I actually have no idea where to begin and will try make this as short as possible but I cant guarantee that LOL.
Anyways im not very close with my sister. Shes a very judgemental person and if im honest quite vile too. She has this persona that shes got the perfect life etc but deep down shes miserable. Shes married with 2 boys,has a decent job and a lovely house and im very proud of everything she has achieved. But the things she says and does, leaves me shocked and disgusted.
We arent close, she happily stab the knife into my back and twist it for good measure, shes been the start of many arguements with other people and family members due to running back and forth with stuff she shouldnt and also twisting things a bit. My mum and OH didn't speak for near 3yrs due to her twisting something that had nothing to do wi her making things very difficult for me.
She also will only contact me when it suits her, or if shes needing someone to look after or collect the boys, has nothing else to do so will contact me but only when this suits her, any other time I dont exist. We dont do things as a family and at weekends I never get invited to go to beach or whatever with her despite my DD being 4months older than her youngest son.
We have had our fair share of fall outs, the last one was her telling me I was a "fuck up" as I dont work. I have worked since I was 14yrs old and even worked full time while being a single mum to my DS, I gave up work when I was 26 due to pregnancy with my DD and also being diagnosed with spinal arthritis. She also at one point told me she no longer had a sister and that I was dead to her....yes I started to speak to her again after all these horrid things but I would never make the effort.
On numerous occasions she has told me she fantasies about another man etc...not bad for someone whos in a happy marriage.
Anyway when i was pregnant with my DD, when I announced I was having a girl, she fell out with me again and went slagging me off to my dad saying I always seem to land in shit and come out smelling of roses and that cos she was my parents 1st born and I had given my parents their 1st grandson it should be her giving them their 1st granddaughter and not me. Again, I let her back in my life before my DD was born and she announced she was pregnant. Of course her pregnancy was a lot worse,it was some sort of competition for her...I couldnt care less as long as my baby was fine. She told people she didnt know the sex of the baby and when she had him (2nd boy), she rang me to announce and asked if i was disappointed to have another nephew (wtf). Of course I wasnt. I was just happy that both where ok! Anyways later on she admitted that she did know the sex and had done from 16weeks but was too gutted to announce to people that it was another boy and cried all day the day she found out.
Now just before xmas past, she told me she wanted to try again, for a girl, and if it was a boy then she could at least say she had tried for a girl etc. Fair enough. But to then go to the hassle she did is rather weird. She was told to loose weight, not eat meat and exercise for a better chance of a girl, she even asked a fertility specialist what the best chances of having a girl..to which he confirmed what I had told her...none as its the male that determines the sex of the child. I said her hubby might just only produce boys, to which she said he better not!
Anyways, I then announce im preg,complete shock to us but not unexpected as we wherent preventing. When I announce my pregnancy to her she then announces that she might be too and I was genuinely happy for her. Theres about 6weeks between us. From the moment she confirmed her pregnancy its been non-stop chat about it being a girl. That certain things feel diff,must be a girl etc. I explain im no fussed, yes I already have 1 of each but still even if I didnt I wasnt bothered as long as ok. I then get admitted to hosp with severe dehydration and HG....of course again this isn't as bad as her.
I was visiting my mum and she was there and I stumbled due to the pain in my bk along with SPD,I have it quite severe this time, mum asks whats wrong and I explain and my sis comes out with "well you opened your fucking legs"...oh so that means I deserve SPD? I said well you did too, to which she hits back with "yeah but I dont have that pathetic excuse SPD". She also doesnt seem to bother with her boys. At mums its as if she expects everyone else to look after them apart from her.
Well the other week it was her hubby's birthday and only a few days beforehand I had helped her and collected boys for her despite my back,spd and looking after my own children. For some reason I was not invited to her hubby's birthday tea that she had put on for him and rest of family, when my mum asked about me going, seemingly she shrugged and said she didnt want me there, or my kids! Mum explained she wouldnt lie about where she was going or where I had been if I was to ask. I found out and pulled her up about it to which she said it was cos I wasnt well that day, but she didnt actually know I wasnt well that day until after the birthday meal cos thats when she was told.
