Levi89
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Hi ladies,
I'm needing a little advice...
The story goes, I'm off work with depression & work related stress. All due to my manager being nothing but a bully (I think it's because I'm 22 and her children are the same age as me!) so I complained - 4 times! Yet HR done nothing about it. I've had 7 teeth taken out purely because I've been grinding them in my sleep - because of stress. I always thought I was to young, but seemingly the doc thinks so (I only went for sleeping tablets and he signed me off!). So I've been off for roughly 7 weeks now and still having nightmares about going back. So my plan was to go back to full time education and sort out my career. So after getting a place, securing funding etc, that's when I found out I was expecting! To be honest me & the OH had been trying since December & I was beginning to think something may be up so when we found out I was shocked (but very very happy!!).
Now as it stands, I'm off my work still, I've got a place at college that begins next month and I also have a couple of interviews over the next few weeks - as I had to start looking at a possible move from work as I'm still having nightmares about going back!
What do I do? My parents think I should go back to my current employer as I've been there for over 3 years and I'll then be entitled to full maternity pay, which I won't get should I get employment elsewhere. That sounds like the best plan but the question is - can I go back to under the same management and chance the stress etc (I mean I was breaking down in work!), which could potentially hurt my baby. Or do I leave, begin college (the funding and support I get will be pretty close to my wages) but I won't have money coming in when I'm off with the wee one? Will I be able to concentrate?
I just honestly don't know what to do...? My HR manager is paying me a home visit tomorrow and I plan on mentioning to him that I have done a pregnancy test etc so where do we go from here.
I just wish I could have the best of both until I decided, but I need to get my backside into gear!
Forgot to mention - my OH is a welder, in a secure job, with a pretty decent wage coming in. So it wouldn't be as if we would get help from the government etc.
L xx
I'm needing a little advice...
The story goes, I'm off work with depression & work related stress. All due to my manager being nothing but a bully (I think it's because I'm 22 and her children are the same age as me!) so I complained - 4 times! Yet HR done nothing about it. I've had 7 teeth taken out purely because I've been grinding them in my sleep - because of stress. I always thought I was to young, but seemingly the doc thinks so (I only went for sleeping tablets and he signed me off!). So I've been off for roughly 7 weeks now and still having nightmares about going back. So my plan was to go back to full time education and sort out my career. So after getting a place, securing funding etc, that's when I found out I was expecting! To be honest me & the OH had been trying since December & I was beginning to think something may be up so when we found out I was shocked (but very very happy!!).
Now as it stands, I'm off my work still, I've got a place at college that begins next month and I also have a couple of interviews over the next few weeks - as I had to start looking at a possible move from work as I'm still having nightmares about going back!
What do I do? My parents think I should go back to my current employer as I've been there for over 3 years and I'll then be entitled to full maternity pay, which I won't get should I get employment elsewhere. That sounds like the best plan but the question is - can I go back to under the same management and chance the stress etc (I mean I was breaking down in work!), which could potentially hurt my baby. Or do I leave, begin college (the funding and support I get will be pretty close to my wages) but I won't have money coming in when I'm off with the wee one? Will I be able to concentrate?
I just honestly don't know what to do...? My HR manager is paying me a home visit tomorrow and I plan on mentioning to him that I have done a pregnancy test etc so where do we go from here.
I just wish I could have the best of both until I decided, but I need to get my backside into gear!
Forgot to mention - my OH is a welder, in a secure job, with a pretty decent wage coming in. So it wouldn't be as if we would get help from the government etc.
L xx