oooh I just want to slap her!!

[winnie89]

My nan has started being a pain the ass again, she's constantly ringing mark asking if harry is ok, I don't know why she keeps doing it but it's driving me nuts! She keeps telling mark I'm not looking after harry properly! (Which is none of her business how I bring harry up) she's constantly bugging me about me and mark going out so she can baby sit I keep telling her no as we can't afford to, so we'd finally saved up a bit of money and mark is taking me for a very late anniversary meal and marks mom is watching harry she's now told me that she's coming down to keep an eye on mel with harry, and I am fuming first off she is coming down to my house uninvited and secondly is marks mom unable to look after a baby for 2 hours afterall she's had 2 kids herself?? She knows she's winding me up and I'm not saying anything because it'll only end up in an argument like last time, my sil hanna told nan exatcly how she felt about her excluding olivia and only wanting to play with harry- I don't agree with this at all harry and olivia are both great grandchild and should be treated equally. She also keeps trying to take harry off me all the time, I'd just fed harry his lunch anf I'd left him in his bouncer only to walk to the table to get his beaker of juice and she said to me can I get him out and I said no because he has just eaten and he'll be sick if you start swinging him about and what does she do gets him out of his bouncer and starts boucing him up and down trying to wind him and he's sick all over her, she then blamed me when I told her not to! Ooh she drives me mad! She wonders why I don't want to go up anymore harry doesn't want to be held by her anymore and he cries at her because he wants me and not her, I then get a bolloking off mark saying I'm not letting nan do anything with him and she feels left out but it's ok for her to critise me and not listen to me and me feel shit?

I really hate her at the minute! Ooooh stupid woman

 

[Kayelle]

I would be pissed right off!
I would Defo tell her she is uninvited and not to come down. Ooo I couldn't stand someone telling me what to do like that or ignoring my wishes after they've been told!

 

[katie_lou]

Oh hub she sounds like a nightmare , I think u need to be very firm with her and maby explain to her you would just like marks mum to look after Harry , you could just say it would be nice for her to look after Harry in her own x

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Why is she calling your partner about your child?? Why cant she ask you how he is etc? Why would she tell ur partner ur not bringing his child up right?? Nightmare!!

 

[winnie89]

She calls him because she is his nan she is only my nan by marridge she wasn't as bad a I thought she was going to be but she keeps having a dig at me about harry being breastfed (we're slowly moving him to formula) I was too tired to listen to her nagging at me today

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Ah I see... I understand now.. That's not on at all.. My OHs family were against me bfing especially his nan they Ben went as far as saying I was damaging her dot give up on bf coz they don't like it.. The stress of it all reduced my milk supply so I had to give up because of them it's horrible
Ur oh needs to tell his family to back off a bit they shouldn't be so negative

 

[redbear]

Well if your OH wants the baby at his nan's more can't he take him? you put your feet up and let them deal with him, if he spends the whole time wanting his mummy maybe it will make him think twice? As for her comments etc i would have told her to f**k right off and if oh had a problem with that he would be gone too, your a partnership he is there to have your back and help he should tell her to butt out and keep her opinions to herself - she can't have anything better to do with her time. im mad for you if anyone said i wasnt looking after Alice right they would be out of my life- mum, dad, grandma, oh - anyone i would kick them out its bang out of order when your doing the best for your baby. xx

 

[PyscoFalcon]

Jeez bfing is the most natural thing in the world!
If it was damaging then no animal would be alive at all today!

Really makes you wonder where some people get there ideas from.

 

[winnie89]

See these are the points I make to mark and he calls me stupid and that I'm being horrible because she only wants to help, but there is trying to help and be supportive and then there is being downright horrible it's getting that bad I'm starting to worry she's going to push me into depression, maybe I shouldn't go up for a while to let the air settle

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Defo let the dust settle but explain to hol your reasons why or it will make things worse like your trying to push her out.. Men never bloody understand when it's their family in the wrong!!! Is she the type you can sit down and talk to?

 

[winnie89]

Nope she's been off her meds for a while (we lost grandad last year so the dr put her on a load of medication) she is really lovely woman but she has completly wrong view of evrything and just doesn't understand that she is wrong, she went away to spain for a fortnight and because she cooks for the whole family twice a week she told me to make sure I feed mark and I'm like I feed him every other night! I don't think she trusts me to be his wife, I keep telling her to not cook for us anymore as she can't afford it (there are 12 of us now harry is on solids) but no she keeps cooking for us and getting further behind on her bills and plus I don't want to have the rest of my life having her keep cooking for me when I am capable of cooking for my family myself!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

It does sound like she has control issues and is scared of losing her family so wants to be a very active part.. Maybe suggest u cook for her or allow her to cook for you on Sunday's? Have a nice family lunch at her house so she feels a big part.. She can have something to look forward to and prepare for u know?? That way she will know she is a big part and will have something to do..? Xx

 

[lisaloo]

grr how frustrating! (sorry not sure what else to say but didnt wanna read and run lol) x