New member - not new TTCer

[ts2573]

Hi all. So I've been on the TTC wagon for a while - 8 years to be precise. We originally wanted a couple of years age gap between DD1 and #2. DD1 is now 11 years old so I think the gap is going to be larger than originally planned.

Originally we were all aboard. We charted, tested and plotted. If a tip was out there we took it and ran. We ranged for DTD daily to scientifically chosen days and even as far as having them chosen by a psychic who 'guaranteed' success. We had years of no baby and only 2 BFP both ending in an almost instantaneous mc.

Unfortunately my mental health took a massive hit and I couldn't take TTC much longer. We didn't stop trying per se, but we stopped *trying*. Basically we decided to get things together and get my head straight. No contraception was used. No baby arrived.

A couple of years ago I fell ill with my gall bladder and we took a break whilst I had that removed. Then I was diagnosed pre-diabetic and peri-menopausal. I was edging on 17 stone, smoking heavily and tbh not living a very pg friendly life.

Things have changed.

I am now a non-smoker (2 years) and slimming down nicely (2 stone gone since January). I'm eating better, feeling better and generally feeling more like it's time to get focused and give this one last try. I'm 32 now, I know time is edging forwards. Especially with the peri-menopausal diagnosis which my doctor will not reverse even though my af's are now suddenly clockwork (exactly once a month to the day) and all of my hormonal symptoms are gone.

So that's me. 8 years of ttc from hard-core trying to just dtd without a goalie. Definitely looking for support, tips and some ladies to laugh through this with. It's the last hard-core run before we admit defeat and get another cat.

 

[treetrunks]

Hi, nice to meet you , we are also 2 years into ttc, we both have children from previous relationships but are trying for a baby together.
It's not an easy process because everything feels related to ttc, what you eat, what you drink, where you go on holiday, just almost everything you think about in some way.
And so inevitably you have to find yourself here with other people who totally get it all....
I have actually learnt alot in just the few weeks I've been on here so hopefully its a step in the right direction.
Be great to see you on the testing threads etc, everyone is really nice and helpful xx

 

[ts2573]

Thanks treetrunks.

It definitely does get to the point of obsession sometimes. I had to leave the forums I used to go on and cannot for the life of me find them again, but I had to step away and make life about more than pee sticks and babymaking. Granted we didn't actually stop that part haha.

I'm already finding a lot of bits I didn't know. I'm glad I found a friendly place.

 

[KatD]

Welcome!! I hope that this time around your TTC journey will be a short one. Great to hear that you are in a better space, I hope you will go from strength to strength and I'm keeping my FX