OMG!!!! IM FECKING FUMING!!! RANT!!!

[xxsammyxx]

OH and i came back from Holland last weekend but he went back Tuesday to go to interviews. He has attended a few who all seem to think he is a little "cock sure" of himself, bordering arrogant and over confident. Looking good so far then! ) He got into a scuffle with some blokes before he went and so went to his first interview with a hole in his suit jacket and a small black eye. Yeah like this will land him a good job. Thing is he is very intelligent, has a business degree, further qualifications in this field and can land a really really well paid job with these working for a top company.

I got a call at about 5.30am this morning to say that he had been to watch his football team AWAY 150km away from where he lives, got into a fight with the opposition and him and his mates had been arrested and taken to the police station. He had been released but the driver and his mates were kept in leaving him to walk home When i spoke to him he was drunk, walking in the middle of nowhere down some lanes and soaking wet due to the heavy rain. Great. I asked him to call me as soon as either his mates picked him up or he got the train home. He never called. I tried calling him several times this morning and no response. At 2pm he finally picked up saying he had just woken up!!!

Meanwhile i have been left to do swimming pool maintenance on our pool which looked like a freaking POND and trying to sort out the rental issues. Basically we moved in a year ago for a price of €650 a month including bills and signed for 1 year fixed arrangement. Within 3 months they had changed it to NOT including bills. We created and there has been conflict ever since. We paid a contribution 2 months ago out of goodwill but said this was a one off payment. Since then, no broken things have been repaired on the property, the pool has a large hole near it and very dangerous, loose tiles mean we have nearly broken our necks, the front door has a faulty catch, lack of security grills mean we were robbed of €3,000 worth of stuff and we had no insurance at the time. I have not paid the rent last month as i said we are not going to until this was rectified. We heard nothing from the landlord for six weeks after the email. Yesterday he contacted to say he would pay €75 euros of the bills and we had to pay the rest. 4 months ago he claimed the bills were €450 for two months and wanted a third of the money for this. Now he reckons he will include €75 in the price of the rent as the bills are only €240 for two months.... hmmm strange this as the bills were double this when he wanted US to pay money towards them. Anyway i have told him to shove it and we will find a cheaper property since its winter season here, rentals are cheaper and we dont need a private pool (got a communal one anyway) Ive been left with all this shit to sort out while he is brawling in Holland. He of course is taking the landlords side, this is not what i want to hear! I have shouted at him on the phone this morning as its pissing me right off.

 

[nori]

I'd be fuming too!! Sounds like you OH needs to bloody well grow up! My OH used to be a right immature idiot when he got drunk. there were many 4am or 5am calls asking me to pick him up or he'd be walking the streets somewhere. I just dont understand why they get like that. Luckily i think hes realised i aint taking any of that anymore so i hope yours does the same.

Claire x

 

[xxsammyxx]

Its just not fair, he is supposed to be there to secure our future, we are TTC so one day he might have to be a responsible DAD! I know he used to be into football violence before he moved to Spain but this is ridiculous. I dont want to lose him to some guy stabbing him (and the other team did have knives last night) Hes not even good at fighting so i dont know why he even bothers. Im not pleased at all.

 

[puppylove]

Oh dear dont know what to say but wanted to send some hugs as i think you could do with them.

 

[trixipaws]

oh grr i would be utterly seething too! oh im sorry hun idk what to say i hope u can find a nice new place with a nicer landlord than that dick of a one u seem to have now!

and im afraid i agree with nori, ur OH needs to grow up a bit (dont they all, tho?!) my boyf was like that when i met him, fighting all the time and really nasty stuff too at the time i admit i found it exciting but i was only 19 by the time we bought a house when i was 23 i really hated it as i'd fallen in love with him by then and i was worried about him getting hurt even tho he never did i thought he'll get too cocky one day and take on too many other blokes bigger than him im afraid i just had to nag him lots really told him how it upset me and he did start to mellow out a bit. he always used to go out and switch his fone off and i used to get worried thinking allsorts coulde happened. the last time he did that i was pregnant and i really flipped when he came home the next day i had a massive fishwifey rant about what about when the baby arrives what if she asks where is daddy what am i sposed to say oh i dont know he's 12 hours late and i cant get hold of him- anyway i think it hit home he's been very good since he even calls ME when he's out to update me when he'll be home etc or even just texts me that he's ok. think u should sit down with yours and talk to him about it, he needs to really have a rethink he cant be going getting himself into trouble when he's a father its not his right when u have kids u gotta think of them not just urself.

 

[xxsammyxx]

I totally agree trixi.. i have given him a verbal tongue lashing and tore some strips off him and hopefully he will listen (yeah who am i kidding????? ) He claims he wont get into anymore trouble Trouble is with Allan is he just cant help himself poking his snout into everyone elses fight! He seems to feel the need to join in, protect his mates, football team la la la, who gives a fuck!?!?! He has to grow up. The joys of being with a younger bloke I do love him though... the idiot!

 

[EllieBelle]

Oh Sammy as if you dont have enough to worry about, without him getting into trouble too!

He definitely needs to grow up, and fast and that includes not being so "cock sure" at interviews (he needs to remember people sell to people and being like that will get him no-where) - he needs to start acting responsibly and fast!!

Im sorry you are having to put up with this, what after the bloody awful time you had in Holland too

 

[xxsammyxx]

Ellie - yeah i know i mean the car is wrecked in the garage and the insurance company dont know their head from their arse. The assessor is a dork and a lazy git at that. The garage dont give a flying fairy, its been there 5 weeks now. They have whacked a big dent in the side of it I risk losing the courtesy car if its not fixed by Friday meaning DD cant get to school. We will probably have to move soon as the landlord is a greedy *******. OH is away and im having to deal with all this alone. I have doctors appointment and dentist for DD to attend and probably wont have a car... so OH's scrapping and fighting is not what i need right now. Ok lets not feel negative and look at the plus points................... nope there aren't any!!! You gotta laugh eh?

 

[lfc_sarah]

I really wouldnt TTC until he sorts himself out

Things will only get worse hun