OH and birth

[Misslarue]

My OH has just informed me that he doesn't know if he will look 'down there' when I'm in labour. Apparently he is scared that he will not see my lady bits in the same sexual way, once he sees our son coming out of it and it will put him off sex forever
Is this normal?? Did anyone else's OH say/do/feel this??

 

[Vicki83]

I tihnk a lot of men will be thinking like that, but once they see their bubs being born i think that idea will go out of their heads. Men are too horny to not wanna do anything anyways, whatever they blooming well say!

It's more me than OH that doesn't want him down that end!

 

[Flame]

My OH has pretty much said he isnt going to be in the room when i have mine so not sure who i am taking in with me.

He is a bit funny about all that down there business.

 

[Vicki83]

Bet he wasn't so funny when he was making the bubba though!

 

[Flame]

lol strangely enough no.

Thats what i keep telling him.

 

[cloud9]

my hubby wants to be up the top too, but his twin borther fainted at the birth of his son so think he thinks the same will happen to him LOL

 

[Misslarue]

No, mine had no trouble with that part either!

 

[Vicki83]

What a bunch of wusses our OH's are! Who is it that's gonna be going through it, not just blooming watching from the sidelines!

 

[Misslarue]

What a bunch of wusses our OH's are! Who is it that's gonna be going through it, not just blooming watching from the sidelines!

Mine even used the word 'pressured'!
FFS, what does he think I'm going to be going through. Men, they're such wimps!

 

[Vicki83]

Pressured into what exactly!

Bloodsy men, if it were left upto them to have the babies, we would have been extinct a long time ago!

 

[Misslarue]

Exactly!
I only asked him if he was going to look and he went into this huge panicked speech about how it was he's choice and how he didn't want to be pressured into looking!! He had obviously been thinking about this for some time.

 

[Vicki83]

My god, all you did was ask him!! Ah men, they do make you laugh, then other half of the time you feel like smacking them hehe

 

[Misslarue]

or strangling them

 

[Vicki83]

You know exactly what i'm on about don't you!

 

[Misslarue]

unfortunately yes!

 

[Vicki83]

We'd be lost without them though!

 

[xjdx]

well i was so off my head on gas and air etc i didnt even realise he had seen taylors head coming out, until we were at home and he was telling all his friends that he couldnt believe it stretched that far!so embarrassedMY babys head was stuck coming out thats why he was offered a look

 

[mummykay]

my OH wanted everythin to do with the birth, if he hadnt been in the room both when i was pushin and havin my c section i would have throttled one of the midwives lol!!

Jamies head got stuck, so Mike could c his head with all his hair tryin to get out which i thought he would faint at but he actually just yelled at me to push more!!!

in surgery when i was havin the c section to get Jamie out, all my insides were on show to Mike but still no fainting!!

funnily enough now if i mention it to him he goes green and squemish lol!!!

as for havin sex after the baby, it made no difference to the passion etc and tho we arent plannin more, we r havin fun practisin lol!!

 

[Rosebay]

My Oh was just too squeamish to even come to the anti-natal classes with me! I think that to an extent it depends on how happy they are about it all, I have heard of guys who felt they "had to" be there being very disturbed by the whole thing. I mean put bluntly you are in a lot of pain but as a mother you are kind of already used to having been uncomfortable during the pregnancy plus you have all these incredible hormones rushing around and when the baby is there you really don't give a fig about what's just happened but for the guys it's actually more of a shock mentally I think. My OH said that he hadn't actually been able to believe that we had a baby until he was holding him so it was a big shock all at once. I think he would have been very upset to see me in pain that he had a part in if you see what I mean, and very paniced, I would have worried about him and maybe not have listened to my own body and calmed down into it. My Mum came with me and although she was worried about seeing me in pain when it came to it she didn't feel like that, mostly because she had done it too. She had much more patience too- massaged my back for about 4 hours bless her! She actually thanked me for letting her be there afterwards and I remember her looking down and getting so excited and happy that she could see his head- my OH would have passed out if I had described that happening (not kidding- he has actually passed out when his dad described having a prostrate problem once).

I might just add that my OH suffers with anxiety related depression so it was more a case of knowing what was right for us. Also having him come in afterwards and watching him hold Elliott for the first time and actually seeing him fall in love instantly was probably the best moment of my life and I know that if he had been with me for the 7 hours of active labour before that it wouldn't have happened that way for him so I know we made the right decision. Lots of his male friends gave him grief over it though-like it was some kind of trial that he had to go through to be a real man or something which I thought was really unfair.

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[Rosebay]

My Oh was just too squeamish to even come to the anti-natal classes with me! I think that to an extent it depends on how happy they are about it all, I have heard of guys who felt they "had to" be there being very disturbed by the whole thing. I mean put bluntly you are in a lot of pain but as a mother you are kind of already used to having been uncomfortable during the pregnancy plus you have all these incredible hormones rushing around and when the baby is there you really don't give a fig about what's just happened but for the guys it's actually more of a shock mentally I think. My OH said that he hadn't actually been able to believe that we had a baby until he was holding him so it was a big shock all at once. I think he would have been very upset to see me in pain that he had a part in if you see what I mean, and very paniced, I would have worried about him and maybe not have listened to my own body and calmed down into it. My Mum came with me and although she was worried about seeing me in pain when it came to it she didn't feel like that, mostly because she had done it too. She had much more patience too- massaged my back for about 4 hours bless her! She actually thanked me for letting her be there afterwards and I remember her looking down and getting so excited and happy that she could see his head- my OH would have passed out if I had described that happening (not kidding- he has actually passed out when his dad described having a prostrate problem once).

I might just add that my OH suffers with anxiety related depression so it was more a case of knowing what was right for us. Also having him come in afterwards and watching him hold Elliott for the first time and actually seeing him fall in love instantly was probably the best moment of my life and I know that if he had been with me for the 7 hours of active labour before that it wouldn't have happened that way for him so I know we made the right decision. Lots of his male friends gave him grief over it though-like it was some kind of trial that he had to go through to be a real man or something which I thought was really unfair.

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