Newbie saying hello/question about AF

[Emma79]

Hi everyone

Just wanted to say hi and a big thankyou to you all, as even though this is my first post, have been logging on for a few weeks and have found a lot of the comments/advice etc really helpful in trying to come to terms with my m/c.

Sadly, we lost our little angel 8 wks ago and not a day goes by without me thinking and wishing things had been different (as I'm sure you all are).

The main problem I'm having is that 8 weeks on I'm still awaiting first AF and am feeling really frustrated. Personally I feel ready to TTC again but would prefer to get AF over with first so that I know my body is ready too. I just wondered if anyone else had had a similar experience or any other advice to stop me from stressing so much - the more I try not to think about it, the more I do!

Thanks x

 

[miffy]

Hi Emma

Firstly, just wanted to say sorry for your loss

I've had 2 mcs at 10 wks this year, and I know how hard it is being so close to the magic 12 week mark.

Can't really help with your query, after 1st mc, I waited for AF which came 5 and a half weeks after D&C. I then fell pg again first cycle, but mc again exactly as before. AF then came 6 wks later. Have TTC'd one cycle but think AF is on its way tonight

I'm sure your AF will be here soon. Do you know if you've ovulated yet? Everyone has differing opinions whether to wait for AF or not. Second time around I didn't wait, but it didn't make any difference anyway, as I didn't fall pg.

Good luck with the TTC whenever you decide to start

 

[Steelgoddess]

Hi there and welcome to the forum

I think every woman is different and i also thing AF coming can depend on a number of things, if you m.c naturally or had a d and c etc...

The normal reccomended time for AF arriving can range from 4 weeks right up to 8 weeks.

Is there any way you could be preggo again now? if so maybe a test might be an idea I would also suggest seeing as its been eight weeks already maybe a visit to your docs might be an idea?

Maybe you'll wake up tomorrow and find it comes but either way i hope it does come for you soon so you can press forward

xxx

 

[Emma79]

Thanks for the replies; I'm probably just focusing way too much on it right now, which is probably not helping matters!

Am not at all sure when or if I've ov'd; I was lucky enough to fall pregnant soon after stopping the pill so never really got into monitoring my cycle, although before starting the pill I seem to remember always being a few days late but never missing completely.

As for maybe being pg again, I must admit although we started off using condoms, the longer its gone on, the less careful we've been. I did actually do a HPT yesterday and got a BFN, which I think deep down I knew it would be. I think my next step will be a trip to the doc's although not really sure there's a lot they can do but at least it feels like I'm doing something instead of just waiting.

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,

Very sorry to hear of your loss.

8 weeks sounds like quite a long time - I think they told me anything between 4 and 6 weeks, but it could have been 8.

I would definitely recommend going to the doc if nothing happens over the next couple of days - it'll be good to put your mind at rest if nothing else.

Best wishes,

 

[Slinky Sarah]

Hi emma, im so sorry for your loss.
I cant really help with your question....i went back on the pill so i had my AF in my pill free week as normal....this is the first true AF iv had since my loss 3 months ago cos we are TTC now.
Try not to worry too much, this could be stopping AF. Id go to the docs and see what they recommend.
Take care x