Just the one?

[juliekim0908]

Anyone decide to have just the one baby/child.. then go on to have another!? or more...

Im really un decisive.. I always said. Just one. No more.
My other half is dead on Just the one! he already has a 6 year old from previous relationship although I do say that's not my fault, then what if I would like another?!

anyway!.. My baby is now 7 months old and hes growing way to quick! .. ive asked other half to lock the door but atleast not throw away the key, as I cant deal with knowing that at 24 I will never have another child and it upsets me.
If we were to have another it would either be pretty soon or in 4-6 years time, although he's still saying no.

On the other hand, its hard work, I love my baby to bits, do I really want another? when I can give everything I have to my boy? would I really want 2 under 2? or start all over again in 4 years time?!..

please say im not alone in thinking this

 

[Lauren84]

You're not alone. I'm so undecided about having another. My lb is 16 months and he is my world but it's been hard work with some issues at the beginning etc I'm worried it'll be the same. I love being a mum and love the thought of another but I keep going back to how I was at the beginning. Arghhhh what to do??! Lol x

 

[MrsT2011]

You're not alone. B is 2 1/2 and I'm just starting to think I would like another, especially now he has interest in babies and he loves playing with other kids. I had no interest before but I think I'm ready now, B will get free nursery places September then start school next September so I think timing wise it's more practical for us to have a good 3 to 3 1/2 year gap x

 

[juliekim0908]

Difficult isn't it. We had milk issues etc too. it was so hard to begin with for about 6 weeks due to this, im sure a newborn isn't easy at the best of times anyway.

But we would then also have to look into getting a bigger house etc!.. it would be a bigger decision all together lol xx

 

[juliekim0908]

You're not alone. B is 2 1/2 and I'm just starting to think I would like another, especially now he has interest in babies and he loves playing with other kids. I had no interest before but I think I'm ready now, B will get free nursery places September then start school next September so I think timing wise it's more practical for us to have a good 3 to 3 1/2 year gap x

That's why we were thinking a 4 year gap, as LO would be in school and what ive noticed with having my step son over, it makes life easier! My little boy gets so excited and follows him everywhere x

 

[MrsT2011]

I think also when they're older it helps if they need to share a room as the older one understands more. Lots of people go on about having smaller gaps and there is positives to it but there's pros to bigger gaps as well. Do what works for your family, if you stick to just the one great but he won't miss out on anything if you have another, life may be different but I strongly believe you'll never regret having another but you may regret not having another child when it becomes too late so to speak xxx

 

[littlemonkey]

We always wanted more than one, then we had our son and both of us were saying never again! We had a hard time of it when he was younger, I had a c-section, difficult mental recovery from that and PND, while my son had awful reflux. It was a difficult time. When he got to a year we both started talking about it more and now I'm pregnant with number two! There will be a two year age gap.

It's one of those things, I think you know if you want another or not deep down. The advantage you have is you have age on your side, I'm ten years older than you, so we couldn't really afford to wait or have a big age gap. Personally I also knew if we left it until LO was 3-4, we would find it too hard to revert b to having a baby, but every one is different and friends of ours have a five year gap between their kids and it's working for them.

 

[Rooster30]

The same as little monkey here. We always wanted two, but our son was a very difficult baby. He had colic and broke all the baby rules. He hates baths, car journeys, sleep, eating and wanted to be held all the time. I got PND. We had planned before hand for a 22 month age gap, but when the time came I just couldn't put myself through TTC. I gave myself six more months as PND had finally done one and I was finally enjoying my son, so wanted to take advantage before TTC.

I'm so glad we took those six months to recover, relax and enjoy our son. We then TTC and I am now six months pregnant, due in April. There'll be a 29 month age gap between the two. It's going to be very hectic!