My birth fears...

[Steelgoddess]

I just wanted to find out if anyone had a similar fear, obviously its going to hurt im kinda getting used to that but one fear I have is really worrying me...

I keep thinking what if i go into labour and the midwife is a complete cow, or further more what if i get there and theres no space, i dont want to go anywhere else.

is this normal to worry about things going wrong? eek!

 

[Hazel]

I keep thinking what if i go into labour and the midwife is a complete cow, or further more what if i get there and theres no space, i dont want to go anywhere else.

I've got the one about not liking the mw. I'm one to tell people they get on my nerves without being in pain.

I'm panicking that I won't be able to park as the hospital car park is always full or the motorway will be closed (I live near Channel tunnel and the motorway is always closed operation stack) and I won't be able to get to the hospital because of the traffic .

The actual labour bit I'm ok about. I've accepted it is going to happen and it's only one day of my life and I'm actually looking forward to it.

 

[Mildly]

I worry about not knowing when I should go to the hospital. Also I worry about OH working about an hour or so away and me keep calling him back with false alarms

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,

I think it is perfectly normal to worry yet from my experience, they are really good once you get into hospital. When I had my first they were so busy yet I didn't end up on a corridor!!! The mws were very good too (the first one was a bit scary but I had quite a few as that labour went on for a long time).

My main fears now are 1) it happening when I am here alone with the girls (OH works miles away, Mum is not due over for 2 weeks), 2) that the girls will be ok without me, 3) the pain (obviously) and not being able to deal with it and 4) the slight risk of having to have another c/section.

Ha ha, I've always found denial most effective - am trying not to think about it!!!!

 

[Lindsay]

I work with an ex midwife and she told me the other day that mw hate August as it is their most bust time for delivery - I thought cheers love!!!!!
I am hoping that I am lucky to have a mw with me throughout as I did with Jacob, I don't like the thought of them running between me and another poor lady.

I didn't know I was in labour with my son, I struggled on at home until DH told me to ring the hospital as the pains were coming every 5 mins ( I was a wwek early and thought it must be normal for that stage!) when I rang them they asked me if I was coping with the pain and I said I was but when they asked me if I had felt LO move, I said no (which I hadn't) and they told me to go straight in. I had to finish drying my hair before I went anywhere!!! Anyway when I got there they said that I was 8cm dialated and that they weren't sure my mum would arrive in time as she was my other birthing partner - she did though! So this time round I will defo know the signs.

I am woorying that my DH will be at work and I won't be able to get hold of him - he has given me lots of different numbers to get hold of him though. I am also worrying about getting Jacob to my MIL if it's the middle of the night.

I am sure that we will all be ok though - let's all think positive thoughts

Xxx

 

[MissSara]

I never hardly saw a MW when i was in labour with my son, they just left me to it and popped back every hour and asked if i was ok, so this isn't one of my fears, id rather be left alone with my mum and OH.

BUT my main fear that is keeping me up at nights is the fear of being cut or tearing....... yes i know some of you will be thinking you already did it once stop being a wimp.
but i didn't tear and from hearing all my friends after they have im more scared of this than the actual labour and birth.

 

[bhe101]

My biggest fear is if I have to get a section.
It was one of the worst things thats ever happened to me and I really dont want to go throught that again! (Obviously, if the babys at risk I will have one in a flash!)
Hoping all goes well and I get a natural birth i'm also scared of tearing or getting cut too. It makes me cringe everytime I think about it!!

 

[Bagpuss17]

I think it's totally normal to have fears about one aspect or another of labour/birth.

I had 4 different midwives whilst I was in labour and was left on my own for long periods as my labour took hours to get going.

My fear this time is my waters going early again. They broke at 34+2 first time around but thankfully whilst I was at home. I'm so worried they will go when I'm at work or out and about.

 

[bunnymom1980]

My biggest fear is not going into labour and having to be induced again.

I'm worried about having a horrible midwife too.

 

[jills10uk]

The labour fear has started with me too - I'm not worried about the pain, i know it has to happen and it is going to hurt, i have to deal with that, my main fear is that baby will get stuck, cord will be round it's neck, its heart rate will drop or it will be starved of oxygen and it won't be healthy. i feel the pressure of having to give birth and if anything goes wrong i'll feel like its all my fault.

 

[Mrs_Jay]

I had your fears as well with my first but once u are near full turn and HUGE u kinda just forget about it all once ur actually in labour and just want them out

tho i must admit even tho this will be my 2nd time im still terrified all over again...

 

[Lindsay]

I never hardly saw a MW when i was in labour with my son, they just left me to it and popped back every hour and asked if i was ok, so this isn't one of my fears, id rather be left alone with my mum and OH.

BUT my main fear that is keeping me up at nights is the fear of being cut or tearing....... yes i know some of you will be thinking you already did it once stop being a wimp.
but i didn't tear and from hearing all my friends after they have im more scared of this than the actual labour and birth.

Don't be scared hun. I tore really bad with Jacob and had to be taken away to be stitched up by a big doctor(don't remember her title) but I didn't have a clue whilst it was happening, only after.

Xxx

 

[budge]

I just wanted to find out if anyone had a similar fear, obviously its going to hurt im kinda getting used to that but one fear I have is really worrying me...

I keep thinking what if i go into labour and the midwife is a complete cow, or further more what if i get there and theres no space, i dont want to go anywhere else.

is this normal to worry about things going wrong? eek!

its normal to worry. you worry with each pregnancy (more so even) .
when you go into labour you will be stronger than you think. Just think to yourslef that you will deal with problems IF and WHEN they crop up. Try and stop worrying about things that COULD happen.