Is this normal for breast feeding?

[littlemiss83]

I see why your annoyed! U need to do whats best for you & if you cant make it to OH's family's house then u cant make it - end of. Its still early days. Would your OH be able to take her over to his mums by himself just for maybe 2 hours between feeds & he can come straight home if he thinks she needs a feed sooner? Or could you express (is it too early to express...i cant remember) & he could feed her at ur mums. Ppl are so demanding with babies, everyone wants a shot. I think its coz u blink & before u know it they're starting school.

When I BF'd my eldest I couldn't accept much help coz she was feeding constant but eventually I knew when she'd want it & my granpa arranged 2 come over one day & take her for a walk, he walked her in her buggy for almost 3 hours between feeds & it was great to do nothing & get a break. He had to travel for around an hour and a half to get here as well, & then the same back again.

 

[Jayceesmumma]

That's so sweet he done that!
Tbh I have some separation issues OH knows about and if I get pushed into something I won't be comfortable with it.. I wouldn't be ok with OH taking her to his mums alone.. He isn't confident holding her properly yet and I don't know his family well.. They are too laid back for my liking whereas my family are very safety conscious as I am.. When his mum was looking after my girls while I was in hospital she let Jaycee cross the road on her own.. It's a blind spot road and people speed down there sometimes.. Not a big deal to most but to me she should hold someone's hand still as shes not really aware of her surroundings and not street wise.. I'm over protective I know, but she knew I didn't let her do that and she done it anyway.. It's principle.. She also was gonna take the girls to get ears pierced.. If I wanted it done id take them myself..!

 

[littlemiss83]

Awww I see what you mean chick, esp about the ear piercing thing, thats terrible. My granpa that I was talking about, would you believe he never holds a baby either, I had to put her in & take her out the pram lool he just will not hold a baby - OH's best friend is the same he just wont do it thro fear & has had 1 of his own. My OH is ok holding LO but he's really not confident about being left alone, think its incase something happens, longest he's been is 2 hours. He says things like...but what if he's hungry, or what if he cries lool

Got my works xmas night out in a cpl weeks & he knows its gonna be a good few hours. Wonder how long it will be before I get a phone call...might not have a signal tho...

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Aww I'm sure he will be fine!! My OH had never held a baby before he's done really well but he's also 'cack-handed' so finds it hard to manouvre her etc and gets scared bless him!! I'd rather an over cautious OH than over confident!!

R u looking forward to ur night out??xx

 

[inky]

God, yor inlaws sounds like a nightmare Jayceesmumma, you're doing right just sticking to your guns, if you have to tell them to fk off then so be it, baby comes first! Well done with the bf'ing x

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Thanks babe! When I was 8w preg she asked him if she was gonna have baby overnight and bought herself a travel cot!! I don't think so love!!!

You've been bf for a long time well done!! I can't believe how against bf his family are!! I'm more determined to keep it up so they can't have her tbh!!! Perfect excuse!!! OH thinks 3months is enough for bf... Can't believe I've been made to feel guilty for bf.. His nans comments really pissed me off!! My family are big on bf and very supportive!

 

[knopk@]

Stick to your guns hun, dont let them bully you into anything.

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Thanks hun.. Hate that they are thinking of themselves rather than lilyanna xx
And the fact id be 10x more shattered bottle feeding her!

 

[Sarah13]

Can't believe your OH family so against bf! But it's natural! I wud be same and be even more determine to bf just to annoy them! I want to bf until he's weaned, why suddenly change if its working before then! I wouldn't leave Kynon with anyone over night not for a long time, then it would prob only be my mum so totally know where your coming from there. Hate even popping to tesco and leaving him with hubby incase he crys or needs feeding and Kynons 2 months now!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Thanks babe I'm glad I'm not the only one like this!! She keeps going on about how her sister had her youngest at such a young age, 3weeks old from fri to sun nite and stuff.. And other people have left their few weeks old babies with her etc etc... I don't care u ain't having mine lol!! I'd be more comfortable with my mum looking after her at a few months old.. Don't know why we have more confidence in our own mothers.. I've only known this family for a year so that doesn't help! I'm sure she would be well looked after coz they are a lovely family and it's their first grandchild but I'm not comfortable with it yet and won't be for a long time.. But their taking offense to it.. She said to me Friday that she thought she would be a nanny like her mum was.. Proper harsh that really upset me! Defo gonna bf as long as I can! Feel so proud of myself that I've been able to do it this time round!!

