Really sorry to hear of your troubles with you BF. It sounds like you really love your BF but please please don't stay with a bloke who continues to be violent towards you. There's always the chance that he could turn on LO too - young babies are extremely stressful when they won't stop crying - they really really test the patience of even the best natured of people, and when they become young children they're constantly pushing you as far as they can - having children can be like being on a really scary emotional rollercoaster!!!
I'd also like to mention that my Dad was violent - he couldn't cope with the stress of kids etc and occaisionally smashed up things in the house and really lost it with my brother and I. Funnily enough I never remember him really hurting me - it was the fear that he'd lost all control that scared me the most. When he was in one of those moods he was, as my Mum put it, capable of anything! It only happened very occasionally but that's all it took to scare the living daylights out of me, and I had nightmares for years!!! When I was in my early 20s I suffered with depression and had to have counselling, and I came to realise that my lack of confidence and low self worth was closely linked to these occasionaly events. I still do have probs now although I'll always love my Dad - afterall, he's my Dad. When you love someone it is not straightforward!
If your bloke is willing to really try and get professional help it may be worth giving him another chance but if it were me I wouldn't even consider it until he was showing a real committment to sorting himself out! And if he refuses to do this - well you sound like you've got a fantastic family and I hope you can find the strength to show him the door.
Really hope you are able to resolve this.
I'd also like to mention that my Dad was violent - he couldn't cope with the stress of kids etc and occaisionally smashed up things in the house and really lost it with my brother and I. Funnily enough I never remember him really hurting me - it was the fear that he'd lost all control that scared me the most. When he was in one of those moods he was, as my Mum put it, capable of anything! It only happened very occasionally but that's all it took to scare the living daylights out of me, and I had nightmares for years!!! When I was in my early 20s I suffered with depression and had to have counselling, and I came to realise that my lack of confidence and low self worth was closely linked to these occasionaly events. I still do have probs now although I'll always love my Dad - afterall, he's my Dad. When you love someone it is not straightforward!
If your bloke is willing to really try and get professional help it may be worth giving him another chance but if it were me I wouldn't even consider it until he was showing a real committment to sorting himself out! And if he refuses to do this - well you sound like you've got a fantastic family and I hope you can find the strength to show him the door.
Really hope you are able to resolve this.
