Hi girls
I wrote a week ago to say that our marriage is suffering since we had the baby. We went on hoiday for a week and had a lovely time as a family. BUT me and DH had a few drinks on the first night and had a chat (with laughs) about the situation of him not coming anywhere near me...this is what he said: that since I have had the baby he feels that my body belongs to her - he would not be able to think of my boobs in a sexual way because I breastfed and they were meant for the baby. He also said that he could not have oral sex FROM me because he could not stand then seeing me kiss my little girl after knowing that I had just performed oral sex on him!! He said that he was still very much attracted to me but could not get these things out of his head. He said that couples sex lives of our age (!!) was not every night anyway!! (Which I know but once a fortnight would be good.
I feel that I have got to the root of the problem but don't know how to overcome it. I think that his views are strange and I don't know if I can live the rest of my life without a sexual relationship. It is even making me feel really sexually attracted to other men - which is dangerous. I did not tell him this part because I did not want to ruin our first holiday with the baby together - this will have to be said over the next week - SLOWLY< SLOWLY!!!!
What do you girls think??
(By the way, I have lost alot of my pregnancy weight and always make an effort with my appearance and clothes etc so I don't feel that I have gone drastically down hill in any way - it is his problem!!!
Julia xxxx
I wrote a week ago to say that our marriage is suffering since we had the baby. We went on hoiday for a week and had a lovely time as a family. BUT me and DH had a few drinks on the first night and had a chat (with laughs) about the situation of him not coming anywhere near me...this is what he said: that since I have had the baby he feels that my body belongs to her - he would not be able to think of my boobs in a sexual way because I breastfed and they were meant for the baby. He also said that he could not have oral sex FROM me because he could not stand then seeing me kiss my little girl after knowing that I had just performed oral sex on him!! He said that he was still very much attracted to me but could not get these things out of his head. He said that couples sex lives of our age (!!) was not every night anyway!! (Which I know but once a fortnight would be good.
I feel that I have got to the root of the problem but don't know how to overcome it. I think that his views are strange and I don't know if I can live the rest of my life without a sexual relationship. It is even making me feel really sexually attracted to other men - which is dangerous. I did not tell him this part because I did not want to ruin our first holiday with the baby together - this will have to be said over the next week - SLOWLY< SLOWLY!!!!
What do you girls think??
(By the way, I have lost alot of my pregnancy weight and always make an effort with my appearance and clothes etc so I don't feel that I have gone drastically down hill in any way - it is his problem!!!
Julia xxxx