Well I had my 20wk scan and had explained I was scared incase something was wrong due to the tablets I have to take for my bk, she said all would be ok which thankfully all is well. She then explains shes dreading her 20wk scan,I asked why was she worried about something in particular and she said "no im just dreading them telling me its another boy" (actually gobsmacked). I asked if this time round she was going to tell anyone the sex as she didnt with the other 2 and she said yes if its a girl I will announce...never said what she would do if another boy. I told her on day of my scan she was getting another nephew and she seems pretty happy about this.
Well she had her 20wk scan and despite us not talking due to her non invite and her lies regarding the invite,I still text her wishing well on scan and asked if all was ok. She replied saying all was fine and that she didnt find out the sex as baby was moving too much...fair enough.
Next day my mum visits and I ask her how scan went, not letting on that I had spoken to her as my mum went to scan with her. She said all went well but "she doesnt want you to know the sex"....I was like huh? No like she can keep it a secret forever plus I couldn't care as long as baby ok but going by her no wanting me to know im going to say its another boy, to which my mum confirmed but I wasn't to repeat.
Honestly how can someone be like that? If she didn't want me to know then fair enough thats her choice, dont lie about it! Ive caught her a few times calling her oldest a "fucking little arsehole"in earshot lf him too. She seems to only like them when they babies and seemed to resent her youngest for not being a girl and hasnt bonded with my daughter,its as if im hated for having a girl and my daughter is as well. Shes just a vile person and no1 cares what shes having but cos shes made such a drama about it having to be a girl, shes now not announcing sex of this child.
Pointless post really just needed it off my chest but im glad ive washed my hands of her. I won't be helping out when she needs me to watch the boys and I wont be there when shes bored and needing company...she is never there for me and even doubts my back condition along with HG that I have with this pregnancy.
I just hope by time our LO is born that im strong enough to stick to my guns and not let her back in my life again...I dont need ppl like that in my lofe family or not. I dont deserve to be picked up and dropped when it suits and to not be invited to a family event was final straw!
And I can now confirm, she does no longer have a sister so shes got what she wanted.
Please if anyone thinks im being unfair, please say so,it would be nice to hear from an outsiders point of view . Thanks for getting this far!xx
Anyways im not very close with my sister. Shes a very judgemental person and if im honest quite vile too. She has this persona that shes got the perfect life etc but deep down shes miserable. Shes married with 2 boys,has a decent job and a lovely house and im very proud of everything she has achieved. But the things she says and does, leaves me shocked and disgusted.
We arent close, she happily stab the knife into my back and twist it for good measure, shes been the start of many arguements with other people and family members due to running back and forth with stuff she shouldnt and also twisting things a bit. My mum and OH didn't speak for near 3yrs due to her twisting something that had nothing to do wi her making things very difficult for me.
She also will only contact me when it suits her, or if shes needing someone to look after or collect the boys, has nothing else to do so will contact me but only when this suits her, any other time I dont exist. We dont do things as a family and at weekends I never get invited to go to beach or whatever with her despite my DD being 4months older than her youngest son.
We have had our fair share of fall outs, the last one was her telling me I was a "fuck up" as I dont work. I have worked since I was 14yrs old and even worked full time while being a single mum to my DS, I gave up work when I was 26 due to pregnancy with my DD and also being diagnosed with spinal arthritis. She also at one point told me she no longer had a sister and that I was dead to her....yes I started to speak to her again after all these horrid things but I would never make the effort.
On numerous occasions she has told me she fantasies about another man etc...not bad for someone whos in a happy marriage.
Anyway when i was pregnant with my DD, when I announced I was having a girl, she fell out with me again and went slagging me off to my dad saying I always seem to land in shit and come out smelling of roses and that cos she was my parents 1st born and I had given my parents their 1st grandson it should be her giving them their 1st granddaughter and not me. Again, I let her back in my life before my DD was born and she announced she was pregnant. Of course her pregnancy was a lot worse,it was some sort of competition for her...I couldnt care less as long as my baby was fine. She told people she didnt know the sex of the baby and when she had him (2nd boy), she rang me to announce and asked if i was disappointed to have another nephew (wtf). Of course I wasnt. I was just happy that both where ok! Anyways later on she admitted that she did know the sex and had done from 16weeks but was too gutted to announce to people that it was another boy and cried all day the day she found out.
