LETS CELEBRATE EVERYONE!!!!!

[Jen & Her Men]

Just wanted to clear up a few things in case i have misled anyone.

1) I do not believe that any one feeding and weaning method is better than another. To me the best method is the one that suits your baby best.
2) I dont think anyone has a text book baby. All babies are gorgeous indiiduals and should be celebrated for being so.
3) I certainly dont think those who have exclusively bf their babies for 6 months are nerds etc. Thats their method and if it works for them fantastic! I think I stated this at least 5 times in the other thread but felt it needed saying again...
4) I would never big up one group of mummies and single them out for special praise when in my humble opinion, you cant really comment on how much harder it is for one set over another when you havent experienced the life of the other set and the hurdles they have to overcome every day with their chosen methods etc.

I think we would all agree that we all do what is best for our babies. We all love them and cherish them and spend all day every day putting them first and thinking about them and doing our very best to keep them happy and healthy.

Therefore i want to say a HUGE well done and congrats to all of us mummies for being the best that we can be and nuturing and feeding our babies. Lets celebrate the fact that we can actually have so many different methods of feeding- that these things are available to us and we are so lucky to have so many choices to ensure our children our happy and healthy. Im sure people in 3rd world countries would look at some of our threads and wish to god that they had the choices we do...

BIG HUGS EVERYONE!!!!!

 

[Jade&Evie]

 

[CoreysMummy]

I agree 100%

 

[laracomps]

I have to say I have read the early weaning thread with great interest over the past few days.

I for one have stayed out of it - what's right for one baby and parent is completely wrong for another. Therefore I do not have the right to judge anyone else for their choices and decisions even if I may or may not agree with them.

I completely agree with what you have written, we are so lucky to have the choices that we do and that our babies are healthy had have the best start in life.

Well done to those who have bfed for 6 months - its must be tough and is a great achievement.

However also well done to those who recognised what was best for their child and weaned early on the advise of GP's. I'm sure that its not an easy choice to make.

If I had to wean Phoebs early on the advice of my GP or HV, then I would do so. But to be honest at the moment she couldn't be less interested in food, so in that respect I feel lucky that we'll probably make it to 6 months.

Big hugs to everyone. Lets make love not war

 

[SarahH]

Oooh, heck... whats happened?

I haven't looked at the early weaning thread as I have no experiance in early weaning.

Just wanted to say it is pointless getting wound up with anyones comments about how to bring up children.... as long as they are healthy, clean and happy that is all that matters.
Makes no difference if they are breast or bottle fed, cloth or disposable nappy wearers, etc etc...

 

[drea b]

Oooh, heck... whats happened?

I haven't looked at the early weaning thread as I have no experiance in early weaning.

Just wanted to say it is pointless getting wound up with anyones comments about how to bring up children.... as long as they are healthy, clean and happy that is all that matters.
Makes no difference if they are breast or bottle fed, cloth or disposable nappy wearers, etc etc...

totally agree with you Sarah - health happy babies are the most important thing

 

[lisa&alex]

i think every mother deserves a pat on the back.. i dont know why this has turned itno an argument.. something has obviously upset you jen that mids has said.. i dont know what.. but i noticed before lisa said anything on this thread that you have dug a few times at her replys.. whats going on? whats pissed you off?

 

[Jen & Her Men]

erm Midna I never mentioned your name.

I cant see the harm in me wanting to say well done to everyone, as you clearly wanted to celebrate the achievements of people from one particular group.

Its you who have brought down the tone of this thread. It was sincerely meant to be one to congratulate everyone. Im allowed to defend myself by answering what is quite an aggressive post by you.

I havent posted on your thread about celebrating exclusive BF because it should be celebrated and I have no part in that as I dont BF.

Why do you have to ruin a thread meant to celebrate everyone? I dont think thats very fair....

 

[SarahH]

Meh..... lets drop any of the poopyness - there is no need...

back to the thread itself

Gold Star to ALL

 

[daftscotslass]

Iiiiiiiiiiif youuuuuuuuuuuu're............

HAPPY AND YOU KNOW IT CLAP YOUR HANDS!

(clap clap)

etc

 

[Jen & Her Men]

i think every mother deserves a pat on the back.. i dont know why this has turned itno an argument.. something has obviously upset you jen that mids has said.. i dont know what.. but i noticed before lisa said anything on this thread that you have dug a few times at her replys.. whats going on? whats p*ssed you off?

err absolutely nothing p*ssed me off. We were having a good discussion about weaning. We both had different opinions. There were no digs from me to her in any way. I kept trying to reiterate the point that I think that the BF to 6 months etc is good!

I was trying to say that every method should be celebrated and that I just felt, as others did, that sometimes we are not allowed to celebrate the fact that we bottle feed or whatever.

Midna posted a response and deleted it. I didnt take offence at that either. I actually saw the response before she deleted it and didnt respond (it was about "if possible" etc) because I had no issues.

Midna then created a thread about celebrating those who do exclusively BF, and if Im honest, yes It did wind me up a bit after the whole weaning thread because it was a direct reference to all that went on. Midna knew it could be taken that way because she actually made reference to it in her thread.

