Belfa
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Hi
I got a private message on Instagram yesterday from a girl who sent me a screen shot of a message from my husband. She had asked him if he was married and he said we had separated just after conceiving. I actually thought it was very clever spam and showed it to him in a "omg look at this spam" and he came clean straight away.
He told me he had met her on Tinder and joined on Sunday and deleted it straightaway once he realised what an idol he was...I thought about this during the day and it didn't make sense as we were together all day on Sunday and had had a great time at a friends wedding on the Saturday so I wasn't sure why he'd feel the need to go on a dating site?
I decided to look at his emails and there's an email from tinder from May of this year. I then replied to the girl who sent me more of the conversation. Basically he had organised to meet her for a drink and when she tried to follow him on Instagram she saw the picture of us at the wedding the day before and caught him out. She tore in to him a peach, I'm quite impressed! She said she had just joined Tinder and was disgusted that the first guy she talked to turned out to be married so deleted it.
Anyway, armed with this new info I confronted him last night. He then told me he had been on it for 3 or 4 days, then it turned in to a month. He says he didn't join in May 2015 but I don't think Tinder would randomly spam him to let him know he can now update his profile through Instagram if he hadn't already been on it?
I would probably shrug it off though I'm mortified, especially as I need to loose 4stone and have the worst stretch marks my midwives had seen, something I find very hard to deal with day to day as I don't feel comfortable.
Add to that that in the 10years we've been together he's essentially been unemployed for most of it. He sees himself as an entrepreneur but has yet to have a big break. Currently he's working on something which should be a good company when it gets going and he has investors so it's more positive but yet I have been keeping him on my mat pay since I gave birth and this is what he does? Tries to pick women up?
Not really sure what I'm looking for in this thread but just wanted to get it down. I don't have any married friends and can't go to my parents or they'd disown him as he's already on dangerous water with them over the career thing! x
I got a private message on Instagram yesterday from a girl who sent me a screen shot of a message from my husband. She had asked him if he was married and he said we had separated just after conceiving. I actually thought it was very clever spam and showed it to him in a "omg look at this spam" and he came clean straight away.
He told me he had met her on Tinder and joined on Sunday and deleted it straightaway once he realised what an idol he was...I thought about this during the day and it didn't make sense as we were together all day on Sunday and had had a great time at a friends wedding on the Saturday so I wasn't sure why he'd feel the need to go on a dating site?
I decided to look at his emails and there's an email from tinder from May of this year. I then replied to the girl who sent me more of the conversation. Basically he had organised to meet her for a drink and when she tried to follow him on Instagram she saw the picture of us at the wedding the day before and caught him out. She tore in to him a peach, I'm quite impressed! She said she had just joined Tinder and was disgusted that the first guy she talked to turned out to be married so deleted it.
Anyway, armed with this new info I confronted him last night. He then told me he had been on it for 3 or 4 days, then it turned in to a month. He says he didn't join in May 2015 but I don't think Tinder would randomly spam him to let him know he can now update his profile through Instagram if he hadn't already been on it?
I would probably shrug it off though I'm mortified, especially as I need to loose 4stone and have the worst stretch marks my midwives had seen, something I find very hard to deal with day to day as I don't feel comfortable.
Add to that that in the 10years we've been together he's essentially been unemployed for most of it. He sees himself as an entrepreneur but has yet to have a big break. Currently he's working on something which should be a good company when it gets going and he has investors so it's more positive but yet I have been keeping him on my mat pay since I gave birth and this is what he does? Tries to pick women up?
Not really sure what I'm looking for in this thread but just wanted to get it down. I don't have any married friends and can't go to my parents or they'd disown him as he's already on dangerous water with them over the career thing! x