 

[Sarah13]

Maybe in a good few months you might feel more comfortable about it and fancy a good night out or some couple time. You can always start by short stays then work up to a full night. Shes still a proper nanny and when shes older she prob always want to be there to be spoilt, plenty of time after all!

Sometimes it seems like motherhood is a weird competition like who can offload their baby the quickest, who's had the quickest recovery, who can fit into their jeans etc etc instead of just sitting back and relaxing and enjoying this precious time getting to know your baby, we all know how quick they grow up! It doesn't really help when you get pressure from family to 'conform'

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Thanks babe I totally agree!! They don't stay babies long and I want to enjoy this time with her and bf as she may be my last.. Docs couldn't understand how I managed to conceive and called her my 'last chance'.. If that's true I want to savor every moment.. Also allowing others to enjoy her too I've never had a partner to help and share this with or an active family wanting to take them out for the day etc.. My family always made me feel guilty for asking them to babysit even though id put them to bed at mums and get up for them in the morning..
I'm sure I'll be fine with it all soon just can't be forced into it or I'll never be okay with it!

 

[frankie707]

Can't believe your MIL and his family. bf is the best nutrition your LO can have and you're doing so well. I dont know why people seem so anxious to have baby away from his/her mummy so early! I didnt leave G for more than an hour or so until he was almost 7 months old - he was demand fed so I needed to be near to feed him and no-one else can settle and reassure a LO like a mummy. I say stick to your guns and tell your OH that the more his mum pushes the more you're going to back away.

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Thanks hun I agree! I've told him even before baby was born I need to do things at my own pace I've been a single mum for seven years and my mum only just started having the girls overnight at 7 and 4! I'm not used to handing my baby over! And noone should be forced into that! At least my family fully support my bfing!

 

[Alexandra84]

Thanks babe I'll have a look
Yeah she goes 4-5hrs at night but 2-3hrs in the day x

Just thought I'd say that that sounds exactly like my LO. My breasts don't feel very full either but she's feeding and gaining weight really well so she must be getting something out of there lol.

Also, don't worry if sometimes she seems really hungry and you start feeding her more often than usual, it'll settle down after a few days. She'll be gearing up for a growth spurt and suckling more is their way of increasing the milk supply (it doesn't mean you haven't got enough milk). Well done for sticking to it and don't let anyone put you off!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

Thanks hun having some probs again as I've now got thrush in both breasts incredibly painful

 

[Alexandra84]

Poor you, that doesn't sound fun at all! I think my Lo has thrush as well but it hasn't spread to me. I'm a bit of a weird person though, thrush doesn't seem to affect me like it does other people (I seem to be a carrier of it or something as I don't really get any serious symptoms like itchiness or pain).

So I have a feeling that even though she's been treated for it twice already, she gets re-infected from me. Silly doctors, there they are telling me that if I have no symptoms then I don't need treatment too...

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I've read (I know it's bad to google lol) that even if u or baby have no symptoms if one of u have it the other must be treated! I'm in agony with my right one my left isn't so bad now but I just fed her and cried from my right and had to put her on left.. I can't just feed from left for a few days can I?? I was considering a bottle if left was bad but thank god it's okay for now!! Why can't things be simple??

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I'm gonna go pharmacy tomo see if I can get her something there if not I'm seeing a different doctor!!

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

The best way I have had it described to. E is that your milk is like a milkshake, they do long thick sucks to get to the creamy milk at the back (like sucking a milkshake thrugh a straw) and can be on for hours fillng up, which is why it seems like they aren't taking much in...