Not Happy :(

[DebbieM]

I'm not feeling very happy at the moment....

Since Matt and I are effectively self employed, it meant that I didn't really get any maternity leave. It was bad enough before I had Luke since I had to work right up until his birth (apart from the final week as we were both ill and I was having contractions for the whole week).

Anyway, this week is my last week not working at all. I only have to work a couple of hours a day and will do that in the morning so that I have the rest of the day to myself but I can't help but to feel cheated over the whole situation and it's making me sad.

Two hours a day doesn't sound a lot, but that is only going to be for a week or so and then I will be back to half days I honestly don't know how I am going to manage it inbetween feeding Luke and everything else.

I (used to) enjoy working from home, but now all I want to do is be with my baby boy all the time and give him all my attention. I don't want to have to split my time between him and work so early - he's only 7 week old tomorrow. I sometimes wish I had a job elsewhere because at least then I'd have been able to have my full 6 or 12 months off.

So depressing

 

[mary70]

arrr bless hun cant be easy for u at least while he is small u can work while he sleeps

 

[loz]

I guess at least you will be at home with him, even if you have to work. I dont know how I will cope with going back to work part-time in September. The thought of someone else looking after Emms makes me sad

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Hi babe,

I can sympathise. Alan and i own our own business too and I have been doing bits and pieces from when James was 4 weeks old.

For me, the thought of having to do it was different to the actual reality - I found that if I got stuff done when James was sleeping it wasnt so bad.

I dont know what you do so dont know if that is possible, but essentially what I did was know I had to work 4 hours a day for example, but I would do my best to do it when he was asleep and now he isnt sleeping as much I let him play in his playgym or he watches 1/2 hour of Baby First channel whilst I get stuff done.

In that way Im still in the room with him and get to be with him but Im getting stuff done too.

I know its tough but in a way we are lucky cos we can be a lot more flexible than those mums who do have to go back to work in 3/6 months time. When they are upset about having to leave bubs for a full day, at least we can still see our little uns.

 

[Gem & Leland]

think jo said it perfectly , u managed so well working when preggy i thinkyou'll manage brill with luke too , does that mean you'll be online more hehehehe

 

[Babylicious]

 

[Sophie1102]

I sympathise with you, I'm self employed too and was in work on the Monday when i started to get pains and had Owen the following morning so like you didn't get any time to myself before he came, I have then been doing some work from when he was 3 days old!!! He happened to come just before the year end Payroll had to be done and I have VAT returns to finish tonight!!!!

It is nice to be able to work while baby sleeps and I do feel lucky that I don't have to leave him and go back to work without him.

I'm sure you'll be fine x x x

 

[Pregnopaws]

I really feel for you debs, and it makes me feel guilty because I don't have to work at all. I hope that you can come up with a way to spend more time with your little angel.