No more....

[liviray]

Morning everyone.
Just thought I'd let you guys know, that for now, me and OH are not ttc anymore. We almost split up yesterday. Lots of tears and shouting. Long storyhe is feeling emmense pressure. He has a new business which is taking up 110%of his time. He's become very moody (more than usual!!). We are also buying a house (which is gona be very expensive!) and starting a family!! It's too much for him to cope with at the moment. He doesn't cope with anything very well anyway!!!
We've only been together for 19 months, so have decided its too much too soon. he pressure was getting to me too really, i.e. peeing on a stick/taking temps,taking the right vitamins/getting upset every month!!!
We are going to move into the new house, do it up with the £9000 we'll have left over from the sale. Then we're going to sell it for a tidy profit (which is easily done in cornwall!!). The profit we make will go towards us going travelling around the world for a year or so. Then settle somewhere and ttc again....
I'll still have my scans etc at the moment, so hopefully they can pinpoint what is wrong with me and clear out my tubes ready for when we are ready.

I'd like to know anyone's thoughts on this...Are we doing the right thing?

I love him so much...I hope it works....

 

[LauraB]

aw Liv Sounds to me like you're doing the right thing ... just by the way you ended your post (I thought you were going to say that you were splitting up for good!).

You love him loads, you're getting a new house together, a chance to go travelling, and you're going to continue with all the tests too which is a great thing as it will save time when you eventually settle and start TTC again ...... it sounds like you've got lots of lovely things in the pipeline to keep your mind occupied

Obviously I don't know either of you(!) but seeing as you asked ..... my initial thoughts after reading what you wrote were yes, it does sound like you are doing the right thing. What would be the alternative?

 

[fothers]

Good luck, enjoy travelling and chill out and hopefully everything will just fall into place after that.

 

[liviray]

There is no alternative...... I'd have to let him go

 

[Layla]

so sorry hun

xxx

 

[rusks]

oh mate i am so so sorry it has turned out like this. i know the both of you have been under a lot of pressure lately and a lot has happened all at once what with the house and all the stress of ttc especially when everyone around you are getting PG as well.

maybe it is for the best to have a little break and sort yourselfs out moving house is very stressful and when that is sorted you can re think what you want to do. its good that you are carrying on with the tests so when the time is right for you you will be raring to go.

hope things are ok with you and OH you make a lovely couple and i know you love eachother very much

 

[lauramumof2]

You sound like you have made the right decision. Its a very unselfish thing to do and in years to come you will look back and be glad hopefully.
Good luck with the house, that sounds really exciting.

 

[rach]

hun im so sorry im sure when the time is right for you it will happen in the meantime get back to being a loving couple and enjoy yourselves the travelling sounds like a fantastic opportunity we are always here for you xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Peanut]

Hi Liviray

Sounds like the right choice to me...and I think you're pretty young right? Loads of time for ttc later.

One question though, if OH is starting a new business how will you be able to go travelling? Sorry if that's a dumb question

Pea x

 

[liviray]

Hey all!
Thanks for all your kind words.
Peanut, OHs business is in the surfing industry so we will move with surf etc, gaining contacts and clients as we go. ....hopefully. He's just had a rough life up to now and wants to travel, see the world and get it out of his system... Who knows, we may like it so much somewhere else, we could live somewhere new!!!!

And if it doesn't work between us, I know I've got good friends down here to come back to!

 

[Andrianne]

I'm sorry to hear that liviray

Maybe this break is for the best. I know it's only been two days or so but how are you feeling about it? Have you discussed it with OH any further? I really hope everything works out in the best way for you. TTC can put such a pressure on both partners and men aren't really good at talking about these things, they prefer to keep them inside.

Let us know how you're doing. Take care and good luck with your plans!

xxx
Andrianne

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I think you are doing the right thing hun i wish you all the luck for your future together and dont be shy
Katrina