Miscarrying :(

[Maximus17]

Hi all if you remember me I had my surprise BFP after a year of trying unfortunately I am miscarrying and at the hospital now with cramps but no bleeding yet. My hormones dropping and they don’t know if its ectopic and need to be kept in hospital. I am soooooo upset to a point where I don’t know how to deal with all these emotions. Thank you for listening x

 

[liz85]

I’m so sorry to hear this thinking of you xxx

 

[Princess81]

Oh I’m so sorry! Sending hugs xx

 

[SmithyBaby]

I am so so sorry to hear you are going through this. There are a few of us going through / who have been through this in the last couple of weeks. When you feel ready to talk you can join us in that thread, the ladies there have been so supportive of me and have helped me through my mc the last few days. I don't know if I would have coped half as well without this forum. I hope you are okay, take care of yourself and reach out when you need to xx

 

[Sometimesoon]

Stay strong Maximus.
Me and my wife have been through it and also had to wait in the hospital for hours on end.
I’m unsure on the normal procedure but we seen someone who couldn’t really say much. We left the hospital and we dealt with it together.

Strength is needed between two partners and I hope you get your support from your other half.

Time will heal. Me and my wife have been trying just a little less than you and are still carrying on trying.

 

[Maximus17]

Hi all which forum is that the one you discuss miscarriages?
I am still at the hospital waiting to have a scan also they are keeping me nil by mouth probably for D&C.
I don’t feel nauseous anymore and not pregnant anymore. I cried all night and mourned all night for my loss. I started to feel very different like I already accepted this and I am angry with this inside me. Sorry but this might be the grieving processs. I never want to go through this ever again and probably not try anymore given my age there is a high chance this would happen again

 

[Barley]

So sorry to hear this. Hope you’re getting all the support you need x

 

[Sunflower1]

So so sorry... The miscarriage section of the forum is in the Trying to Conceive section but 6 threads down.


They tell you at the hospital that if you are over 40 your chances of mc are 40%, but many women have a mc and go on to have a baby fine.


I went through this 10 weeks ago after trying for 3 years. Do PM me if you need to chat. I know how devastating it is. Hope it's straightforward. You will be very tired for a while after so rest well.


big hugs, I'm so sorry xxx

 

[Donna88]

I'm so sorry Maximus for you loss and what you are going thought right now. Sending all my love

 

[MoominGirl]

So sorry to hear this. Take all the time you need to heal.

 

[alwayscoffee]

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you

 

[Maximus17]

Thanks again all. I posted in the miscarriage section and everyone had been so nice. My hormones are coming down so looks like it’s going to be a natural miscarriage which is much better than ectopic. Also this experience brought my husband and I together more. He has been super supportive and determined to try again which is a shock to me as I thought he would want to stop trying. As soon as this miscarriage completed we will try again and I just want to rest now and get better. The bleeding might start in a couple of weeks so hopefully won’t be too bad.

 

[IVW]

Thanks again all. I posted in the miscarriage section and everyone had been so nice. My hormones are coming down so looks like it’s going to be a natural miscarriage which is much better than ectopic. Also this experience brought my husband and I together more. He has been super supportive and determined to try again which is a shock to me as I thought he would want to stop trying. As soon as this miscarriage completed we will try again and I just want to rest now and get better. The bleeding might start in a couple of weeks so hopefully won’t be too bad.

Big hugs

 

[Princess81]

Sending hugs - we will all be here when you are ready to join us again x

 

[Sunflower1]

Thanks again all. I posted in the miscarriage section and everyone had been so nice. My hormones are coming down so looks like it’s going to be a natural miscarriage which is much better than ectopic. Also this experience brought my husband and I together more. He has been super supportive and determined to try again which is a shock to me as I thought he would want to stop trying. As soon as this miscarriage completed we will try again and I just want to rest now and get better. The bleeding might start in a couple of weeks so hopefully won’t be too bad.

I'm so glad your husband is being supportive - that's good. Plenty of women go on to have healthy pregnancies after mc and for some reason a lot of women are more fertile after mc. While the hormones are dropping, which takes a month or two your emotions will be super intense, but then I found it settled down. Hormonal rollercoaster plus grief is a double whammy of emotion so look after yourself. xx

 

[1sttimer]

Oh Maximus I hate to see these posts for just how unfair it all is. I'm so sorry for you and your oh. You seem to be in a really good place with it though mentally and its great that you have the support from your oh too to get through it together. 'Be kind to yourself' was something I heard a lot with mine and its so true..give yourself time, like the other ladies said, hormones, grief etc all mixed together is a hell of a combination. x

 

[Dinkydizzy]

I am so, so sorry for your loss xx

 

[Crumble]

I am sorry about it xx

 

[LittleWolf]

So sorry for your loss *hugs*

 

[EmmaN27]

So sorry to hear of your loss x