Is this normal?

[hollywood1989]

Hello everyone,

I'm new to the forum. I've been looking online for support over the last few months and every bit of info I find is very wishy-washy.

To cut a long story short, my fiance and I have been trying for a baby for ten months now. I'm 22 and he is 23. We're both in good health (non-smokers, very little alcohol etc).

I had the implant removed in Febuary this year, and since then my periods have been as regular as clockwork. But still no sign of pregnancy, I've not even been more than a day late.

What I'd like your opinion on (you guys seem like a friendly bunch!) is - is this a normal time (ten months). I know there's only a twenty five percent chance of concieving each month and I have tried to work out when I ovulate and plan sex around this time. But I didn't expect it to take this long, especially as it seems to come so easily to everyone else (some of you may know what I mean...!)

If anyone can offer an opinion on this, I'd be most grateful.

Emilia.

 

[leesey]

I'd suggest you watch The Great Sperm Race on 4OD. It totally opens your eyes up to the challenge faced every month, and kind of puts the whole ttc thing into perspective!!
At your age you're not considered for fertility problems unless you've been trying for 2 years with most health boards, but if you're worried talk to your GP, you never know they might have some advice for you xx

 

[leesey]

On a more positive note btw, there are things you can do to pinpoint ovulation more accurately, such as opks and temping, if you want any advice on these just ask the ladies here! xx

 

[Poppy1987]

Hiya. I came off the pill in may and have been ttc since then, I am 24 and my hubby is 25 and we are both healthy but have not yet conceived. It is upsetting to think its taking a while but I guess the time will come and I wouldn't start worrying yet. Good luck!x

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[beckyboo1]

Everyone is different and there is no 'normal' time it takes.

I came off pill last October and waited til august to get my bfp. Other people I know came off and fell pretty much immediately.

Having been on here for a while you get to see some people who have taken years to get pregnant but have still got there xx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Hi there, can't really help you with whats normal or whats not but a friend of mine lost a baby about 3 years ago and obviously was eager to catch another. She didnt do any charts or focus on it too much because it would have taken over her life, but she stopped using protection and you could see it upset her that she wasnt pregnant.

Anyway after 14 months of trying, she finally fell pregnant and now has the most beautiful little boy

Hold the faith, it will probably happen for you naturally but you are still young and if there IS a problem there is lots they can do to help xx

 

[hollywood1989]

Thank you everyone for your kind comments and thoughts.

I keep trying not to worry, but as each month goes by it just feels so much more difficult to stay positive. My job involves meeting pregnant women sometimes, and to see women who don't seem to care about their pregnancy or those who don't even have to try to concieve - it just 'happens' - is so frustrating. Just today I was on the verge of tears after I saw an 18 year old who was 30 weeks pregnant. To hear her complaining about every ache, pain and twinge just made me want to scream! She doesn't know how LUCKY she is!
I had to stop myself telling her to enjoy every moment, because she was so lucky to even have a chance to be a mother.

I don't know if anyone else feels like this sometimes? Obviously there are better moments than this but today has just been a particularly rough day I guess. Does anyone else feel jealous over those ladies who seem to fall pregnant so quickly and effortlessly? Everywhere I go, all I see and hear is babies, babies, babies. I think about this every single day!!!

Sorry about the mini rant, like I said, its just been a tough day.

Thank you once again for everyones comments, they are much appreciated.

Emilia.

 

[ceebee]

Hi - I'm a Newbie to this forum too I know what you mean about feeling jealous about other people who are pregnant or have kids - it just seems every time I look at facebook someone else I know is pregnant or has just given birth! We've been trying for 4 months now, but i'm worried as i'm 33 and my husband is 41, so it could make things even more complicated... I've just started trying OPKs but haven't had great success with it this month, so not sure if i've even ovulated, which is worrying. My GP told me I should try and BD throughout the month, not just around the time of ovulation, so I think if we're not successful this month, we will try and BD every 3 days throughout the month - could be tiring, but i'm willing to try anything. I think about it all the time, like you.... Anyway, hope this is a bit helpful - good luck!!

Claire

 

[Star33]

Hiya hun. It is normal sadley. They say it can take a healthy couple up to 12mths but IF your not pg by 12mths then consider getting some help from your gp such as clomid or somthing.

You can however & i think cause its been 10mths it might be worth going along & requesting these done from your gp. (Fsh, Lh, Progesterone, Estrogen) bloods, & maybe see if he can arrange a sperm sample for your partner.

It will be good for you to know if these are normal, that way you know this 10mths is not because there is a problem ( if that makes sence )

Goodluck.
xx

 

[hollywood1989]

Hello star and ceebee,

I've decided I'm going to wait til the new year to go to the doctors if I'm not pregnant by then. Like I said, my implant was removed early Feb and I'm almost 23. I will ask about fertility drugs when I go as well, I don't know much about them so best get on with some research!!!

Thanks to you both for your comments, best of luck to both of you too.

 

[Tanya4beauty]

Hi hollywood1989! I have been ttc sinc jan with no luck so I now how you feel. It really is different for everyone, one of my friends only does it once and gets pg and another of mine took 14 months to get pg. it's not fair but we will get there eventually!
Weve just had a sperm test done on my oh which all came back good so I'm giving it another 6 months til I go back again. It doesn't hurt to go to your doc even just for some reassurance. I felt so much better after and feel more positive now i Know the spermies are ok!!! Lol

Good luck hunny x

 

[ceebee]

I really feel for you as it's horrible not knowing what's going on in your body. I think it might be worth going to your GP for reassurance like Tanya4beauty said.... Good luck and keep us posted x