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[Heatherb]

Hi,

I am new here. I have a dd who was 4 in July, ds1 who was 3 in August, and ds2 who is nearly 17 months.

We were not planning on having any more children, but I haven't sorted out any form of long term contraception since having ds2, so we have just been using condoms.

Date of LMP was 4th September. On 18th September we had a bit of an accident where we didn't use a condom at all. I thought nothing of it, until I started to feel tired in the evenings, feeling the need to wee more often, eating like a horse.

I was due af on saturday, but as yet, have had nothing. My cycles have been a bit erratic since having ds2 - 27 days, 28 days, 26 days, 24 days, 26 days, 25 days. I am now on day 29 and no signs at all.

All weekend I have had a very strange feeling in my tummy, and often feel quite sick. I have also really gone off chocolate (not like me at all), and really crave savoury flavoured things, like crisps (never eat crisps, but did crave this when pg with dd).

I also developed thrush down below at the end of last week, and all the things I read say that it can be related to early pregnancy. I have never had it before.

I have ordered some cheap tests off ebay, but they won't arrive till tomorrow at the earliest.

Has anyone else only got thrush when they were pregnant?

Someone please tell me what is going on. I just want to know.

Thanks for reading.

Heather x

 

[Emma22]

hi heather, welcome to the forum
thrush was one of my first signs when i got my bfp last month. the only way you are going to know is to test, the only thing is that the ebay cheapies can be a bit unreliable at times(actually think thats if you test easy but dont think you are), it might be worth investing in a tesco or cb, think boots were doing a special on cb, also i used a first response and found that to be really good. good luck and hope you get the result your after, let us know how you get on x

 

[Penstraze]

Does sound quite possible that you are pregnant, how would you feel about it if you were? I hope you get the result you want soon!

 

[cassi]

Depends on the person, we cant really tell you whats going on because we are not you. I used to get thrush alot before i was PG and havnt had it while i have been PG, But alot of people get thrust during early pregnancy.

Sounds like you most likely are pg but you seem to have worked that one out for yourself...would it be a good thing or are you not sure?

Hope you get the result that you want.

Cassi

 

[Heatherb]

Thanks for your replies.

This really wasn't at all planned, but I think I will be really disappointed if it turns out that I am not pregnant. But on the other hand I will be really really relieved.

We bought a new car when we had ds2 so that we could fit in 3 carseats, and we have just had an extension finished so that they can all have a room each. Another baby would mean another new car, and squashing another child into our already small house.

I have always wanted 4 children, but dh only ever wanted 2, so we compromised with 3. Now though, it is going to be really hard if we are having another one. My dd only started school this september, ds1 doesn't go until next september, and ds2 will only be 2 when (if) this one is born.

I have lay away half the night wondering about it. I really love the thought of being pregnant again, and having another baby, it is just the practicalities of it that worry me. Both families will be really shocked, and I am sure very disappointed and disapproving. It will be hard not having their support, as they have been a lifeline whenever we have needed them to look after kids (we had 4 weddings this year that our kids weren't invited to).

Sorry for waffling, suppose I just needed to get that out!

Thanks again.

Roll on tomorrow, just hope that the test works properly and gives me a proper answer.

Heather x

 

[cassi]

Push aside the family then and think about yourself and you're family..if they are going to be dissaproving like that and immature like not inviting the children to weddings then dont even bother with them they are not worth it..sorry to be blunt but family are meant to be there for you not against you no matter what! So dont spend you're time worrying about them!

Dont be dissapointed if you are not PG because if maybe in a few years when the others are settled in school etc it might be easier to have another then?

At least then there will be no worries. But if you are PG then think of it as a gift and be happy and dont dwell on the problems it may cause.

Im a firm beilever in things happen for a reason.

Take care hope you get the result you want again..

cas

 

[Penstraze]

Thanks for your replies.

This really wasn't at all planned, but I think I will be really disappointed if it turns out that I am not pregnant. But on the other hand I will be really really relieved.

We bought a new car when we had ds2 so that we could fit in 3 carseats, and we have just had an extension finished so that they can all have a room each. Another baby would mean another new car, and squashing another child into our already small house.

I have always wanted 4 children, but dh only ever wanted 2, so we compromised with 3. Now though, it is going to be really hard if we are having another one. My dd only started school this september, ds1 doesn't go until next september, and ds2 will only be 2 when (if) this one is born.

