it does not seem fair!

[Jadie]

hello, i have a baby in my arm so sorry for the bad english!

i just want a moan really!!

i am bf my 5 week old so only i can do the night feeds, i wasgetting up the other night for the 3rd time at one in the morning, when i noticed my oh was still up on thew computer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! argh!

i am really tired and he is up late messing around! we are in different rooms, he says the baby keeps him up!!!

but i really miss him been there, its like we just share a house at the minute! he wont sleep in my room cos he says oliver keeps him up, but he is up late any way!! its not fair!

he is starting to wringe about no bedroom action too!!! how dare he!!

any way, thats about it,he is wonderful at helping with everything else, i just really miss him!!

jadie

 

[Lucy]

Hi Jadie

My DH stayed in our spare room until Olivia woke less during the night, I'd say this was at about 7wks. Then he came back in as he could cope with getting woken up once during the night. Its lovely having him back in with me but awful having his alarm going off!

Lucy

 

[Hypnorm]

I offered to go into our spare bedroom when ewan was born so i didn't disturb hubby, but was told tp stay where i was, as we both decided to have the baby, we should still stay in the same bed, i did all the night feed as i was breastfeeding too.
but i think your hubby is being unfair by staying up till late then complaining he is getting distrurbed. after all you are supposed to be a family and deal with things together - including disturbed nights.
And as for no bedroom action - how dare he..obviously he doesn't seem to understand what you have been through mentally and physically, and you will hardly have healed properly yet.
Men really make me mad sometimes!!

 

[Jadie]

hiya, I dont expect him to stay with me every night, it just the weekends I want him with me!!

He is working away this week, it may make him see how much he is missing me!!

He stays up so late that oliver would only wake him up the once any way!

Oliver is a good sleeper at night! Hope fully he will stay that way!!!

I wanted a baby more than he did, it was part of the deal when we got back together, that we would have kids, he always said he did not want them. we had been seperated for a few months but got together again!

oliver came along a bit quicker than we expected, about 4 weeks of using no protection. So sometimes I feel guilty that we have Oliver, so dont really expct him to help much, I know I shoulnt feel like this! I know it takes two to tango, and make babies!!!!!!

I feel mean complaining now because he does help a great deal!!! I
t just helps to write things down sometimes!!

Jadie

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

sorry your feeling like this i understand how you would miss him my bf and i cannot sleep if we arent in the same bed , guess its habit.
Dont feel guilty at all look at the wonderful baby you guys made and altough it was soon, he is both of your responsibility i hope you guys work it all out .
Take care.. i hope this all made sense
Katrina