is this right?

[Dolly_R]

My OH decided that if we fall pregnant again we wont tell anyone incase anything happens untill we are 12 weeeks gone

is this right or would you tell people so they were ther for you if anytihng happened

 

[trigger]

My husband feels exactly the same however I think that I would want at least some people to know so will probably tell my family, his family and our best friends only, if heaven forbid anything did happen I would hate it if no one knew and me and DH had to deal with it alone, its good to have support.
The last time we kinda told everyone we bumped into..

 

[Dolly_R]

we were the same, im rubbish at keeping things to myself thought i would probably just scream it to the world again lol

 

[Lianatoot]

Im the same, I cant keep anything in...but we have had the same discussion, were telling noone next time other than close friends and family.

 

[Dolly_R]

at least im not the only one

i have warmed tot he idea but we aare buying tape for my mouth just uincase lol

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,

I've been really reserved about telling people this time after the previous m/c. Only my partner, Mum and a good friend knew before I was 12 weeks - I would have found it too difficult to tell many people that I'd lost my baby.

7 months on from the m/c I can talk about it much easier, and have even recently told more friends and family that it happened but I've had to do it all in my own time. Oddly enough, one thing I didn't want when I miscarried was sympathy - when I think back I think I was pretty angry and blamed myself, maybe I didn't think I was worthy of it, not sure.

Anyway, I think it's really a very personal decision and you should do what you feel comfortable with. If your OH doesn't want to tell anyone perhaps you could come to a compromise where you just tell a few family and very close friends. All the best.

 

[MissSara]

After my MC, i felt that with this pregnancy i had to tel people because i couldn't bare going through it all again, only i would have been alone as i wouldn't have told anyone.
So yes we ummmm'd and ahhhh'd over it for a few days but in the end we couldn't keep shut because i needed people to know, especially as i was more scared that things were going to go wrong, i had peoples reassurance that everything was fine.
I guess its each to their own and what they would feel comfortable with.

 

[CharlieOne]

After my MC last year, when we do try again and if i discover im pregant im going to keep it quiet until i know everything is right, healthy, normal you know, last time i was so excited everyone knew i was pregant then i had to turn round and tell the same people i had, had a MC i couldnt face that again....