Nuchal translucency test/results....Harmony test?

[p1ngu]

Thank you both. I've been thinking more and am now undecided on if we should go for the harmony test regardless. It's still just a risk factor and not a definite answer. It's such a hard decision, I never felt this way with previous planned pregnancies.

Jamie.d, it's very kind of you to reply and let me know your point of view. I love seeing others so supportive and open minded, even though they have had their own struggles and I am sorry to hear you've had a lot of losses. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult they must have been for you. x

 

[Jamie.d]

Thank you, I believe everything happens for a reason, I've healed x
Do whatever is right for you, hats off to those special needs mums who do everything they can for their babies and hats off to the mums who realise it wouldn't be best for themselves or their family x

I love this forum but it's upset me a little that you can't discuss a real worry for you and a very significant one you need support in this instance and it kind of feels like we're oppressed for fear of offence which shouldn't be the case.
I really do wish you all the best xxx

 

[p1ngu]

Thank you, I believe everything happens for a reason, I've healed x
Do whatever is right for you, hats off to those special needs mums who do everything they can for their babies and hats off to the mums who realise it wouldn't be best for themselves or their family x

I love this forum but it's upset me a little that you can't discuss a real worry for you and a very significant one you need support in this instance and it kind of feels like we're oppressed for fear of offence which shouldn't be the case.
I really do wish you all the best xxx

It is what it is. I do feel a bit disappointed that people judge our decision which is ours to make. I wouldn't judge anyone who chose to make a different choice from me, in any situation. It's hard enough being a woman in this world without making each other feel bad!

Still almost 2 weeks until my 12 week scan. I'm still a bit anxious but feeling a little more relaxed about it now. Hopefully all will be fine.

 

[Shanivy]

I'm still subscribed to this and after reading the last few posts, I feel like I need to say I wasn't judging you with my reply. The only reason I told you you should maybe remove that part of your post was because it's against forum rules. So could have gotten your entire post removed. And that people may have focused on that part, which some did. And not your actual question.

That said I'm all for women's rights to choose, everyone's circumstances at every different etc and whatever you decide is up to you. Ive miscarried, struggled to conceive this baby, and worked with people with downs etc. And yet at no point did I want to judge you about what your decision may be. So I hope it doesn't put you off posting in the forum as most of the ladies here are actually very supportive.

Fx for your scan and I hope it works out for you xx

 

[MoominGirl]

Good luck with your scan. I'm glad you're feeling a bit more relaxed though I don't think the worry ever truly settles.

 

[p1ngu]

I'm still subscribed to this and after reading the last few posts, I feel like I need to say I wasn't judging you with my reply. The only reason I told you you should maybe remove that part of your post was because it's against forum rules. So could have gotten your entire post removed. And that people may have focused on that part, which some did. And not your actual question.

That said I'm all for women's rights to choose, everyone's circumstances at every different etc and whatever you decide is up to you. Ive miscarried, struggled to conceive this baby, and worked with people with downs etc. And yet at no point did I want to judge you about what your decision may be. So I hope it doesn't put you off posting in the forum as most of the ladies here are actually very supportive.

Fx for your scan and I hope it works out for you xx

It's okay, I didn't know it wasn't allowed to be discussed on the forum so thanks for letting me know. x

Good luck with your scan. I'm glad you're feeling a bit more relaxed though I don't think the worry ever truly settles.

Thanks.

 

[Jamie.d]

hope you're feeling a little better? it is so so worrying..

I wasn't meaning to bite anyone's head off, it was just the nature of the post was very sensitive so I don't see why anyone would have the nerve to come on and start telling her not to talk about it when she was already so upset?

Is there any admins who can make some adjustments? I know it's a controversial subject that is difficult to police but especially with everything going on recently in Ireland I think it should be something women can get support with?
As we all know, this forum has helped countless numbers of women who have worries, fears and just need to talk to someone who cares! The same should go for the instance as when the pregnancy may not be such a joyful situation..

We aren't living in the stone ages anymore, we need to be fighting for our rights as women and we need to hold each other up, no woman should feel isolated in this kind of situation