Opinions: would you go?

[ml600]

Well me and my OH are due to go to a wedding reception on Saturday. It's not far from home and it's for a good friend of my OH's. Thing is, my OH's group of friends all like a drink and a good party, which I do too, but with it being 3 days before my due date I'm hardly going to want to party! And some of his fiends are the type to be rude and say I'm a party pooper!! I also have nothing to wear!! One option is I could send my OH and I stay home, but then I wouldn't want him to drink in case I needed him... What would you do?? X

 

[Bexybun]

I went to OH sisters wedding on sat, 3 days before my due date. I took my hospital bag in the car and OH didn't drink obvs, and tbh it was fine. Lots of people telling me I was mad to be there lol, but it wasn't too tiring and OH knew that when I said I'd had enough, it was time to go, which was 9:30pm or so. That being said, we had our daughters with us, so obviously people were understanding about us leaving early because of both me and the girls. But I'm sure his friends will understand you and him not drinking and going early, you do have good reason! And if they don't, well sod them- let's see how they'd feel in the same situation!

 

[ml600]

I think if it was a family wedding it would be different. But as its his friend it's different. Also, it's only the reception so we wouldn't get there till 7.30 so I'd feel even worse leaving early! Why do people get married near my due date?! How inconsiderate lol x

 

[Bexybun]

Oh sorry, my fault, didn't read "reception" lol doh! I assumed it was all day. Ah forget it then babe, I wouldn't bother if I were you! Just let OH go. If you ask him not to drink is he going to mind do you think? My OH isn't really a drinker anyway, but I know my SILs husband is the type who would swear blind he won't drink and then get sucked in by all his mates lol!

 

[ml600]

Haha that's ok! No he won't mind at all, but his mates would get all bitchy (worse than women!) and you know when they would all stand around and say I've got him 'whipped'.... Bloody men! As if it's ok for me to get s taxi to the hospital on my own so he can go out and get drunk lol x

 

[Bexybun]

Ugh, that's lads for you! As long as he can hold his own with them, I'm sure they'll get over it quick enough. But I know what you mean, most dads are fine and totally get it but there's always one or two that have to bang on about "lightweights". Morons lol.

 

[ShowingPromise]

I'm the odd one out - id go! I've been to two weddings recently and despite felling like the only sober person there, I had a great time at both.
How about you go for a while? Hubby and I left around 11pm at the last one (had been there all day though!) and the bride and groom were really grateful that we'd come and made the effort for them. Depends how tired you've been feeling though, I did pay for it a little the following day!
This is our first baby so we are making the most of being able to go out as we please!

 

[ml600]

Thanks SP. I go to bed at 9 most nights as I wake up at 3... And get up about 4 times to pee in between! Will see how I feel towards the end of the week I guess x

 

[fabemmy]

If I didnt feel like going to a party then I wouldnt go. I wouldnt care if people thought I was a party popper. If they are good friends then they shouldnt mind.
Its awkward when everyone around you is drinking and you have to stick to soft drinks.

 

[Shelly1812]

My sister was due the day of my wedding, she brought hospital bag etc with her & her hubby wasn't drinking. I was greatful she made it!!

You would think folk would appreciate you making the effort even if it's only for an hour or 2. See how you feel that morning xx

 

[becky85]

It depends how close you are to the people who's wedding it is - Iv been to a couple of weddings in last couple of weeks (36 and 38 weeks) and had a great time it was actually really nice to be out socialising after being a hermit for what seems like an eternity. Having said that if I thought people were going to say I was a party pooper for not being there life and soul 4 days before due date i might not bother. I certainly would make sure OH wasn't drinking. If it's not far from home though it might be nice to go and see people and take your mind off things for a few hours before baby arrives. Xx

 

[Baby2sky]

Not exactly the same but we are invited to a friends 50th on my due date! We will go and not drink xxx

 

[Mummybexee]

I'd go!! I'm 37 weeks

Going 45 miles in car with son tomorrow
Wedding sat night
Wedding next Friday night and sat night
All day garden party 1 day before due date!

You do have to do what you feel is right but on my due date I was stomping around town looking for a
Biscuit tin and having lunch with friends!!

 

[Sugar10]

I'd just see how you feel. I'm sure if they were good friends they'd understand either way. And if your oh goes, it's probably best he doesn't drink because it would be Sod's law something would happen if he did. :/ I went to my friends wedding 37 weeks pregnant few years ago, and struggled through the day, but at night I just sat down and watched everyone get drunk and disorderly!! I stayed out until 1am! x

 

[dairygirl]

See how you feel nearer the time. We have a wedding 5 days before my due date and my hubby is an usher. Unless I am actually in labour he will still be going and its very likely I will too. Managed to borrow a lovely tiffany rose dress off my friend as thought it was pointless buying anything specially as if baby has already arrived I won't get to wear it anyway! My mum is looking after our daughter so it will be nice just to spend the day with friends and enjoy some nice food before baby arrives
xx

 

[H16]

I wouldn't bother going if you are having doubts. We have a family wedding over 60 miles away when I am 38/39 weeks and we have decided not to go regardless of other peoples reactions. You have to do what you feel is right for you not what is right for everyone else x