Losing my mind

[HS1985]

Hey ladies, im kind of at my wits end so desperately after some advice. I'm trying to figure out if I'm having hormone related stroppiness or a justified reaction to an awful lot of rubbish going on.

I know some women have the issue of crying at everything but I haven't. However my patience/ tolerance has completely bottomed out. Since new year that has always been some drama going on, either with my in-laws or my family. Honestly, it's been ridiculous, it could be a soap opera script! I've now gotten to the point that I'm saying exactly what I think however harsh it may come across or my husband dealing with family members to avoid that situation. From speaking to friends, I feel im justified in this with the ridiculousness of some of the 'situation. At 20weeks with my 1st baby, I don't need to babysitting emotionally inept adults, whether they be parents or siblings.

However the main problem lies now in that I am wanting more support from my husband in feeling secure about our life together. I'm sure that is a hormonal side effect as normally I never have these worries. What sucks is he is on permanent nights, while I am on days and that leave us with 2 nights we get to spend together a week. I know logically i can't monopolize those nights, he needs time off from it all, to see friends, etc but logic does not come in to it for me right now. The worse thing about it all is that my oh is constantly labelling my feelings as unreasonable. As a result im losing patience with him now and am starting to think I need to learn to get by without his support which is horrific!!

Please tell me I'm not the only one who seems to be constantly raging right now

 

[GBLiz]

personally if my husband and i could only get 2 nights a week together a week i would expect him to spend them with me not put me equal priority or second to friends! But i dont think i could cope with that arrangment anyway! Other couples spend very little time together , i'm used to my OH being around almost all the time. And i still argue with him about time he prioritises for the gym! I think when you are pregnant you do need more support and more time. what will you do when the baby comes? if he spends half his free time when he could be with you and the baby seeing friends ? its a time when socialising needs to take a back seat. cant he see them every other week instead of equal with your time? You should be his absolite priority!

 

[Diamond18]

Ah yes, this is the clingy stage, I remember it well! Hahaha. Your feelings are valid - Husband has his whole life to hang around with his friends when he can, but right now YOU need him and he should understand that, this feeling won't last forever and you're not being unreasonable for asking to have some extra quality time with him. Tell him it's the baby that wants him right now, might help, ha! Xx

 

[HS1985]

Thank you for replying ladies. It is so good to know it isn't exclusively my hormones making me in to a mess but I do have validation for feeling this way. it seems so much has gone on and there are so many arguments erupting constantly that I've not been enjoying my growing bump for a few weeks or focusing on me & the baby and it's making me really sad. Your replies have helped x

 

[Princess81]

Pregnancy is quite often a time of vulnerability anyway (whether we like to admit it or not). So you might find yourself needing more reassurance etc than normal. Plus, you’re at home harbouring his baby least he could to is sack off his friends and make you feel better
I was a nightmare in pregnancy....36 weeks of pms-like strops

 

[HS1985]

Thanks ladies, on the back of this I had another attempt at making him see my point of view and I managed to get my point of view across a lot better knowing that I was of sound mind (all be it slightly hormone led). It's only been a couple of days but it seems to have hit home this time x

 

[_GG_]

Thanks ladies, on the back of this I had another attempt at making him see my point of view and I managed to get my point of view across a lot better knowing that I was of sound mind (all be it slightly hormone led). It's only been a couple of days but it seems to have hit home this time x

Very good to hear that. I've no doubt you'll have to give him a little reminder at some point....much easier for them to forget as the baby isn't inside them, but yes, your feelings are absolutely valid and you are justified in expecting more from him.

Now...put your family on the back burner until they can be of support, not a drain on you and just concentrate on yourself and baby xxx