a photo without asking?

 

[Elliott]

I don't mind people taking pics so much but I don't particularly want people putting it on FB or similar. If they ask then maybe but I can't see why they'd want to. In not much of one for pics anyway. (Closed group is the only place I've put a pic)

 

[bigbee]

Same here - only the closed group.
Just would appreciate people asking before they take a photo!

 

[littlemonkey]

I don't mind people taking pictures of my children but I'm in total agreement with you about not putting pictures of them on Facebook etc. I don't like the idea of any random stranger being able to see the pictures and use them for any purpose they want. I'm not one for sharing my entire life on social media though. I'm a bit of an old fart and also work in a profession where its best to be careful about how much I share.

I'm friends on Facebook with a couple who post so many pictures of themselves with her sisters kids and I just think it's creepy. It's almost as if she tries to pass the kids off as her own. Just plain odd!

 

[Browneyed Girl]

I wouldn't mind people taking pictures of my baby when it's here, I think it's just the age that we're in now as everyone has cameras on their phone. I wouldn't be too happy if they were posting on FB though. I don't intend to be one of those mums that put pics of their kids on FB every 5 mins - no offence to anyone who does but it's not me. I'm nearly 32 weeks pregnant and only mentioned the pregnancy on FB for the first time at 29 weeks, I like to keep close family and friends updated on a more personal level. It's not really something I'd thought of though so it's food for thought especially as my oh's sister posts a lot on FB so I'm sure this will come up! xx

 

[Allthingsgirly]

I've been having such a shitty time of things lately & this has been one of the major bone of contention with me! I've never announced my pregnancy on FB or announced I've had a baby I may have told a few people privately but I have never posted any pictures only on my private closed Instagram account! Gosh I am still to post one on here! An old friend recently learned I had a baby & came round to visit & she took a photo of my baby with her son as they have the same name now I didn't want to come across as being rude etc even though my dad said he was my son I'm allowed to say who takes pics or anything else (been other issues I've been trying to work around with people taking over etc) but she just took a photo & I didn't think I could tell her sorry but I don't want you taking a photo as I don't want it putting it on social media or showing everyone as I've not mentioned my pregnancy, birth or shown pics & I feel I should be the one to do all that! Now my dad said the same he thinks it's strange that other people would want to take photos of someone else's child anyways but this person that did it well her whole life is broadcasted on Facebook! I feel like messaging her & asking her that I don't really like people taking photos of my son (no one has been allowed to do this not even my close family) but you did it but I would like it if you wouldn't post it on any social media site but now she has the picture it is her picture to do as she pleases? I'm trying to forget it happened or else it will drive me mad! I really feel like at the time when she took the pic (she didn't ask me) I should have said sorry but I don't really want you taking any photos

 

[Orion]

I don't mind people taking photos - I'm a bit sensitive about them using the flash if babies eyes are open.

But I'm the same regarding the Internet. I don't like other people posting photos of my life on their pages.

 

[GF91]

We have this rule too!! Don't mind Instagram but we're not on FB so I don't allow pictures of my daughter on there. I even rung my OHs sister & asked her to remove the pictures she had put on there!

 

[kumber]

I don't allow anyone to post pics of Riley online. There are certain people I know would end up seeing them, even if inadvertently, and that's something I just can't risk. I've also called people up before and asked them to remove pics, and the only pics I post of him are of the back of his head! Personally I don't understand this whole thing of putting pics up online when anyone can access them, no matter what your privacy settings are. The internet just isn't safe!

 

[juliekim0908]

Seem like the only one to post my answer.. I don't mind lol.

I've taken hundreds and hundreds of photos since my boy was born. Before I posted anything on FB, I did a huge friends clear out, and made my profile super private.
So yes, I add many photos of my boy. I have also taken photo's of myself with a friends baby, BUT I knew it was ok to do so.. plus posting on FB as her and her family also do so.

It all depends on individual opinions, I have a big family, which many I only see maybe once a year, so we keep up to date via fb. If we didn't.. I wouldn't even know what half my 30 odd cousins/2nd cousins looked like lol.

BUT I would ask if I wasn't sure if someone was comfortable doing it. For example we have new neighbours which have moved here from London. They have a 7 month odl daughter. We've been taking pics etc and she sent me a lovely one of my son and her daughter, I wanted to share. But I first asked if it was ok to do so and I knew some people weren't ocmfotable doing it, and she didn't want me to.
Which was fine. so it's saved on my computer for the album.

xx

 

[Allthingsgirly]

What I know feel uncomfortable with I wouldn't have felt uncomfortable doing before I had a child myself if you see what I mean? I know I am being over sensitive about it & too over protective I should want to show my little boy off because he is just perfect & i can't believe I gave birth to him because of how gorgeous he is! Everyone just adores him & maybe that's why I'm so protective because everyone dotes on him & just wants to cuddle him all the time! I'm driving myself mad with all the self questioning I guess I just want to hide him away into a little bubble where no one can see him but that just isn't healthy. I know I should be able to say sorry I would rather you didn't take photos of my child as I want to be the one to show him off or show his photos and not have to feel like rubbish for it but I do feel I am being over sensitive ESP when I wouldn't have thought twice about it before I had a child.

