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[Hearyoume]

Hi, im fairly neew. Been TTC for 3 months now. 2nd month I thought it had happened as I was 3 days late. Normally never late. But false hope. Thought again again may have happened this month as I started spotting but no period, but then period came 2 days after spotting though a lot light then normal but last longer. Safe to say with I feel absolutely gutted.

I’m 28 years old, a step mum to a lovely 10 year old boy And I know it’s only been a short period of time but it’s really got to me today that I’ve had 2 false hopes and it hasn’t happened.

I was on the pill until a year ago, then switched to the coil as my job change meant I wasn’t able to take my pill at the same time due working different hours. Surely everything should be out my system by now?

Thank all

 

[Chase]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

are you tracking Ovulation?

Please try not to worry, it's normal for it to take a while. Even with everything in your favour you have a 25% chance of being successful every month.

 

[Hearyoume]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

are you tracking Ovulation?

Please try not to worry, it's normal for it to take a while. Even with everything in your favour you have a 25% chance of being successful every month.

Yes I’m trying. I’m using an app as I don’t even see or feel a difference in myself. I have no idea how to put the tracking information for my period this month though because it Just seemed so on and off and a lot of the time it wasn’t heavy or on the pad just when wiping etc for a few days then I had a odd day where it was on the pad but only once or twice in the day. Sorry for TMI.

I think I just feel defeated so easily as I’ve wanted a child in past relationships which where long term and ended because in the end I was always told no I can’t have one and I just accepted it for a while. Now I’m with someone who’s happy to have a child with me I jus feel a bit more pressure within myself. Luckily I’m trying to not think about it but today is just one did them says x

 

[Chase]

Apps are an estimate, you are much better using ovulation sticks to track OV. You can buy them cheaply from ebay or amazon etc

Also keep an eye on your CM (cervical mucus).

 

[katie88]

welcome to the forum hun,

huge hugs! this whole TTC malarkey can be a bit of a rollercoaster! Be kind to yourself and try not to get too down on yourself. They can say that first time round it can take 6-12 months to fall pregnant. So just try not to worry too much, track your cycle and just have fun with trying with your partner.

 

[Hearyoume]

Thank you all.
I spoke to my partner the other day about it all and he even said he would of expected something by now (most likely cos his ex fell really quickly, when they where young and not intentionally trying). I think I just hit a rough patch in the whole TTC however though I’m still gutted it hasn’t happened yet I’m feeling a lot better within myself and we’re having fun with it again.

We both said we will have bad days but we’ve just got to try and have fun with it all and not just focus on trying all the time

 

[Sunflower1]

It takes an average of 6 months to conceive. I think we are all taught that it's very easy to get pregnant, but that's not the case...it takes time.

 

[IVW]

Definitely takes time you have only got to read in this forum to learn that.

You just have to learn when is best to dtd and almost listen to your body.

Good luck

 

[Crumble]

A lot of for you....I know how horrible is to know that your partner/husband had a baby with an ex and quickly and you feel like you are "failing" and it is your fault, I know the feeling very well. It isn't the case, every situation it is different, every couple it is different and isn't nobody fault. Please don't blame yourself and keep positive, will happen when it is time, your time, your story, nobody else