Major vent over OHs family!

[JoAnn&Aimee]

I am just warning that this is a major vent! My OHs family are evil! They have never attempted to get to know me, instead labelled me as controlling! We've been together for 4 years now and lived together for a year and they still don't accept me. To make matters worse his sister exploded at me online a couple of days ago. Her language was extremely colourful. Words included psychopath, f*ckwit, skank. It was extremely vile.
She has also told me that during the summer she'll be visiting Scotland and that she isn't afraid to 'pull me down a peg or two, baby or no baby.' To me that is a threat, not just against me but against my unborn baby who shall be about ready to be born. I got upset over that as I will not let anyone hurt my baby.
I have been nothing but nice to them and they've just treated me like crap. I even went to London with my OH to look after his sisters house and cat while she swanned off to Thailand for 2 weeks and we ended up looking after her daughter for a few days as well. She told us she would pay us back for the train fare and have enough food in for us but we never got the money and there was no food in the cupboards!
It just gets me so worked up!! argh!!

 

[Krystal]

Thats horrible for her to threaten you like that.

What does your OH say? If I was you i'd ban them from coming anywhere near me and LO!

 

[JoAnn&Aimee]

He isn't happy but at the end of the day he can't do much. everytime he says something to her she launches into the whole 'shes controlling you' speech.
I've told him that she will not get near my child at all. He thinks I am being petty but I would swing for her if she even looked at my child. I am just so mad.

 

[libs]

he can do something - he can break off all contact with her till she acts like a mature adult. Then he doesn't have to listen to the controlling speech. Put the phone down, delete emails and don't answer the door.

Remind him who his first committment is to - you and the baby. My DH hasn't spoken to his own daughter (she's older than me) in a good few years (except at funerals) because she found it necessary to insult me every time we met - as he said she really isn't a nice person at all so he sees no need to have any contact until she grows up.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I agree with libs.

My family are bloody awful to me and really awful to my oh and were really vile about him. We have been together for coming up to 5 years now and we have kept them out of our life, its so much nicer and we've never been happier.

Keep her away from you, she sounds like a right piece of work and if she threatens you again threaten to casll the police, how dare she threaten your unborn child. Sounds like a right chav!!!

 

[mary70]

she wouldnt be getting anywhere near my house never mind my kids hun, i cant belive that you oh hasnt given her a right gob full and told her to go jump hun

 

[bobtheunfortunateone]

Sound familer, my brother in law told my hubby to watch his back, bad mouthed my family and said he would not hurt us but he knew people who would, all this while I'm pregnant and because we got upset with My MIL for telling him we were pregnant in the first place before our 12wks scan. Brother In law and wife then get pregnant and MIL was on the first flight to see them, never asked our our 20wk scan went, even, got me on the phone and bad mouthed me, my hubby had to take the phone off her as I was on my own.

They always are so nasty, but they copy us (wedding time, honeymoon, soon as we are pregnant they are (second time))

But I'm lucky, my hubby can see what they are like and reported his brother to the police and took his mum down a peg or too and told her he can treat us like rubbish but if she takes it out on our kids then thats it!.

Ahhh bless. Look after yourself and don't waste time, trust me makes you sad to be like that, but you cannot reason with stupidity!

 

[MissSara]

I can't believe his family treat you like that and you get called " petty ", i wouldn't let them near my baby either.
What is their problem? do they see you as the woman who took away their son?
Your OH really needs to speak to them and let them know that speaking to you like that is not on and he won't put up with it. Show them you two are a solid team.

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

How aweful ide be done with them tbh , im suprised your OH hasnt shut them out of your lives you do not deserve to be treated this way
Oh and by the way ide keep a track of all the threats save the messgaes ect just in case