PeaPod
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The vomiting got worse last week and the nausea is constant still so my GP has just signed me off for another 2 weeks. Just told my team leader and she was just quiet and when i said sorry, she just said 'it's on of those things'. I sense that work are getting pee'd off with me for being off but I don't know what else to do!
Normally I'd get up at 6:30am to get to work for 8:30am and this includes a 45min - 1hour drive on roads that I can't safely pull over on if I need to puke. My job is basically to answer phones and make phone calls to arrange medication supplies for people but this is tough to do when a) I'm having trouble keeping breakfast down, b) feeling crap from not being able to eat to much in the morning, c) I can start retching at random smells which is not good if in the middle of a call and d) I start making silly paperwork errors as I get really tired after a few hours!
When I did return to work the week before last I found that by 2/ 3 ish I was exhausted and needed to get home before I fell asleep at my desk (again, another 45min or so drive back) - on my first day back I asked to talk to my boss so that I could explain that I needed to leave and she made me wait over an hour (I know I should have pushed the issue but I heard her and the team leader saying 'she'll just have to wait' and as it was my bosses first day back too I didn't know what else to do!)
Later that week my boss got really shitty with me because I had been doing something that she thought we had agreed I would not do (chase up prescriptions from one of my hospitals) - I had a very valid reason for what I had done but rather than letting me explain, she had to tell me first how angry and disappointed she was in me. When I then explained she did apologize and understood why I had taken the action that I had but I still feel that it was crap of her to bollock me first and then ask questions. It would have been a lot nicer if she had let me explain and then made her judgement.
Also, my boss told me a few weeks ago when I was off that they don't want me to come in if it means they are going to have to 'carry me'. I feel that there are plenty of other things I could be doing within the company to help (like data entry, etc) but my boss does not seem keen to look at alternatives and said that if I can't do my job then I shouldn't come in.
This whole things is making me feel like crap and I know that my work colleagues will be getting pissed off with me too. I'm getting depressed being at home on my own most of the time and when I do manage to get out the house for a few hours for a catch up with my mum or a friend I feel guilty. I do the occasional thing at a weekend like cinema or see other family but normally then end up spending the next day feeling exhausted and sleep all day. Even walking the dog for half hour knackers me out so I want to start to exercise more to build up my stamina but this is tough when i feel like im going to chuck all the time.
I want to sit and have a talk with my boss but last time I tried to approach an issue that had upset me via email (as I was still off) she sent me quite a short and abrupt email back telling me that it was inappropriate for me to be emailing her, to stop wasting her time and stop being hormonal.
I normally have a very good relationship with my boss but basically over the past 6 months I seem to irritate her and she doesn't do anything not to show it (although I'm sure if you ask her she will have been biting her tongue a lot).
I am thinking of going to our line manager possibly instead as she has always been very supportive and lovely but I think there is a danger this would make the situation with my boss worse rather than better as she will be upset/ annoyed that I haven't gone straight to her (and normally if I have an issue with someone I would go to them to talk about it!)
I just don't know what to do!!
Normally I'd get up at 6:30am to get to work for 8:30am and this includes a 45min - 1hour drive on roads that I can't safely pull over on if I need to puke. My job is basically to answer phones and make phone calls to arrange medication supplies for people but this is tough to do when a) I'm having trouble keeping breakfast down, b) feeling crap from not being able to eat to much in the morning, c) I can start retching at random smells which is not good if in the middle of a call and d) I start making silly paperwork errors as I get really tired after a few hours!
When I did return to work the week before last I found that by 2/ 3 ish I was exhausted and needed to get home before I fell asleep at my desk (again, another 45min or so drive back) - on my first day back I asked to talk to my boss so that I could explain that I needed to leave and she made me wait over an hour (I know I should have pushed the issue but I heard her and the team leader saying 'she'll just have to wait' and as it was my bosses first day back too I didn't know what else to do!)
Later that week my boss got really shitty with me because I had been doing something that she thought we had agreed I would not do (chase up prescriptions from one of my hospitals) - I had a very valid reason for what I had done but rather than letting me explain, she had to tell me first how angry and disappointed she was in me. When I then explained she did apologize and understood why I had taken the action that I had but I still feel that it was crap of her to bollock me first and then ask questions. It would have been a lot nicer if she had let me explain and then made her judgement.
Also, my boss told me a few weeks ago when I was off that they don't want me to come in if it means they are going to have to 'carry me'. I feel that there are plenty of other things I could be doing within the company to help (like data entry, etc) but my boss does not seem keen to look at alternatives and said that if I can't do my job then I shouldn't come in.
This whole things is making me feel like crap and I know that my work colleagues will be getting pissed off with me too. I'm getting depressed being at home on my own most of the time and when I do manage to get out the house for a few hours for a catch up with my mum or a friend I feel guilty. I do the occasional thing at a weekend like cinema or see other family but normally then end up spending the next day feeling exhausted and sleep all day. Even walking the dog for half hour knackers me out so I want to start to exercise more to build up my stamina but this is tough when i feel like im going to chuck all the time.
I want to sit and have a talk with my boss but last time I tried to approach an issue that had upset me via email (as I was still off) she sent me quite a short and abrupt email back telling me that it was inappropriate for me to be emailing her, to stop wasting her time and stop being hormonal.
I normally have a very good relationship with my boss but basically over the past 6 months I seem to irritate her and she doesn't do anything not to show it (although I'm sure if you ask her she will have been biting her tongue a lot).
I am thinking of going to our line manager possibly instead as she has always been very supportive and lovely but I think there is a danger this would make the situation with my boss worse rather than better as she will be upset/ annoyed that I haven't gone straight to her (and normally if I have an issue with someone I would go to them to talk about it!)
I just don't know what to do!!
u need to be resting and looking after you and baby as I said earlier. My boss is ok, but lately I've wanted to pull her hair and stamp on her head! I spent all day yesterday with my head down trying not to vomit or pass out from sore head. At lunch she asked Me if I intended getting bk to work at some point soon! I'd only had 35 mins of my 1 hour break! So I snapped back 'I don't get paid for my hour, so I'll sit here until it's over!' and that's what I did, cheeky cow. She tried to grovel later by making me a cup of tea but I'm too stubborn and ignored her! Maybe I'm being petty or maybe it's the hormones, or just maybe oases are put on he planet to upset us! They aren't human a he best of times. Because my boss sailed through her pregnancies (20 years ago, short memorie too) she has no sympathy. I'm fed up apologising for Boeing I'll. But as I pointed out the other day at least I'm there and do 110% of what's asked ofme. 
!)