Just wanted to get this off my chest...

[kittykat812]

So my father in law is due to fly in from South Africa the day before I'm due and stay with us. The flight was booked for him as a present by his wife, WITHOUT asking us first.

All very well, as my hubby wants some family support through this time, but no-one ever really asked me how I felt about it, which has caused me to feel so anxious.

I don't want him here when I'm having contractions, waters breaking, being in pain, wanting to be in my pj's etc.

Also, he's only with us for a week, so what happens if baby turns up late and he has already gone?

I just feel that the pressure is on me to get baby out on time, which as everyone knows is an impossibility.

It's too late for anything to change now but just feeling pants about it all.

 

[ange34]

totally agree with u,u shouldnt have to b feeling like this,id feel uncomfortable bein in labour infront of a father in law.u want your own space and privacy when the time comes.xxxxx

 

[lewisca]

I agree its not fair to put pressure on u like that !! lo will only come when its ready !! xxx

 

[ForestLas80]

Family members can be so insensitive sometimes by not consulting you about it. I would feel the same. So difficult as I know u will need your space and don't want to upset your OH as well. Maybe get your FIL to go and stay with other family/friends for the day/night when u go into labour and return when u feel ready? Good luck, what will be will be in regards to the babies arrival!

 

[i.love]

oh that's rubbish and very inconsiderate!!

well maybe if the baby will be a bit late, it will be for the best - by then your FIL will leave and you will be able to relax a bit. No one can blame you for being overdue, can they??

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Exactly what i was going to say.. If he misses it it's not ur fault at all.. They shouldn't put pressure on u like that x

 

[kittykat812]

Well it seems that it has been taken out of my hands now...went to see the consultant yesterday and they want to induce me on my due date, at least I will be in the hospital away from FIL when anything happens.

Less pressure I suppose )

 

[Menie13]

So my father in law is due to fly in from South Africa the day before I'm due and stay with us. The flight was booked for him as a present by his wife, WITHOUT asking us first.

All very well, as my hubby wants some family support through this time, but no-one ever really asked me how I felt about it, which has caused me to feel so anxious.

I don't want him here when I'm having contractions, waters breaking, being in pain, wanting to be in my pj's etc.

Also, he's only with us for a week, so what happens if baby turns up late and he has already gone?

I just feel that the pressure is on me to get baby out on time, which as everyone knows is an impossibility.

It's too late for anything to change now but just feeling pants about it all.

Don't worry hun, and DON'T put any pressure on you as it's not your fault if baby arrives late, it's life and natural!!!!
I know that today people like to get everything planned and controlled but I am sorry to say that in that specific case there is nothing you or someone else can do!
I am now 3 days over my due date, and as I am not the most patient person, it's pretty hard, but at the end of the day, it means the little one needs a bit more time in the oven
Take it positively, if you are late, never mind, at least you will see your dad!! Still nice ?
And if you get some kind of crazy reflexion which I doubt, you can clearly say, that his wife should have asked you, that way you will have suggested his arrival 3 weeks after ur due date.
Also I think your dad will be understanding, as you are his daughter anyway, and if you get contraction or the water breaks... it's natural and knows about it as it's ur dad and I guess already lived that with ur mum when she gave birth.

I know it is frustrating when nobody ask you ur advice, but I think it was not in the bad way she did it. She might have also taken these tickets as per her budget etc etc.. u never know the reason.

Relax, u have the arrival of a little one soon that's the more important