Petrified..

[dannii87]

Saw my MW yesterday (there's a post in 3rd tri so I won't go into it too much), but in our area, they let you go 12 days overdue, which leaves me til Wednesday before an induction. I explained that if me & Evie are healthy, I'd rather leave it a bit longer to give us chance to go into labour naturally. She was not supportive at all and say the limit for the UK is 14 days over, so she would allow me to go 15 days overdue (this takes me to next Saturday - 8 days away).

Now, I just have this horrible feeling that 8 more days isn't long enough

But anyway, how far overdue did you go before things happened? Did they happen naturally or did you end up being induced in the end because nothing happened?! At what point did you get induced, and how did it go?!

Sorry for all the Qs. I'm really upset because I could happily wait another few weeks for Evie! Honestly, I could... It's the induction that scares the life out of me because they said my Mum wouldn't be able to stay - so I'd be left in hospital until I'm in active labour, THEN they would call her to come in and stay with me

 

[LisaJ1986]

I was 10 days over, a day away from induction. (She must've known!) I just spent the whole of the day before begging her to come out as my mum was around that weekend. I wanted mum to see her before she went home. It worked.
I think they're just thinking of you and baby's health. The longer you go over the more risk there is. The thought of induction scared the life out of me, but i was desperate to see my little girl so would've done anything. They will look after you. And it'll be worth it in the end.

Don't worry, there's still hope for you yet!

 

[hennaly]

Awe hun if the only reason you dont want to be induced is because your mum cant stay then tell them your fears, if you are induced in the morning i see no reason she cant stay for at least the day by which time something is likely to have started so she will be able to stay anyway.

 

[Becky]

I went in to be induced at +11. There was nothing happening and Lu wasn't engaged at all (never had been). I had 3 lots of the gel and in the end got sent home and was sent home at +12 and told to have a bath, relax and go back in the next morning where if nothing was happening I'd have to consider a c-section.

Went home, had a bath and my waters went! So back to the hospital for me. They put me on a drip to improve my contractions but as they upped it Lucy got distressed. In the end I was taken for an emergency section.

By the time they took me in I didn't care, I knew it was now all about giving birth to a healthy baby.

The section, despite being the very last thing that I wanted was a lovely experience. The staff were amazing and I had a lovely birth. My daughter was born at 7:15am at +13 days, she weighed a healthy 6lb 14oz and had an apgar score of 9 and we breast fed within the hour.

So yes, it wasn't what I wanted but all in all, it wasn't a bad experience and tbh I wouldn't change it for the world.

I do think you should argue with them about your mum staying - Chris was with me from the moment I was admitted to the hospital and we were only seperated while he got his scrubs on for the section and they prepped me. If your mum is your birthing partner then she should be allowed to stay until the end.

 

[dannii87]

Thanks so much ladies.

Lisa, I hope Evie does the same! That would be brilliant! I bet you were so relieved!

Yeah you're right everyone, it's about Evie getting here safely... I'm just being very selfish and need to stop thinking this way!

x

 

[beanie]

With Seren I was 13 days overdue when she decided to come out. With Cally it was 4 days but I had been told I would need to be induced at 10 days ( ) despite the fact I had had a low risk pregnancy and all was ok. If Cally hadn't arrived when she did i would have argued against the induction. If you do go over they will monitor you and any sign of distress you can be induced. I think babies come out when they are ready (with a few exceptions) and if baby is happy and you are happy then there is no reason you need to be induced against your wishes. This is your decision, it is your body and your baby. Get all the facts and do what your heart tells you is right

 

[Becky]

This is your decision, it is your body and your baby. Get all the facts and do what your heart tells you is right

That is soooo true!

This time I'm anxious about it all happening the same way again so I am hoping to hold out against induction until they tell me it's a case of safety for baby. It all depends on how close I get to Christmas (don't want hossie Christmas dinner!) but my midwife told me that they unless there are any complications they will probably monitor me closely and take it day by day.

 

[Bexie]

Try not to worry honey . The reason they like to induce after a certain time is due to the placenta becoming less effective.

Regarding your mum staying with you, I really think they need to listen to your wishes if that's what you want, in the end having your mum there with you will make the whole experience more relaxed.

Good luck, it won't be too much longer now before you meet you baby. x

 

[LisaJ1986]

Thanks so much ladies.

Lisa, I hope Evie does the same! That would be brilliant! I bet you were so relieved!

x

Certainly was nice to go natural, but i decided it was gonna be our last weekend as a child-free couple. She's very blooming clever! Lol

Hope all works out for you. You still have plenty time left.

 

[purple13]

are you sure they won't let your mum stay hon? OH was with me throughout my induction (all 3.5 days of it!!) - we went to the hospital on monday night and i was admitted straight to a room on the labour ward. OH stayed with me all the time (apart from a couple of hours in a nearby pub ), sleeping on a chair for 3 nights; all the staff just assumed he'd be staying with me...

i hope evie decides to come of her own accord so you don't have to worry about this

 

[kalia]

I was 9 days over. It is your decision - they can't force you to have an induction. Though sadly they can make you feel guilty and stuff Most people I know went 9 or 10 days over so hopefully you'll go in to labour naturally. A sweep might help.

