Lonely

[lizziimayy]

3 weeks before I gave birth I moved in with the OH's parents after leaving uni. Now I live in an area where I don't know anyone. Only one person at uni has kept in contact and now I just feel lonely not having any friends!

 

[Maud]

Sorry you're feeling lonely. *hugs* Having a baby can feel really isolating, especially if you don't know anyone nearby. I didn't know anyone in my town when I had my LO and found it really difficult at first. Getting out and about really helps. Does your town have a children's centre? Ask your HV about baby groups in your area you could go along to and meet other mums with little ones. Other good places to go are NCT groups (you don't have to be a member to go to groups) or some places even have baby/toddler cafes. Have a look around for places running classes such as baby yoga or baby massage. Even libraries often do storytime or rhymetime for little ones. You might be surprised how many places you could meet other mums for a chat about motherhood.

 

[bigbee]

Definitely a good shout on the mam and baby groups. Try to find out whether there are any in your area. You might make friends for life, and even if you don't it will get you out of the house!

My HV holds one of these every week, so it will be worth asking whether yours does something like that too?

Do you breastfeed? There are usually a tonne of support groups around for that too.

 

[littlemonkey]

Definitely ask your hv about groups. Our family centre run things like baby massage classes as well as just coffee morning type things, which I preferred as I was there for a purpose and found it easier to strike up conversation. Also have a look on line groups etc. I just googled baby and toddler groups in my area and found loads.

 

[Niknaknoo]

Definitely see if there are any sure start centres around, my locals have been great and I've made a couple of friends. You might not find any best friends but you will find friends you have something in common with and can chat to.
Where abouts are you? There may even be someone on here x

 

[cossie13]

I feel the same. If you want to message me on FB if you do need someone to talk to please do I'm not in the exact same boat but a lotm of my friends don't have kids and are still going out drinking and that's really not my thing especially now I have my son so we've just drifted apart.

I've looked into sure start centers and there are some around but I want a bumps to babes one rather than a stay and play where it's mainly toddlers! NCT do a bumps and babies one twice a month near me so I might go to that one if OH will let me have the car! If anyone lives in or around Shrewsbury and wants a mummy friend or would allow a new mum to join their group of mummys I'd be greatful!

 

[Iwant3]

if you join netmums.com you can specify your area and then look a things tailored to where you live, there should be a list of baby/toddler groups, and also a meet a mum section which I found great when I first moved to where I live now

 

[TashaWink]

On net mums there's a meet a mum board. I've met loads of my mummy friends on there, would have been lost without it. You type in your area and there are little blurbs about people that want to meet up.

 

[CDx]

Sorry you feel like this Lizzimay. Is your OH still away at uni? My OH works away a lot and I can totally relate to how tough it is being left on your own with the baby. I'm the first of my friends to have a baby as well and although they come to visit it's just not the same.
I have been looking for parent toddler groups & classes to go to with Arran but there's not a lot in the area so I find week days it's just me and Arran in the house which is getting really boring but then I find its only about this time in the day that I can get myself organised to go out.
Hopefully you can find something in your area.