Opinons on being an only child?

[bidsy]

Please can you tell me how you feel about it? Not sure how much longer me and DH will try for another due DH age. thanks.

 

[giz]

Both hubby and I are only children.

Overall I loved it, but my parents had big families and I had lots of cousins with a couple living round the corner. So kind of had the best of both worlds.

We've chosen to have a sibling for our daughter mostly because she will have no aunts, uncles or cousins. Which I find odd. And I wanted her to have some family when we're gone.

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baby giz born 6th Feb 2011
next one due 12th Aug 2013

 

[tambo1976]

I personally think its important to have a sibling. I have 3 children who are 19, 17 and 12 so the baby I am currently expecting will kinda feel like an only child and it makes me a bit sad. Watching my other 3 children grow up together was lovely, they played together, taught each other things, learnt from each other, shared toys and had permanent company. At school they always knew that they had each other if things got tough too.

Don't get me wrong, sometimes they fought like cat and dog lol but overall the good far outweighed the bad and given the choice I would definitely have another one if I could to grow up with the one I'm currently expecting.

I like to think as well that in later life it'll be nice to still have each other to lean on and support x

 

[CARNAT22]

I am one of 4 and OH is one of 6 kids so we're used to big families.

I wouldn't mind if James is an only child as he has lots of cousins of a similar age (2 were born the same year, 2 more due this year plus the older ones) so he'll grow up with lots of kiddies.

If we can though I am 100% keen to have another. I loved having siblings and we are all close as adults. OH is the same. I want James to have this.

Also on a selfish level I want to experience pregnancy and childbirth again, I want another baby (a little girl or another little James - I would be happy either way). I didn't realise how much I loved being a Mummy until I became a Mummy

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[sallybee]

I love being an only child. I got spoilt rotten as a kid haha! I have no cousins either. Rather than being lonely I simply made my own wee stories in my head and have a fab imagination as a result. My OH on the other hand is one of four boys so always had a playmate and I'm not sure if it's the siblings or just him being him but he finds it very hard to amuse himself and HATES being alone. He always says he is bored too and needs games/tv whereas I will happily sit with a book/my crochet/a similar hobby all day.

I don't know whether I will have any more children after C, right now she is more than enough for me. I don't have any desire to have any more just now but I have a long time yet if I want xx

 

[Constantstar]

I was an only child. Yes my parents gave me all I wanted etc but I look aeound even now and wished id had a brother or sister xx

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[Babybushie28]

I'm one of 5 and we had a great childhood, it was like I had ready made friends! I also felt that my mum got a break to some extent as we would entertain eachother. Now that we are older we are really close and we always go to eachother for advice, esp relationship advice to hear the opinion of the opp sex!! My oh was an only child untill he was 21 so he didn't have that element growing up but was really close to his cousins.

When I think about moments to come with bubs I always picture him with a bro or sis as I think he'll just get too lonely, He'll get to an age where he's not gonna wanna play with his parents all the time! I want him to grow up being socially confident and have someone he can talk to and rely on around his age group as well as me and oh. Id like to have at least 3 if we can.

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[HopesDreams]

I came from a family of 3 siblings & 1 I adore, 1 I can't tolerate so I guess it depends on your experiences.
I worry about O. He may well be an only child. I always wanted more than 1 child but I'm 31 now & single so who knows what the future will bring?

 

[Cantstop]

I love my brother to bits, totally irreplaceable and couldn't imagine not having him. I lost my mam a couple of years ago and made me appreciate him all the more so I couldn't live with myself if I didn't give my LO a brother or sister too. I haven't had close cousins and my LO won't either though and obviously I get on with my brother - I might feel differently if I'd had a different experience myself.

 

[babyslog]

Im one of 4 but including half brother and sosters one of 7 (dads been a busy man)
We range from ages 32,25,23,22,20,11,3 !! Lol

Ive only lived with my older brother 25 sister 23 and brother 20 a we have the same mum (others dnt)
Being one of 4 growing up was nice but we did fight a hell of alot lol. Probs cos im a bossy cow! but no i defo what 2 or 3 children myself if im able to. I wouldnt like to just have one xx

 

[babyem]

Im one of 3 and wouldnt liked to have been an only child. We fought alot growing up and I thought I hated them but I wouldnt change it xx

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[netty]

I loved being a only child I cried when my brother was. Born I was 13 lol

But now I wouldn't give it up for the world we have a great bond and share secrets etc.

I must say beig an only child for ages did make me very solitary mum said I never had friends around I always wanted to play alone but hey that's just me lol im an awkward bugger at the best of times

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[bidsy]

Thanks for replies, I have a brother who is 10 years older but we get on really well, OH is one of 3 and all close. My ds does have an older step sister but she is 20. He has lots of cousins some the same age. Dh is 43 in august i've just turned 32. We've been trying 10 months now but i'm aware dh doesnt want to try forever.

 

[babyslog]

FX ull catch soon hun xxx

 

[giz]

Good luck bidsy. It took us 13 months this time, so fingers crossed for you x

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baby giz born 6th Feb 2011
next one due 12th Aug 2013

 

[toni64539]

I've heard a lot of people say the best present you can give your child is a sibling. I wouldn't of agreed with you for a lot of the time as me and my bro fought like cat and dig, I mean we really dd physically scrap, there is 13 months between us but at the same time we played constantly and I have some really happy memories, even if they ended up in a row we really were good company for eachother. Now not to be taken personally but I always felt only children were a bit spoilt and erm, how to put this nicely,,,, strange!! My hubby is practically an only child, has a half sister and there is 18 years between them and she was born after he moved out and he will openly say he is wierd ha, and he will never have that sibling relationship with anyone, good or bad he won't have those memories or experiences, and even now at 40, he has no concept of sharing! I'm so glad now for Solomon that he will have Jonah to play with, and I don't intend to stop there! If for what ever reason it's not possible then that's different, but if its out of choice, then definitely go for it!

 

[Jellybeanjen]

I would have hated being an only child. I don't hve cousins or anything so I would have literally spent so much time on my own if it was just me. I have 2 older sisters, an older brother and a twin sister so have always had a sibling to talk to or hang out with. They are like best friends! We can call each other up saying "bands playing at pub, fancy it?" and we all just get on well. (we have had fights but who doesn't lol). My friend said she wishes she had a bro or sis to grow up with as she would alway get board games at Xmas and no one to play them with. But now she is 23 she said she likes being the only one as you get all the attention.