Keep calm mummy.....

[BabyBrain]

Got my tribunal Monday. I was going to cancel it but if I win it then our money worries are solved. Really don't know what to do for the best, I really could do without the stress and worry (can feel myself getting wound up already) but then if I win we can move out alot sooner and be much more financially secure.
My representative who is a family member experienced in this kind of thing is now acting like they cannot be bothered and trying to put me off which is really not helping. Mum is chomping at the bit to get her teeth into her if she bails out on me.....trouble is it's my sister so family rows could also ensue.

Sorry for the rant but OH just gets annoyed when I talk about it xxxxxxxxx

 

[Bee7]

Eeeek its a toughie what with the family involvement etc, but i'd still go for it. If you get some money out of it then that'd be amazing. If not, you haven't lost anything. The best thing you can do is try and stay calm and relaxed about the whole thing. Easier said than done i know xxxx

 

[TaffyRose]

Sorry you're having this stress hun. I agree with Bee if you've come this far you may as well see it through. It is very difficult when it's family but maybe if you explain how important it is to you and what the outcome could mean for your family I'm sure they'd buck their ideas up Good luck hun xxx

 

[BabyBrain]

I've just spoken to my sister and she has explained she's worried about my stress levels. When this all first kicked off I had to be sedated by 2 doctors at my first counselling meeting and now I'm pregnant she's very worried.
She's suggested I get a letter from the doctor declaring me unfit to attend next week and get a deferment for after Bertie is born. With my heart racing the way it is just thinking about it I think she may have a good point. My baby is more precious to me than any amount of money and it's not a cancellation it's just putting the hearing back a bit.
Lol I've just started crying again xxxxxxx

 

[jomc]

I agree with the others. When dealing with your sister/talking to her about it, act very optimistic and positive about wanting to go through with it and seeing it through now to the end. It may spur her on to be more active about it herself.

 

[TaffyRose]

I think that's a good compromise hun and I'm glad it's not that your sister is disinterested but just that she's worried about you. If you're really stressed it's no good for Bertie and like you say he comes first xxx

 

[jomc]

oopps...look like we posted at the same time lol

 

[BabyBrain]

oopps...look like we posted at the same time lol

I hate it when that happens xxxxxxxx

 

[Sleepy sue]

Definitely defer if it stresses you out to that level!!!
Can I ask what the tribunal is about, no problem if you don't want to say x

 

[hellywelly]

You will know what is right for you. It would make me more stressed to defer because I think about things and they play on my mind, so I would want it out of the way, whatever the outcome, so I could enjoy the rest of my pregnancy, but I am very much a 'confrontation and get it out of the way quickly' person. Baby is the most important thing and you will know what your gut feeling is telling you. xxx

 

[BabyBrain]

Definitely defer if it stresses you out to that level!!!
Can I ask what the tribunal is about, no problem if you don't want to say x

Bullying, harassment, sex discrimination.....I loved the job for 10 years and then got a new area manager with little man syndrome

 

[BabyBrain]

It's been deferred and to be honest I think I'll end up cancelling it cos I am having surgery after the baby is born and it will be just more stress.

Time to make a fresh start and banish my demons......I feel soooooo much lighter

Thanks for your support ladies xxxxxxxxxxx