Just needed to get this off my chest

[MissyAK]

Hi All,

I took a pregnancy test about two hours ago and it came out positive. I'm terrified! This will be my second pregnancy and I'm really scared.

I haven't felt ready to start trying for a baby, both mentally and physically...
My father passed away at the beginning of April this year and that's been a huge blow to me, and I've been struggling to cope - I'm having counselling to help.

I'm hating work, it's been the worst year ever after returning from maternity leave and so I planned to leave at the end of July.

I just feel that with everything that's gone on, I just wasn't ready to think about having another baby and then the test came out positive.

I guess I just wanted to say this to you all because I'm not ready to tell my family just yet.

 

[Wednesday]

You've got options, lovely xxxx

How is your partner feeling about it? Xxx

 

[MissyAK]

Hiya,

He was pleased but I broke down... I just think, if I'm not ready now how will I be when the baby comes maybe I'm in panic mode but honestly, I feel like I'm broken

 

[Wednesday]

Bless you xxx

If you're sure you want to continue with the pregnancy then it'll all work out, it always does.

But you do have options, and it's your body and your choice.

Hope you're alright xxx

 

[candymycandy]

So Sorry to hear about your loss Missy. I cannot imagine how you're feeling but would suggest talking it through with your counsellor who will be able to help you get it all out of your head, it's always helpful to get objective guidance. I imagine you're in shock and this is all on top of everything else.

We can do the most amazing things.

xx

Wednesday just a reminder it's not permitted to discuss ending pregnancies on this forum. But I know you're just trying to help so please don't think I'm being off x

 

[JustTrying]

firstly very sorry for your loss. rip

secondly i know you've had a crappy year so far but please calm down before you make any decisions.

if all else fails just think about all the sweet little moments youve had with first baby and decide from there.

i think the counselling is a great idea and will give you perspective

best of luck

 

[Selina13]

Im so sorry about your dad and that you are feeling so sad right now.
I think how your are feeling is very normal. You do have lots of options with regards to support to work through how you are feeling. Do you feel you can see your doctor or even a midwife to discuss this and see what support is available locally? Xx

 

[MissyAK]

Hi All,

I've been to see my GP and told him about the pregnancy and that I've been feeling very bad cramps since finding out I was pregnant. I had to visit the A&E yesterday to confirm it's nothing serious.

The initial shock has subsided and I'm not panicking anymore. Just taking it one day at a time, especially as it's very early days.

 

[JustTrying]

Hi All,

I've been to see my GP and told him about the pregnancy and that I've been feeling very bad cramps since finding out I was pregnant. I had to visit the A&E yesterday to confirm it's nothing serious.

The initial shock has subsided and I'm not panicking anymore. Just taking it one day at a time, especially as it's very early days.

glad to hear.

take it easy xx

 

[Elspeth]

MissyAk, I think you are right to be honest about how you are feeling. Like others have said this is a normal reaction.
You will feel better with time.

I had an unplanned pregnancy 2 years ago. My daughter was only just a year old and I just did not feel ready. I felt really really guilty about not wanting the pregnancy. With my first pregnancy I felt so overjoyed and it was such a contrast feeling angry and trapped.
I'd also just started back at work and felt bad about going off again.

My feelings did change over time and I felt much better and realised that my family came first and everything else would work itself out.

(Sadly for me I MC at 11 weeks, that was a whole other emotional head trip).

You clearly have a lot to deal with, so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope you are doing ok.

Xx

 

[Wednesday]

Glad you are feeling a lot better xxx

 

[Loopylou1980]

Bless you hun, Your right being pregnant is scary thats perfectly normal to feel that way a lot of us do even the ones that look like they've got it all together they are scared too. You've had a lot on your plate by the sound of it, Things will get better.

If you ever want to chat drop me a message your not alone X

 

[Blank_Page]

I hope you're doing okay now you've had a bit of time for it to sink in. You do get priority for councilling when pregnant due to hormones, especially if you have previous history of therapy. I know its early for the booking appointment still but if you phone to book it tell them how you're feeling and ask if you can speak to your midwife earlier. Or your current therapist may be able to help you.

I know you don't feel ready but 9 months is quite some time, you may well feel quite differently in a few months

 

[MissyAK]

Hi All,

Just wanted to give an update. Unfortunately the pregnancy wasn't met to be...
Been a crap couple of weeks but I'm doing ok.

Thank you all for your replies, I really appreciate it x

 

[Loopylou1980]

Hi All,

Just wanted to give an update. Unfortunately the pregnancy wasn't met to be...
Been a crap couple of weeks but I'm doing ok.

Thank you all for your replies, I really appreciate it x

Hey, Thank you for the update i was wondering how you were, Sorry that the pregnancy wasn't meant to be, I hope that you are ok X