not telling any one

[nicky1980]

hi every one
im 5 weeks pregnant with my 5th child i told my family i wanted another baby and they were all really negative about the idea so now i really dont want to tell any one mine or my husbands family is any one in the same situation

 

[flexilexi394]

hi, not in same situation but didnt want to read and run, maybe leave it a few more weeks before telling people? then i guess youre a little safer if youre further along. wishing you all the best xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I agree with lexi hun, maybe wait abit longer before telling anyone but at the same time remember its your life. I know its upsetting when you dont get the reaction you would like but they will soon come round. Goodluck x x


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[queenanne]

Hi Nicky, I really feel for you. I'm nearly 10 weeks with my fourth, my youngest is 9, and though my situation isn't exactly the same, it's similar.

For years my parents have been saying they didn't want anymore grandchildren, 14 at present and my OH has 10 kids, 6 his and 4 step children.

I've been terrified about telling people and only the minimum know. My OH kids don't know yet. Things I worry about are my age, 40, having to start again, what will my brothers say, what will others think?

I did tell my parents and the reaction was one of joy, much to my surprise. Maybe the reality is different from the theory. Or maybe mum was thinking back to when she had my little brother, her mum's reaction was, you have a boy and girl, isn't there something you can do about that. My nan did however love him to bits when he was born.

End of the day though, what the hell does it matter what other people think, any child is a gift and it is our lives not theirs. I should maybe start thinking like that, but sometimes it's easier said than done.

 

[amyjayne77]

I was kind of the same . I had 2 kids but my hubby had 2 from before we were together who live with us so I had 4 children and I really wanted another of my own. We didn't tell anyone we were ttc. It happened very quickly and I was apprehensive about telling people whereas my hubbys opinion was " well fuck'em if they're not happy for us a baby is a blessing however many you have"

Well we got very mixed reactions. My mum was stoney faced shocked. My granny nearly had a heart attack and wished my baby dead to whoever listened. Friends from the school kept saying " I take it this was an accident then".
It's like I was expected to be embarrassed for having lots of kids. My friend is in the same boat and preg with her 4th.

However, in time the negativity dissapeares and even my granny thinks Oscar is wonderful and spoils him rotten (probably from guilt).

You have the right to enjoy your pregnancy as much as anyone.
Congrats xxxx

 

[nicky1980]

thanks a lot for your advice guys im gonna wait till after christmas to tell any one so we will see