Just a little advice about the man problem-
As soon as they know that they HAVE to perform thats when the problems start, its funny the first couple of months but the novelty soon wheres off for them and they just feel like a sperm doner (so my OH informed me)
I used to get uptight and stressed about when we BD'd OH used to call me the black widow
This last time, i didnt initiate ANY of the BD'ing and OH soon came out of his shell and unwittingly obliged just happened to be around my time of OV! we only did it twice in the important week
So my advice to you is chill out, take the pressure off and i am sure your man will be a willing victim