 

[hellywelly]

I'm very like you juliekim - I have no problem with people taking photos of Evie at all, and seeing as the only people I am friends with on FB are family and close friends I also have no objection if they post the odd one up - my cousins don't visit very often but they always have a photo with her and quite often pop one up after a visit. I'm only on FB, not Instagram or Twitter or all those things, and my profile is very private as I'm a teacher and I don't like the kids asking to be friends (!) but I can't say I mind. I must be pretty laid back, cause I hear of loads of people deactivating their accounts when they go into labour so they are first to post about baby's arrival, but we rang and text everyone important when she arrived so it didn't bother me in the slightest when someone congratulated us via FB before we had posted about her ourselves! I figure it's just nice that people want to share the joy!

 

[bigbee]

Thanks all. I'm surprised how many agree with me!

I don't mind people taking photos, but it pisses me off when they do so without asking first.

And yes, I doubt I'll be posting his photos on Facebook any time soon. My partner and I have agreed we will only post photos with either one of us in them. Too many weirdos around.

It might all change once I stop being so hormonal

Ahh, I've got a friend who keeps posting photos of herself with her niece. I find that a little creepy too.

 

[OMGbabyno3]

Hi,

I'm funny about this too. I was at a baby and toddler group recently and the leader asked to take a pic of the group as they were looking cute. Luckily, as mine was a lot younger, she wasn't really close to them, so I quickly picked her up!

I wouldn't mind family taking pics.

It doesn't get easier tho....nurseries, schools etc all want to take pics. I always write in and say I don't agree with them being online or used for marketing.

Your baby, your choice!

 

[MrsS143]

I dont see the fuss
But then if theyre family and friends who im close enough with to go see them and their baby... i think everyone surely wants to share their pride and joy
Id take pics of their lovely baby the same I would if they had an adorable puppy!
People use social media to share their day to day lives. And if thats meeting an insanely cute baby of their friend or family... i think it seems normal to want to share that

I've the same issue with my nephew
We babysit him. Take him lovely days out. And have fab photos which serve as memories
But his mum doesn't want those shared and i don't understand why because she does and id understand if no pics were ever posted but i don't get why her and not me cos they're lovely pics worth sharing. Nothing inappropriate like in the bath or them upset or something x

 

[El1en]

I don't rave a problem, I'm not one for putting loads of pics up myself, Emelia is 5 weeks old and there are 5 pics on fCebook, mainly because I have family up in Scotland who'd like to see but also because I'm beaming with pride!
I don't mind my friends putting pics up, if they are close enough to me to be taking pics then they are pretty close and as long as I'm tagged in them it's cool

 

[littlemonkey]

I dont see the fuss
But then if theyre family and friends who im close enough with to go see them and their baby... i think everyone surely wants to share their pride and joy
Id take pics of their lovely baby the same I would if they had an adorable puppy!
People use social media to share their day to day lives. And if thats meeting an insanely cute baby of their friend or family... i think it seems normal to want to share that

I've the same issue with my nephew
We babysit him. Take him lovely days out. And have fab photos which serve as memories
But his mum doesn't want those shared and i don't understand why because she does and id understand if no pics were ever posted but i don't get why her and not me cos they're lovely pics worth sharing. Nothing inappropriate like in the bath or them upset or something x

Just to give you some perspective on it, I don't like even family members posting pictures of my children online simply because I don't know all their friends online, don't know what their privacy settings are or who can see it. At least if I do it myself I have more control over it. I don't even like the idea of people my OH is friends with who I don't know being able to see pictures he puts on of our kids. I am very selective with my friends list where as other family members are friends with anyone and everyone they've ever spoken to, even people they haven't spoken to in years. I don't want people who don't even know me to see what my kids are up to.

 

[kumber]

I 100% agree wih littlemonkey, once you put something online you have no idea what people will do with it. The internet makes people completely anonymous, even on social media, so people can do whatever they like and do! You have no idea what your friends will do with it, or their friends, and with the internet making things so much more accessible, why would you risk it?

 

[bigbee]

Agree with little monkey and kumber.

A little bit on the topic of randoms using photos found on the Internet... Anyone seen tv show "catfish"? I know it's not based on baby pictures, but just shows that there are some sick people out there who like to pose as someone else.

Again, I don't mind friends/family having photos of my son, as long as they are not publicly shared.

Everyone has their own opinion on this. The way I see it, this child belongs to me (for the next 18 years), so I should have control of who had access to his photos.

Anyway, I am sure that if someone posts a picture of your child on Facebook etc, and you've not given concent, you can report it.

 

[MrsS143]

I just don't see the harm
Especially if im in it
I dont see me ever having an issue with others and my kids though
The sentiment is nice to want to share
if i think of the amount of people captured in pics behind me etc that have no idea the pics even taken... Theres prob 100s of me unknowingly in other people's pics in the background too where ive been right place right time to get caught in their pics

plus realistically what is someone gonna do with them?
Im not dodgy
Id like to think i don't associate with dodgy people
If theyre really suspicious in a child attraction way i doubt youd ever hear about it