stacesl3
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So I thought it might help to post my story here as i know there are others who have gone through or going through the same thing.
I very recently suffered a 'missed miscarriage' or 'silent miscarriage' as i had no bleeding or pain, no signs at all, in fact had I not gone for a private scan 3 weeks ago I would have just assumed everything was okay, scary! I only went for the scan as i was having pains in my side and suspected an ectopic, it wasn't but she did measure me at 4+5 when i should have been 6+2!
I was advised to scan again in 10 days, managed (with a fight) to get a scan on the NHS, still no heartbeat so had to go back in another 10 days, so when i went back last Tues unfortunetely there was no change or growth, still no h/b. I was devestated. They were very sympatethic and went thru the options etc, it was all very surreal, just wanted to get out of there, go home and cry my eyes out. I have no idea when it stopped growing, no one really told me anything.
I decided to go with the ERPC, I had the operation yesterday, the hardest thing was having to do it on my own, I only told one friend i was pregnant as I have been in limbo for so long waiting to see what was happening. So nobody knows I had an op. Physically I am fine, not in any pain and any bleeding i had has pretty much stopped, but emotionally not so much, when Im around people i am fine and can hide it, but tonight i just feel so sad and really down.
I'm 41 and doing this on my own, I've longed for this baby for so long and was so happy when i got my bfp, i will try again and hopefully will get pregnant again and get my much longed for baby. I'm sure i am destined to be a mum, I can feel it, it wasn't meant to be this time but need to (try) and be positivex
I very recently suffered a 'missed miscarriage' or 'silent miscarriage' as i had no bleeding or pain, no signs at all, in fact had I not gone for a private scan 3 weeks ago I would have just assumed everything was okay, scary! I only went for the scan as i was having pains in my side and suspected an ectopic, it wasn't but she did measure me at 4+5 when i should have been 6+2!
I was advised to scan again in 10 days, managed (with a fight) to get a scan on the NHS, still no heartbeat so had to go back in another 10 days, so when i went back last Tues unfortunetely there was no change or growth, still no h/b. I was devestated. They were very sympatethic and went thru the options etc, it was all very surreal, just wanted to get out of there, go home and cry my eyes out. I have no idea when it stopped growing, no one really told me anything.
I decided to go with the ERPC, I had the operation yesterday, the hardest thing was having to do it on my own, I only told one friend i was pregnant as I have been in limbo for so long waiting to see what was happening. So nobody knows I had an op. Physically I am fine, not in any pain and any bleeding i had has pretty much stopped, but emotionally not so much, when Im around people i am fine and can hide it, but tonight i just feel so sad and really down.
I'm 41 and doing this on my own, I've longed for this baby for so long and was so happy when i got my bfp, i will try again and hopefully will get pregnant again and get my much longed for baby. I'm sure i am destined to be a mum, I can feel it, it wasn't meant to be this time but need to (try) and be positivex
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