Now just before xmas past, she told me she wanted to try again, for a girl, and if it was a boy then she could at least say she had tried for a girl etc. Fair enough. But to then go to the hassle she did is rather weird. She was told to loose weight, not eat meat and exercise for a better chance of a girl, she even asked a fertility specialist what the best chances of having a girl..to which he confirmed what I had told her...none as its the male that determines the sex of the child. I said her hubby might just only produce boys, to which she said he better not!
Anyways, I then announce im preg,complete shock to us but not unexpected as we wherent preventing. When I announce my pregnancy to her she then announces that she might be too and I was genuinely happy for her. Theres about 6weeks between us. From the moment she confirmed her pregnancy its been non-stop chat about it being a girl. That certain things feel diff,must be a girl etc. I explain im no fussed, yes I already have 1 of each but still even if I didnt I wasnt bothered as long as ok. I then get admitted to hosp with severe dehydration and HG....of course again this isn't as bad as her.
I was visiting my mum and she was there and I stumbled due to the pain in my bk along with SPD,I have it quite severe this time, mum asks whats wrong and I explain and my sis comes out with "well you opened your fucking legs"...oh so that means I deserve SPD? I said well you did too, to which she hits back with "yeah but I dont have that pathetic excuse SPD". She also doesnt seem to bother with her boys. At mums its as if she expects everyone else to look after them apart from her.
Well the other week it was her hubby's birthday and only a few days beforehand I had helped her and collected boys for her despite my back,spd and looking after my own children. For some reason I was not invited to her hubby's birthday tea that she had put on for him and rest of family, when my mum asked about me going, seemingly she shrugged and said she didnt want me there, or my kids! Mum explained she wouldnt lie about where she was going or where I had been if I was to ask. I found out and pulled her up about it to which she said it was cos I wasnt well that day, but she didnt actually know I wasnt well that day until after the birthday meal cos thats when she was told.
Well I had my 20wk scan and had explained I was scared incase something was wrong due to the tablets I have to take for my bk, she said all would be ok which thankfully all is well. She then explains shes dreading her 20wk scan,I asked why was she worried about something in particular and she said "no im just dreading them telling me its another boy" (actually gobsmacked). I asked if this time round she was going to tell anyone the sex as she didnt with the other 2 and she said yes if its a girl I will announce...never said what she would do if another boy. I told her on day of my scan she was getting another nephew and she seems pretty happy about this.
Well she had her 20wk scan and despite us not talking due to her non invite and her lies regarding the invite,I still text her wishing well on scan and asked if all was ok. She replied saying all was fine and that she didnt find out the sex as baby was moving too much...fair enough.
Next day my mum visits and I ask her how scan went, not letting on that I had spoken to her as my mum went to scan with her. She said all went well but "she doesnt want you to know the sex"....I was like huh? No like she can keep it a secret forever plus I couldn't care as long as baby ok but going by her no wanting me to know im going to say its another boy, to which my mum confirmed but I wasn't to repeat.
Honestly how can someone be like that? If she didn't want me to know then fair enough thats her choice, dont lie about it! Ive caught her a few times calling her oldest a "fucking little arsehole"in earshot lf him too. She seems to only like them when they babies and seemed to resent her youngest for not being a girl and hasnt bonded with my daughter,its as if im hated for having a girl and my daughter is as well. Shes just a vile person and no1 cares what shes having but cos shes made such a drama about it having to be a girl, shes now not announcing sex of this child.
Pointless post really just needed it off my chest but im glad ive washed my hands of her. I won't be helping out when she needs me to watch the boys and I wont be there when shes bored and needing company...she is never there for me and even doubts my back condition along with HG that I have with this pregnancy.
I just hope by time our LO is born that im strong enough to stick to my guns and not let her back in my life again...I dont need ppl like that in my lofe family or not. I dont deserve to be picked up and dropped when it suits and to not be invited to a family event was final straw!
And I can now confirm, she does no longer have a sister so shes got what she wanted.
Please if anyone thinks im being unfair, please say so,it would be nice to hear from an outsiders point of view . Thanks for getting this far!xx
