Oh my good lord...

[SaraLouise]

So I have made the decision this week to begin to wean H off the boob (slowly I may add). I feel its the right time for various reasons, and I was slowly coming to terms with my decision

We have always used nipple shields to bf. He refused to feed from me for 4 days then nipple shields were our saving grace & we have used them ever since. He simply would not latch without them no matter how/what/when I tried.

Harrison has took it upon himself, on the first day of introducing formula feeds in the day (he already has one at night) to decide to latch directly on the boob!! I can't even begin to tell you ladies what a huge huge achievement this is for Harrison! He's has two full feeds on both boobs now.

Its as if he knows what's going on, and is like "please let me stay on the booby mummy" and its completely thrown me. I was so sure now was the time & now I don't know what to do!?

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[knopk@]

Hun i read your other thread and wanted to reply but 2 children can.be demanding. Forgive me if it sounds patronising but you dont sound like you are ready to stop nor does he. See how it goes and go with the flow.
From what i have seen, it sounds like you are still adjusting to the new role and think FFing will help you get things back. But trust me,.it wont really, dont base your decision on this.
I mixed fed my first and EBFing my second and i would choose EBFing any day - no sterilising, lugging bottles etc. Once they start solids, they will decrease feeds too

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[SaraLouise]

I think I really need to think about it, I keep changing my mind.

When he's feeding lovely & at times like today I enjoy bfing & I can't imagine stopping. But at times its so hard, and I resent it.

I wish there was no other option than to just bf, then I would just have to get on with it!


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[knopk@]

i totally understand, i have days when its still challenging but from my experience, the bond it creates is amazing. Dont rush it as you wont be able to reverse your decision most likely. Do you express so OH can take over for a bit?

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[babybee]

Hun, I agree with Knopk, I don't think it sounds (from what youve written in various threads) you're totally ready to give up yet. It's an unbelievably tough decision I know but it sounds like amongst the confusion you'd like to continue breastfeeding but are finding being the sole feeder a bit exhausting? If that's the case, would you express and get OH to do the night time feed and maybe some night feeds?

I hope you don't mind me giving you a very honest and open opinion/observation but I'd be inclined to keep going? I found E goes much longer between feeds and has slept through a few times now. If she doesn't sleep through then wakes once a night and has done for the most part from about 4.5months. Obviously teething/jabs etc have an impact but they do anyway for formula fed babies. Then from 6 months they are weaned and do pretty much the same as their ff friends!

Again this is totally a personal decision and one that only you can make. I just wanted to give you my observation!
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[SaraLouise]

I think you guys are right. I think the fact I keep changing my mind, & the fact I'm finding it so hard to accept is probably a sign I'm not ready to give it up yet.

I need to find a compromise though, because I feel as if I'm burning out.

Maybe expressing more is an option, or maybe accepting the fact that he is able to have a ff if he's being very difficult, we have just been given a perfect prep machine so a ff is able to be made in 2 minutes.

I know deep down its the best for him, and I still cry when I think about losing the bonding time with him. I just feel as if its been 11 weeks of battling & fighting him. Its been a thousand times more difficult then I could have ever imagined, and I wish I could just take a day off from feeding completely tbh, but such is life..

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[SaraLouise]

Well he's refusing nipple again now but at least I know he can actually do it! Just got to get him in the right mood haha x

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[BreastfeedingQ]

If you doubt it , maybe you are just not able to stop yet. Nothing wrong with it. Actually, letting your baby self-wean is the best pro-nursing choice, not because I support Breastfeeding, but just because if you think about it - it is the way nature wants it. If you are in doubt, and Breastfeeding is fun now more than ever - enjoy it! You've already done so much for your baby, now by taking the breast your baby is returning the favor! breastfeed and enjoy it!
Viktoriya from Breastfeeding Quest

 

[Nutsyputs]

I "decided" that I needed to stop feeding my lo at around 4 months for various reasons but mostly ds he often used me for comfort and wouldn't settle with anyone else. He's now 6 months and I'm still feeding him! Once he hit four months he started getting into a feeding routine and now at 6 months he feeds every 3-4 hours. So my point of rambling is I thought we would never get into a routine but we did and I don't feel like its a chore anymore, I look forward to when he wants to feed as it makes me feel like he still needs me!

 

[SaraLouise]

Since this latching thing happened, Harrison has started refusing bottles (formula and breastmilk). Do you think its because he has decided that milk straight from the boob is nicer/easier/better?

It seems too much of a coincidence :/

He just cries, and pokes hos tongue out so the bottle can't be put in but continues to root until he goes on the boob.

I seriously can't have him refusing bottles, letting OH help out with expressed milk & giving him that formula feed before bed so he actually sleeps is the only thing keeping me sane!

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[Nutsyputs]

My lo went through the same but it only lasted a few days

 

[knopk@]

keep trying hun, are you in the room when your DH is giving a bottle? He might refuse to take it from you

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[umbongo]

Awww sounds like he's a cheeky milk monster who wants boob! I'm sure he'll take the bottle again eventually...I guess if he can see/ smell boob he's just not inclined to!
We'll be at two weeks tomorrow and bf is the biggest challenge, and there's a long way to go! I just pray it'll get easier eventually and keep going.... Her little face keeps me going as she loves it even if it nearly kills me at times!!
Good luck with whatever you decide.. instinct is your own good advice usually x