Keira - In a mess :(

[Keira]

Don't know how many of you will remember me...I was a member here in 2006 when pregnant with Ryan, now aged 19 months.

I found out 2 weeks ago I am pregnant again and I am really struggling to get my head around it. Obviously I am keeping the baby but with Ryan being young and myself being young I am finding it hard to see how I'm going to cope. On top of this the dad to this baby is one minute saying he will support me then as soon as we have a row he is telling me he doesn't want to be involved. Ryan's dad isn't really involved, he gets in touch every so often, see's him for a while regually then it all falls apart.

I have made such a mess of things and I should have been more careful.

But I guess at the end of the day I just have to get use to it. I will love this baby just as much as Ryan even though the circumstances aren't ideal.

So, I'm Keira, I'm 18, mummy to Ryan, 19 months. Pregnant with second baby, about 5/6 weeks gone. And really, really scared

 

[Beatlesfan]

Ah Keira (lovely name BTW)

I'm afraid I don't have any advice - perhaps someone who has been in a similar situation might be able to reassure you... but have some as it sounds like you need them. Have you any family/friends who can support you? I know the PF laydees will support you no end, but sometimes virtual hugs can only do so much...real ones are better!

Sounds like you are very mature for your age. Keep your chin up, hormones may be playing a big part of your feelings at the mo if you are in first tri. Take care hun and keep posting for support x x x

 

[Keira]

Thank you for your reply. My mum, as always is trying to support me as best she can, but I feel like such a disappointment. My friends are lovely but they don't really understand as they don't have children.

I just feel like an absolute failure

Guess I've just got to pick myself up and get on with things.

 

[lfc_sarah]

Aw hun dont feel likea failure

Im sure your a great mum to Ryan
And if the dad doesnt want to be involved its his loss of both of you

Yeah you could have been more careful, but these things happen so dont beat yourself up about it

 

[HollyHobby]

keira I would say you are the opposite of a failure!
You're young with a son who's father seems like it's easy come easy go, and pregnant again with an attitude that you will love this baby too - where is the failure in that?

2 little souls with the love of their mother is no failure!

I would give the new dad some time, he's probably in total shock right now, he'll not know what to expect, so don't give up all hope on his involvement just yet sweetie.

Give yourself some more credit and be kinder to yourself

 

[Keira]

Thank you both for your messages

HollyHobby he was all for supporting me and us doing this together when we were in a relationship but we split up a few days ago. I text him saying I would drop his stuff round for him and that I would text him when I get the letter from the hospital with the date of the first scan. He text back saying 'Do you really think you should keep it? 2 kids on your own?'

 

[xjdx]

Hiya Im Jade im 19, im pg with my 2nd i was 18 in July when i found out and my son is 2 in September. If you want to talk or anything pm ok chick, Take Care x x

 

[Urchin]

Hiya Keira, from JMC, I remember you

Hope you are well and I'm glad you found your way back to us, you'll get the support you need here