I have lay away half the night wondering about it. I really love the thought of being pregnant again, and having another baby, it is just the practicalities of it that worry me. Both families will be really shocked, and I am sure very disappointed and disapproving. It will be hard not having their support, as they have been a lifeline whenever we have needed them to look after kids (we had 4 weddings this year that our kids weren't invited to).

Sorry for waffling, suppose I just needed to get that out!

Thanks again.

Roll on tomorrow, just hope that the test works properly and gives me a proper answer.

Heather x

I know exactly what you mean about being disapointed but relieved at the same time if you wernt pregnant, I recently thought I was pregnant and am disapointed now it looks very unlikely that I am, but the timing really wouldnt be good and practicality wise it is beter if Im not, as cassi says everything happens for a reason and even though it wouldnt be practical right now for me to be pregnant I know it would be ok if I, I think the best thing to do is whatever happens look on the plus side, if you are pregnant it is a blessing and all the problems will be worth it when you hold your lo in your arms, if your not pregnant then it wasnt ment to be and you can always try for another baby if you want one in the future when the practicalities arnt a problem.
Im sure your families will come round if you are pregnant , why would they be disaproving?
Good luck for tomorrow

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Just thought ide wish you good luck cant wait to find out!!
As for your family they should support you no matter what , im TTC again and i know alot of my aunts prob wont be happy cuz im young and while inthe hospital they said you should wait a few years before you have another but i just ignore them.
If your nto invited to something i know it must be real upsetting and hurtful for you could you mayeb tell them how you feel?
My dad raised us 3 kids on his own and was the same wasnt invited to alot of things cuz he had us.
Hope you get along okay
Katrina

 

[Heatherb]

Push aside the family then and think about yourself and you're family..if they are going to be dissaproving like that and immature like not inviting the children to weddings then dont even bother with them they are not worth it..sorry to be blunt but family are meant to be there for you not against you no matter what! So dont spend you're time worrying about them!

I think I have confused people here. It wasn't family weddings that the children weren't invited to. It was the family that looked after the children while we were at the weddings - this wouldn't have been possible if we had 4 children.

I am sure they will come round to the idea of 4, but I just think that they will look down on us and think we were a just a bit stupid.

No point worrying till we know I suppose.

Thanks

Heather x

 

[Heatherb]

Well my cheapy tests arrived but they didn't work properly. The first one, the wee didn't even reach test part of the strip, and the second one I ended up squeezing the end to get the wee to travel up. There was a very very very faint second line, but didn't trust that as I had foreced it.

So, been to tescos, and just done a tesco test - I thought the same thing was going to happen - I should have left it in a different room so I wouldn't look while waiting the 3-4 mins it suggests.

There is definitely a second line on this one. So I guess I am pregnant.

Just told dh and he is pleased, but I burst out crying on the phone. I think I am a bit scared. Mostly about what other people will think, and about the money issue. But I think on the whole I am pleased, especially as dh is taking it so well. He is of the opinion that it has happened for a reason.

Heather x

 

[Penstraze]

Hi hun, Congratulations!!! I agree with your DH it was obviously ment to be! It may be a struggle but all worth it im sure when you hold your baby in your arms!
Wishing you a healthy and happy 9months and hope your families take the news well (they may suprise you!)

 

[myst]

Hiya Heatherb,

Firstly congrats on your BFP !

Im expecting baby number 4 too - so kinda know how youre feeling.

This baby was planned but we never really thought it would happen so quickly [first month of trying !] We need to sell our car that we bought specifically so we could get the 3 girls in the back all in car seats lol before we bought that car we had a 7 seater ! but i hated it so we sold it....looks like we will need a 6 or 7 seater again!

Also our house isnt big enough but we cant afford to move - so we have decided on a garage conversion so we have an extra bedroom ! Its all a bit of a testing time but well worth it !

As for what ppl think...Ive had nothing but good responses both from friends and my parents ! When this baby is born my girls will be 7,5 and 3 so not too bad really.

Anyway best of luck - try not to worry what other ppl think - its what you are your partner think thats counts. A baby is the most precious gift any family can have.

Mysty

 

[cloud9]

Well Congratulations..

What you and your immediate family want is what matters..Take care

 

[ToriElla]

congratulatuions

 

[Emmylou]

Congratulations!

DH is right - everything does happen for a reason!

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Congrats hun thats wonderful everything does happen for a reason.
Katrina

 

[Emma22]

congratulations!