OH

[positivity :)]

hi girls,

hope u are all well?

i've mentioned this on another thread but didn't anyone have any problems getting OH to the doctors??

i've had my 21 day bloods, all fine and all my other bloods all fine. i think the next for me is an ultrasound but they won't do it until OH gets his sperm test, but i'm finding it really hard to tell him, i really find it hard to get a balance between sorting out our problems, and adding stress to the situation further!? any tips would be welcome! xx

 

[Princess81]

ooooh, not really any experience hun I imagine it'd be a bit awkward, but I'm guessing that with a bloke it's best to just sit him down and tell him all the facts.
You have been trying for x number of months
Your test results are normal
Your next step is a scan
before you can do your next step you need him to get tested
it is important to you to become a mother and if you want to realise this dream he has to do his bit on a practical level as well as the fun bit.

Thats all I can think of. But being that men are simple creatures (in some ways) it's best to tell him straight I think anyway xx

 

[positivity :)]

Thanks Hun, ur probably right, a direct, factual approach!! Xx

 

[Princess81]

maybe the girls will have better ideas, but that's all I can think of. It's defo what I'd do with mine anyway xx

 

[Vickyxx]

When I told DH he needed to be tested the first thing he asked was do I get video and magazines, he was thinking it had to be done at a sperm bank, when I said he could do it at home he was much more relaxed about it. In the end he done his business in the hospital toilet as he didn't want to miss the one hour window you get lol. I am sure if you offer to assist him with it he won't mind to much xx

 

[LouiseB]

Hmm, i kind of think it depends on you and your husband...

I just told mine to go in the same way i'd tell him to get some milk while he was at the shop

"Oh and by the way you have an appointment at the doctor on Thursday to go and give a sperm sample. And while your in Derby can you pop into Boots and grab me some paracetamol please?"

I think that it helps that you have already been for tests yourself, so it's not just him.

Maybe you can word it so that he is only going so that you can get more tests, rather than him going because it might be him that is the problem - if that makes sense.

I do kind of wonder why it would still be a taboo subject with him though if you are both wanting a baby and are looking for answers.

I think my husband was expecting it to happen when i finally brought it up... are you communicating enough?

 

[positivity :)]

Thanks girls, i suppose I'm worried coz he thinks I stress to much and it will happen in time, so I'm worried he's going to say it's not necessary yet! I think he has read up on it coz he keeps saying 'it hasn't been a year yet'! Xx

 

[Esperanza84]

I agree with princess! Tell him all the facts! We're going to see a specialist together so I guess she will tell my DH to make a test

 

[maybe baby]

Hi Hun,

I got the pot for Hubby from the docs and took it to the lab for him so he only had to do the fun bit.

If you can do that it should make it a lot less scary for him!

xx

 

[Chazabell]

My OH worked it out for himself that he needed to go get checked out too. And because ive moved 90 miles from my doc, we are now in the process of moving docs so we can have the same one, so i can now dragg him along. We have out new patient health check on 24th March, then were gonna get booked in to speak to doctor and tell them what we want.

I like LouiseB's style, "can you pop out and get some milk, and a sperm sample please?" lol xxxx