Need to order bridesmaid dress but secretly pregnant!!

[LouTTC]

One of my good friends just asked me to be a bridesmaid for her April wedding, which I’m thrilled about! I am six weeks pregnant, so will be around six months pregnant (fingers crossed!) at the time.

I haven’t told my friends that we were TTC (trying to conceive) or that I am now happily pregnant. I also had some bleeding and cramping that gave me a miscarriage fright last week, so not overly keen to tell anyone til I’ve at least seen a scan and heartbeat to check there’s really a viable bean in there.

However, my friend wants to order our bridesmaids dresses right now to take advantage of a deal. They’re knee length, thick material, fitted and not that forgiving (I would think it would be unflattering even if I wasn’t pregnant). I’ve already told her I want to order a size larger than I am as I’d rather it was too big and take it in, than too small, but I’m worried even this may not fit and I can’t tell her the real reason I want a big dress!



What would you do?

 

[Lollypop79]

If it was me I would tell her if she’s a good friend. She will push to order the dress and wonder why your hesitant. I’m getting married in August next year and I’d prefer it if my bridesmaids would tell me if pregnant so could sort out an appropriate dress that they’d be comfortable in. I totally get the worry and not wanting to say anything to soon but if she is a good friend she will want to support you xx

 

[Elfs Mummy]

I’d tell her the truth. Even if things go wrong your friend will want to support you. Xx

 

[SugaryIris]

I was invited to my friends wedding which is in Greece a few weeks after my due date so I just told her I was pregnant when I found out rather than stringing her along.
I get why you wouldn’t want to tell people, I’ve had 3 losses, but I think telling one or two for genuine reasons is ok, it will help her understand why you aren’t ready to order a dress x