I felt that as a result I wanted to clear up a few things because its important to me that people dont think Im putting down BFing etc BECAUSE IM NOT! I dont want to say one group is better than another because they are not. Thats why I created this thread because I truely believe we all should celebrate.

I dont see why that is such a bad thing.

 

[CoreysMummy]

Well I caved in lastnight on the advice of both my Peads and gave him baby rice -

And Im pleased with my decision

Clap Clap

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Just wanted to say it is pointless getting wound up with anyones comments about how to bring up children.... as long as they are healthy, clean and happy that is all that matters.
Makes no difference if they are breast or bottle fed, cloth or disposable nappy wearers, etc etc...

I couldnt agree more .. seems my input has been taken to an extreme .. and as a result I apparently think badly of early weaners and formula feeding mums are lazy .. which is bollox if anything breastfeeders are lazy.. I made a post not aimed at anyone negitavley and its been taken to a sarcastic level .. p*ssed me off no end.

I havent said that i think you think we are lazy Mid.

But creating that thread DIRECTLY FOLLOWING ON FROM the weaning debate and EXCLUDING bottle feeders and early weaners from praise...do you not see how that could be taken??? How it may cause offence???

 

[SarahH]

Look, we all went through the pain of pregnancy, labour, afterbirth together and celebrated it all...

Why cant we all just celebrate the fact that we all have Happy, Healthy, Contented little bubbas

End of...

 

[lisa&alex]

ok just wondered coz u said u dont think people are nerds etc for exclusivly bfing and thats what mids said..just seemd to me like u were answering what she had said in her post.. im tired neways.. maybe i read it wrong..

we all got diff parenting ideas..we have a very large range of different parenting styles in the world i think that when we have 2 mums at different sides of this skale and have different parenting ideas each side can think the other is having a dig.. i feel like perhaps you have both expressed the points you feel are good (and not bad points but you get me) and might have got caught up in this? hope u can sort it out tho.

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Honestly Sarah thats all I was trying to do.

Celebrate EVERYONE and not single people out. It wasnt meant as a dig at anyone. I felt it was important that everyone feels they have done a good job and its recognised on here thats all.

Clearly i did the wrong thing.

Im logging off now cos im too upset and its not good for bubs.

Im so shocked that what was meant to be a celebratory thread has been reducing to this.

Can one of the mods delete it please.

 

[lfc_sarah]

Oh lord.....



Erm celebrate mums

 

[CoreysMummy]

Damn we all sound like a load of blokes waving our willys about compairing sizes...!!

So long as babys happy and healthy, who cares wether you BF, Weaned early or formula fed

 

[Urchin]

Erm Hello

I'm supposed to be getting ready for the meet, but I had to post....

TBH I can see posts that ARE directly aimed at certain people, and Jen although you said you "didn't mention midnas name" even I, who have just quickly scanned the threads in question can see that thats who it was aimed at.
Your first post in the early weaning thread was clearly a dig too, and as far as I can see its had made many BFers paranoid they have been upsetting people, as they have each posted asking if it was them and you've said "no, not you" I'm even left wondering if it's ME.
I also made a thread not long ago about breastfeeding milestones, cos I do think these ladies deserve a pat on the back. I hope that wasn't taken as a dig to bottle feeders cos trust me, I know better

Anyway, mids, I can't see all of your posts as you've deleted them, erm, so I can't really comment, but I hope this issue is going to drop now.

This post isn't made to upset people, but please, to both of you, if you have issues, keep them off the board and stop with the sly digs and just sort it out via pm will ya? I'm off to the meet shortly, please do not use this as an excuse to unleash holy hell upon the feeding section LOL


Cheers

EDIT - just saw midnas post above....so... yeah... sorted I hope

 

[Jen & Her Men]

Urchin I dont names names because I DONTwant to single people out.

Im sorry if this ends up getting me thrown off the forum but to be honest I dont care right now.

Im a 29 year old woman with a brain and Im sorry, but when you have just had a huge post where I have tried to say that I agree with both methods and get into a debate with Midna about it, and then the next thing there is a post about celebrating BFing etc from Midna, and it directly says in that post about early weaners, well Im sorry but I took that as pretty antagonistic. It was very cleverly done I grant you so that clearly what has happened is that I look like the bad guy for reacting to it.

Well Im sorry for having a reaction and for being human. I get frustrated when all I was trying to say is that I think the best method is the one that suits the baby.

The references I made in the beginning of this thread were actually not having a go. I was reiterating that I think that people like Midna are doing a good job!! I was worried that I had given the wrong impression and that people thought that I thought it was early weaning or nothing and that was not at all what I was saying. I felt this way because Midnas post was done whilst the weaning thread was happening and I didnt want people to think that i felt like that. So I directly referenced Midnas thread to say "yeah you should celebrate because your not a nerd" BUT I want to celebrate everyone and all the work that goes into being a mummy and feeding and nurturing.

What happened after that is down to Midna, she responded and took great offence. If you re read what I put, what is there really to take offence at?? If you hadnt commented Mid, Im fairly sure the majority of people would have just thought "yeah lets pat ourselves on the back". As it is that hasnt happened. Im sat here feeling like once again I should apologise for something..and I dont even really know what that is?