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Managing with stitches and general soreness

Kimi89

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Hi everyone,

I gave birth on Sunday morning but baby was bigger than expected (9.6lb!!) so they had to cut me to get his head out. Also my placenta wouldn't come out so I ended up going under general anesthetiser and being taken to theatre for manual removal. I lost over a litre of blood so need iron tablets and daily injection to avoid blood clots.If that wasn't enough I think I have two external hemorrhoids 😢 I can't move around very well at all, I can't cough because it feels like everything will fall out! Trying to stay positive but the last 4 days have been quite full on and not what I thought my first labour would be.

I'm hoping someone might have some advice on how to cope with these changes to my body. I'm finding it emotional not being able to move for my baby properly ☹️
 
That sounds awful hope you are ok! Is one of the lavender and milk baths something you could try? Xx
 
I don't think it's really hit me properly yet. Is it essential oil lavender? I would try anything!
 
You can also take arnica tabs from the health shop.
Sounds awful and you must be really struggling. I had my firat a yr ago and it ended in a c section so not how i thought my birth would be. Think im still getting over it to be honest. It is hard but you will feel better soon x
 
Thank you I'll have a look at those now. I feel bad for saying I struggle because there are women who go through worse. I hate feeling fragile and needing my husband to help me so much. He's being fantastic but I wish I could do more
 
Oh sweetheart, you have been through the mill. Sending hugs firstly and congratulations on the birth of your baby!

I had assisted delivery and epesiotomy (sorry if spelling is wrong) so had an array of stitches and I had internal and external piles so I feel your pain!! I rested as much as I could and sat on a blow up kids swim ring for a few days, I also wet maternity pads and put them in the fridge to give me a bit of relief. The main thing I used in the bath was lavender oil and tea tree oil mixed in a cup of milk (5 drops of each and childs tumbler of milk). The milk is supposed to carry the oil around the water. It really helped. Xx
 
Is your midwife coming to see you still as I think its helpful to talk through your feelings about the birth, its ok saying others have it worse but its all relative and only your experience is your own. You will start to feel better soon hun xxxx
 
I've never done this but theres essential oils you can put on a sanitary pad and even put in the fridge or freezer to cool for healing/soothing. They offered something along these lines at the hospital with my first.

Look up that and lavender milk baths on google. Even if they don't help heal but are relaxing or soothing, then I'm sure thats good xx
 
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Thanks Selina. I bought some of the lavender oil today and will have a morning with it tomorrow while baby is still asleep. I have external piles too, the midwife checked they yesterday and said they don't look too bad and should heal ok which I really hope they do. I have some gel to use for those. My midwife is ring really good, I only gave birth on Sunday and she's been twice and said she can come see me Sunday if I like, there is also another one coming today to weight baby etc.
Mel I will try the pad in the freezer idea, it sounds so soothing! I'll add a few drops of the oil and see if it helps.

I really appreciate everyone's kind comments and advice. I spoke to my OH this evening about my feelings and concerns, it helped but not easy to put these feelings in to words at all.
 
Thanks Selina. I bought some of the lavender oil today and will have a morning with it tomorrow while baby is still asleep. I have external piles too, the midwife checked they yesterday and said they don't look too bad and should heal ok which I really hope they do. I have some gel to use for those. My midwife is ring really good, I only gave birth on Sunday and she's been twice and said she can come see me Sunday if I like, there is also another one coming today to weight baby etc.
Mel I will try the pad in the freezer idea, it sounds so soothing! I'll add a few drops of the oil and see if it helps.

I really appreciate everyone's kind comments and advice. I spoke to my OH this evening about my feelings and concerns, it helped but not easy to put these feelings in to words at all.

I think its a mixfor the pad of witch hazel aloe vera gel and lavendar oil but please look it up to make sure its ok for wounds etc! Xx
 
Ah hun, you sound a bit brighter and honestly you will feel better. I had my piles looked at internally about 6mt after birth and was basically told that It would be better to wait till I had had my children before surgery options!! I used the pessaries and cream for months after. Not too bad now but Im pregnant again so we shall see. Yeah its tea tree too that you put in the bath as thats the antiseptic part for healing.
You can get a vaginal spray but not sure how good it is, I once had a terrible reaction to vagisil wash so not all things are suitable for everyone that are on the market. Maybe stick to cold wet pad for now and the baths for now as you dont want to irritate your lady parts so early after birth!! Lol x
 
The piles are starting to shrink which is great. I have the lavender oil which I put on the pad. I feel I can move better now. The only thing getting me down is the nights. Baby sleeps fine during the day in his basket but not at night.
 
I had a third degree tear and bad piles. It will get better, honestly.

I found lavender and tea tree essential oil in a bath helped, and I found witch hazel helped the piles better than the cream/suppositories.

Also, your wee one is still so little. It's so tough when they don't sleep - but again, it does get better. I ended up co-sleeping and it helped keep us both sane. He went into his own room fine at 6.5 months.

Sounds like you are doing a fab job x x
 
Oh poor thing... things will get better!
I was in a similar situation - 2nd degree tear, fissure (which tbh still hasn't fully healed, but we soldier on!), operation after the birth to remove some of the placenta which hadn't come away properly, huge blood loss. I couldn't walk much for the first weeks and I know exactly what you mean about the coughing! Apart from advice others have already given, I recommend sitting on a feeding pillow, one of the half circle ones with the hole in the middle - I sat on that damn thing more than I ever used it for breastfeeding!
Your body will recover, just give yourself time and be easy on yourself. If you're younger, all the better -
I'm mid-thirties and I think I would have bounced back much quicker in my twenties haha! Eat iron rich foods and get some stool softeners to counteract the effects of that. Drink plenty water and if you have family around, take all the help you can get from them so you can snatch bits of rest.
Congrats on your baby - well done mum! :-)
 

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