 

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[Sherlock]

Saw my MW yesterday (there's a post in 3rd tri so I won't go into it too much), but in our area, they let you go 12 days overdue, which leaves me til Wednesday before an induction. I explained that if me & Evie are healthy, I'd rather leave it a bit longer to give us chance to go into labour naturally. She was not supportive at all and say the limit for the UK is 14 days over, so she would allow me to go 15 days overdue (this takes me to next Saturday - 8 days away).

Now, I just have this horrible feeling that 8 more days isn't long enough

But anyway, how far overdue did you go before things happened? Did they happen naturally or did you end up being induced in the end because nothing happened?! At what point did you get induced, and how did it go?!

Sorry for all the Qs. I'm really upset because I could happily wait another few weeks for Evie! Honestly, I could... It's the induction that scares the life out of me because they said my Mum wouldn't be able to stay - so I'd be left in hospital until I'm in active labour, THEN they would call her to come in and stay with me

It does make me cross when MW and Doctors use words like 'allowed' and 'limit'. They make it seem like we have no choice in the matter when in fact we do. This crap about being let to go 12 days overdue is grrrr I wish women felt like they were given choices rather than it seeming to just be something they have to do and accept. Our bodies, we should have all the information given to us not just what the Doctors advise by 42 weeks.

So firstly Danni you can decline induction and ask to be monitored, even past 42 weeks. If both you and baby are well you can wait longer and give baby a chance to appear naturally. They cannot make you have an induction. They can adivse (as I've said to others) and give you their medical opinion but they cannot make you. You need to go get informed on things for yourself and make a decision that feels best for you based on all sides. Doctors will always be doom and gloom and want to induce by 42 weeks. However women can go for longer and have healthy babies. FWIW very few women go that overdue.

 

[hennaly]

I would like to know when us mums get a say in anything

 

[trixipaws]

are u still here?! ( only jokin sweetie! )

i gave birth on my due date, but hear this- my girl friend who also had a home birth (she had her baby a few days early tho) told me that if she HAD gone overdue, she had researched it and found that its safe to actually go 3 weeks over. and she discussed this with her MW who had agreed to let her have 3 weeks!

come on evie, hurry up out girl!

her u go dannii *** labour dust ***

 

[Mik]

Due to health problems my first and third both had to be induced but my second went overdue. He actually started things going at 3am the day I was due in the hospital at 8am to be induced I agree with the others you do have a choice and if you are both healthy and want to wait a few extra days than that is your choice. I would also insist your birth partner stays with you. Won't be long now good luck

 

[Squiglet]

I had my induction all booked with Tia for the Wednesday when I would have +11 days overdue, but she arrived on the Sunday night all on her own... think she knew.

With lil miss the consultant wanted to induce me at 38 weeks as I had a few problems during my pregnancy.. I felt it was more of a control thing for them, so they could "prepare"...but I didn't agree with it and said unless there is a major medical problem there was no way I would be induced before 40 weeks... I'd done the research and knew that inductions carry risks, and early inductions carry greater risks... and it was weighing up the risks involved in carrying on with a risky pregnancy or to change the set of risks for an induction.

I went against my doctors recommendations and they weren't best pleased... I was treated quite badly because of it too... but I didn't care... I did what I felt was right...

+14 is the maximum they recommend you go overdue...after this the functions of the placenta start to drop significantly... however, these extra two weeks are because the date of conception cannot be guaranteed... With Tia I knew exactly when I would have conceived and was more receptive to the induction.

Its your choice Danni...it is scary...but when Evie is here you will realise, knowing what you will know, that you'd have wanted her sooner because you love her so much... Hopefully you will go into labour on your own though...don't give up hope just yet...

 

[Rubys mummy]

I was induced at 41w&5d, I found induction a great experience. I went in friday morning at 8am and had her saturday night at 8.21pm by c section-she just wasnt ready to come out even with 2 pessarys, 9 hours on drip and eventually forceps during the c section-due to her position, they said afterwards I would never of had her naturally-my cervix was crap and didnt dilate and her little head was swollen from trying to get through on an angle!!

By the end of it, I was just so relieved to finally be meeting my baby that I was sooo excited on the labour ward, and the theatre staff were so fabulous they made it a fantatsic experience for me.

OH stayed with me on induction ward all day on the friday but he did go home to get some sleep before returning saturday morning when they took me to labour ward..luckily I wasnt in any real pain, I was just lonely as all the other girls had gone throughout the day and had their babies-It was like the scene in Friends when Rachael sees everyone else having their babies I was on PF, grabbed a bit of sleep, and had a wander off to see my pal who had also been induced same time as me and had her little boy

I hope you go soon hunny, but if not please try not to worry about induction, its a means to an end and it will all be soooo worth it when you are cuddling Evie xxxxxx