my baby wont settle help.. :(

[charlotteheys85]

i dont know if i'm expecting to much, but my LO wakes for a feed around 1am, fed changed etc by 1.45 ish, but then doesnt settle till gone 4, i hold him to comfort him, then wen he falls to sleep i carefully put him in moses basket, then he wakes up shortly after, and it goes on for hours, any suggestions.. xx

 

[natalie_staffs]

Hey Charlotte, I always found it helped when i fed Taylor i put him straight back in his cot awake and left him to fall back to sleep. Its probably best to put baby back in the cot awake as your LO is probably waking up because he's realised your no longer holding him.

 

[charlotteheys85]

Hey Charlotte, I always found it helped when i fed Taylor i put him straight back in his cot awake and left him to fall back to sleep. Its probably best to put baby back in the cot awake as your LO is probably waking up because he's realised your no longer holding him.

thx for reply hun, i try this first, then he crys.. i wind him check nappy everything,,
i think he just got days/nites mied up and i'm epecin to much? xx

 

[Sherlock]

At this early age, probably yes. Your LO has no concept of day or night yet and it will take a while yet for sleeping pattern to emerge. Also your LO just wants to be close to you for comfort. Spent 9 months inside you so finds it comforting being held and able to smell and see you.

I'd not worry overly ATM as your LO sounds like a typical newborn. As time passes you can slowly start encouraging LO to settle on her own in the basket. I started this with my son at around 4 weeks but it took a lot of patience.

 

[mamichuli]

As Sherlock says, your LO is still adapting to the outside world and you are the only "safe" thing he knows. I would suggest swaddling tho. It does help if they feel physically "secure", and you may get a tiny bit more sleep!



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[BabyMagic]

Have you thought of co-sleeping? That would enable your LO to be close to you (instead of being in a scary moses basket). If you wanted try now, it doesn't mean that you would need to do it when he gets older - maybe just for the first couple of weeks? If you are interested I found these guidelines useful http://www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/sleep/ ... ingsafely/

It will get easier. Just think of it from his point of view. He is in this scary new world with louder sounds and bright lights.

Good luck

 

[MagicMarkers]

Any chance youd try co-sleeping and let LO fall asleep with you ? Alot of the time when flo wont settle its just because she wants the comfort/smell of me about lol

Just read BabyMagics post lol gd idea gurly !!

 

[Squiglet]

Co sleeping was the only thing that made lil miss sleep.. and even now if she wakes in the night she comes in with me.

If you think about it... they spend 9 months in a warm, dark, peaceful environment, they never feel pain, they never feel hunger, they never feel cold and in a matter of hours they are ripped from that and expected to be sleeping alone in a huge cold cot, experience pain and cold from the moment they are born and we wonder why they cry and want to be held. Your voice, your smell are all things that are recognised and comforting from their previous womb existence.

Co sleeping when breastfeeding actually promotes it, and breastfeeding reduces the risk of SIDS... so its not necessarily a bad thing. As for the whole, making a rod for your own back, they won't want to go to sleep in their own cot... Tia's 9 and never sleeps in my bed... and I co slept with her till she was 3 so meh?... Lil miss now spends most of her night in her own cot... yer she throws a bit of a paddy, but shes an older baby, knows night and day... at newb stage she needed to be close and it felt right to have her close.

One thing I also did.... day time naps, everything was light and loud.... night time naps dark and quiet. From day one, and lil miss started getting most of her sleep at night time from around 4 weeks old. She had frequent waking, but she was more awake during the day

 

[aramintalovegrove]

Esme was exacty the same and I found swaddling helps sooo much, infact she has a very restless night if she isnt swaddled.

I usually swaddle till about 3-4am when she is ready for another feed and then co sleep whilst feeding her for the next few hours as she tends to want a big feed and I am soooo tired at that time.

Another good trick if you dont want to cosleep is to roll up a towel and pop it between their legs and around their side in the moses basket to mimick how you would cradle him in your arms IYKWIM. Just make sure the towel is no where near his face if you try it. That combined with swaddling really helped us when Es was a few days old and I was trying not to co sleep (until I found I was getting too tired being up for the last feed)

 

[Emma58]

Another good trick if you dont want to cosleep is to roll up a towel and pop it between their legs and around their side in the moses basket to mimick how you would cradle him in your arms IYKWIM. Just make sure the towel is no where near his face if you try it. That combined with swaddling really helped us when Es was a few days old and I was trying not to co sleep (until I found I was getting too tired being up for the last feed)

You beat me to it!!!!

A rolled up towel works wonders!

 

[aramintalovegrove]

Another good trick if you dont want to cosleep is to roll up a towel and pop it between their legs and around their side in the moses basket to mimick how you would cradle him in your arms IYKWIM. Just make sure the towel is no where near his face if you try it. That combined with swaddling really helped us when Es was a few days old and I was trying not to co sleep (until I found I was getting too tired being up for the last feed)

You beat me to it!!!!

A rolled up towel works wonders!

You can have the credit thought I stole it from you

 

[Emma58]

Another good trick if you dont want to cosleep is to roll up a towel and pop it between their legs and around their side in the moses basket to mimick how you would cradle him in your arms IYKWIM. Just make sure the towel is no where near his face if you try it. That combined with swaddling really helped us when Es was a few days old and I was trying not to co sleep (until I found I was getting too tired being up for the last feed)

You beat me to it!!!!

A rolled up towel works wonders!

You can have the credit thought I stole it from you

And I stole it from Midna

 

[Lynsey]

I find swaddling definitely works for me too. Some babies love it and some hate it, it might be worth a try?